挽回爱情须知：为什么分手后会更爱他？

 henduorendouhuiyouzheiyangdeganqingjingli，zaiyiqideshihoubudongdezhenxi，zhidaofenshoulecaizhidaohouhui。weishenmerenhuiyouzheiyangdexintaini？weishenmefenshouhoufanerhuigengaiduifangni？ruguonixiang wanhui zheiduanganqing，neimeyoubiyaolejieyixiafenshouhoudexintaibianhua。

wanhuiaiqingxuzhi：weishenmefenshouhouhuigengaita？

01爱情也是一种持续的刺激，习惯后便感受不到。

 xintaixuejiazuoguozheiyangyigeshiyan：rangrenchixutingyizhongshengyin，guancharendenaodianbo，faxiansuizheshijiandetuiyi，renduizheizhongshengyincijidefanyingyuelaiyueruo，naodianbodeqifuyuelaiyuexiao，ermengranshishengyintingzhihuozhehuanlingwaiyizhongshengyinlaiciji，rendenaodianbojiuhuichanshengjuliedefanying。

 womendoucengjingyouzheiyangdeganjue：dangzhouweiyouchixudezaoyinshi，tongchangwomenshiganshoubudaode，erzaoyinjiaranerzhishi，womencainengganjuedaoganggangyouzaoyinzaisaorao。zheijiushituranbianhuadewaijiecijiduirennaodianboyingxiangdezuozheng。

 aiqingqishiyeshiyizhongchixudeciji。renzhangshijiandechenjinqizhong，jiuhuiduiqishierbujian、chongerbuwen。dangzheizhongcijiturantingzhi，yejiushilianrenturantichufenshoudeshihou，caihuiganjuedaoqiangliedebushiying。zheigeshihou，jiuhuiyouyixiliedeqiangliefanying，shenzhizuochuguojixingwei。

02突然失去“自我中心”的感觉会使人心态失衡。

 renyurenzhijiandexianghuzuoyong、xianghuyingxiangnenggoucushirenxingchengmouzhongxintai。dangbierenchixubiaoxianchuaimu，beizhuiqiuderenjiuhuixingcheng“ziwozhongxin”dexintaizhuangtai，ganjuezijifeichangchuse，jianzhijiushirenjianrenai，wubizixin。

 zheizhongxintaizhuangtaihuishirentaozuiqizhong，feichangkuaile，jiuerjiuzhizheizhongxintaizhuangtaihuifeichangwanshan，burongbeidapo。danglianrenturanlikai，weichizheizhongzixindehuanjingjiubeidapo，renhuiganjuezijiyixiazibiandeyiqianbuzhi。weilewanhuiyiqianweichizixindehuanjing，renhuixiangjinyiqiebanfa，shenzhihuiquzishang、shangren。

 zailianaizhong，lianaishuangfangzongshibeiduifangguanxin、zhaoguhechongaide。jieyongyijuguwen：“youjianrusheyi，yousherujiannan。”dangrenchuyuyigeshishibeiguanxinzhaogudehuanjingzhong，huiganjuehenshufu，danxiguanyuzheizhongshufuzhihou，jiuhuijuedeshilisuoyingdangde，yeganshoubudaoshenmeteshudekuaile，yidanshiqu，jiuhuifeichangbushiying，juedetiandouyaotaxialaile。

03失恋引发的痛苦使人觉得自己更加需要对方。

 meiguojiazhoudaxuedeshehuixuejiacengdui114geshilianderenjinxingpinggu，faxiandayueyou40%derenshulinchuangtongkuzheng，zheiqizhong，12%derenhuanzhongduhuozhongdutongku。tongkuhuishirenwujingdacai，duizhouweideyiqiedoumeiyouxingqu，zhichenjinzaidaozhizijitongkudeneijianshiqingzhongbunengziba。

 zheijiushishiliandeyifanggenbenwufabajinglizhuanyidaoqitadeshiqingshang。tamenhuijuedegongzuo、xuexi、shenghuoyiqiedoubuzhongyao，zhiyoubashiqudelianrenzhongxinzhaohuilaicaishizuizhongyaode。

 chuyutongkuzhuangtaiderenyouyuyijingbazijijinguzaizijideshijiezhong，huibiandefeichangguzhi，yidanrendingmoujianshiqing，hennanbeigaibian。youyushilianertongkuderenhuiguzhidirangzijifanfukaolvzheijianshiqing，rendingzijiyaobaituotongku，weiyidechulujiushishilianrenhuixinzhuanyi。aiqingjiuzheiyangzaitamendexinlibiandeyuelaiyueqianglie

04“挫折吸引力”这一心态规律使失恋后的人觉得更爱对方。

 shiliandetongkushirenzaijinhuaxingguochengzhongxingchengdeyizhongfanying。xintaixuejiabashilianfenweilianggejieduan：diyijieduanshi“kangyi”，dierjieduanshi“fangqi、juewang”。

 zaikangyijieduan，beiyiqideyifangweilerangduifanghuixinzhuanyi，huikusimingxiangzijijiujingzuocuoleshenme，zenyangcainengzhongxinshiduifangaishangziji。tamenyoushihuichuqibuyidichuxianzailianrendejiazhonghuogongzuochangsuo，ranhoupaoxiaoerqu；tamenbutingdidadianhua、fadianziyoujianhexiexin，yizaidibaifangliangrengongtongdepengyou……

 suizhezheixiexingweideyuyanyulie，beipaoqideyifangduiduifangdeaiqingbujinbuhuijianruo，fanerbuduandijiaqiang。zheizhongxianxiangbeichengweicuozhexiyinli，yisishidangaiqingshoudaozuaishi，beiyiqizheduilianrenfaneraidegengshenle。

 zheiyangqiguaidexingweishiyoushenglixuejichude。jingshenbingxuejiarenwei，zheiyuduobaanyouguan。duobaanshiyizhongkongzhijirouyundong、bingrangrenchanshengmanzugandehuaxuewuzhi。zailianaiganggangkaishishi，chanshengduobaandexitongbeijihuo。zaikangyijieduan，duobaandehuodongyezengjia，shidezaodaojujuedelianrenganjuedaogengweiqiangliedejiqing。