花镇情感专家：夫妻关系比亲子关系更为重要

　　hunwaiqingfenshouhouguanxizenmeweichi，zaihunwaiqingfenshouhou，baochiguanxishiyigefuzaernandewenti。bicibixumianduiguoqudeshangtong，jianliqiyigexinderentonghejiaoliufangshi。yichengxiangdai、bicizunzhonghebaorongshizhongyao。yucitongshi，jiduifangyidingdeshijianhekongjianquzhiyu，zhongxinsikaozishendexuqiuhesixiang。jianliqingchudebianjieheguiding，fangzhixianghuzhijianganyuhejiechuminganqu。baochidanchunyouyikenengshiyigegengheshidexuanze，rangshuangfangcongguowangdeaiqingzhongjiefangchulai，weiweilaifazhanliuyouyipianguangkuodetiankong。hunwaiqingfenshouhou，baochiguanxixuyaoshuangfangchengzhidenulihelejie，zhiyouruci，kenenghaiyoujiyufujianqiyigexindeguanxi。

　　建立一个新的认同和交流方式

　　hunwaiqingfenshouhouguanxizenmeweichi，hunwaiqingfenshouhou，baochiguanxidezhongyaorenwushizaicijianliqibicizhijiandexinrenhejiaoliu。zheiduishanghaipanbiandeshuangfangeryanjuefeiyishi，danmeirentongheyouxiaodegoutong，guanxiwufazaijixufazhanqushi。bicibixuyichengxiangdai，yonggandemianduicongqiandecuowusunhai，gongtongfendoutanxunjiejuewentifangshi。

　　zaizhongjianxinrenhuanjiezhong，zhenchengdedaoqianhekuanrongzhiguanzhongyao。sunhaiyifangyingdangzhenxinshiyihuigaibingzhenchengjiduifangzhiqian，tongshihaixuyaojiyubeishanghaifangchongzudeshijianhekongjianlaijieshoudaoqianbingkaishihuifu。beishanghaiyifangyaokuanyidairenyukuanrong，buhuizaimaiyuanyiwangdekuchu，dulisikaoweilaidefazhanqushi。

　　彼此之间给与时间和空间

　　fenshouhoudeguanxifujianxuyaoyiduanshijianlaizhiyuhediaozhengqingxu。biciyingdangjiduifangchongzudeshijianhekongjian，rangshuangfanghaiyoujihuizhongxinsikaozishenheguanxizhongcunzaidewenti。zheiyiduanshijiankeyongyufansiguoqucuowuhezhengtuo，shenshizijizhenzhengdexuqiuhesixiang。

　　fujianguanxideguochengdangzhong，bushihejigongjinlihuoposhitagenggai。meigerendouyinggaitaguoziyideyuzhongbutongdezhiyuquanguocheng，ranhouzhaodaoneixindepinghenghexingfukuaile。zhiyouzaibicidouyouleyidingdechengzhangyudiaozhenghou，caikeyiyongyougengjianshijichulaigoujianxindeguanxi。

　　建立清楚的边界和规定

　　weilebaochifenshouhoudeguanxi，bicibixujianliqingchudebianjieheguiding，fangzhixianghuzhijianganyuhejiechuminganqu。zhuyaobaokuoyaoqiuduifangliulancishuhefangfa，baochiyidingdejuli，fangzhixianghuyicunheshenrudejiaowang。yucitongshi，yaobimianxianliaoyiwangdeshangtong，yifangzhongxindianranzhengchaohemaodun。

　　bicihaikeyitantaochulifenshouhouhenyoukenengcunzaideyixiewenti，rufuqigongtongcaichan、fuyanghaizideng。tongguotanpanhetuoxie，zhidinggongpinghelidexieyishu，bimianyinliyijiufencongeryinfaxindemaodunhejiufenanjian。zaizheigejichushang，jinyibubaochibicizunzhongheyoushandeguanxi。

　　单纯友谊的挑选

　　baochifenshouhoudeguanxibingbuyidingyiweizhefujianganqingguanxi，youshitiaoxuandanchundeyouyihenyoukenengbijiaoheshi。zheiyangkeyibimianyuanlaiqingganshangdeduoyuanxing，rangshuangfangcongduiaiqingdeyikaozhongjiefangchulai，congergenghaodimianduiweilaidefazhanqushi。

　　danchunyouyidexuanzexuyaoshuangfangkeyijieshou，erqieyougongtongdequanyi、jiazhiguannianzongtimubiao。zaizheizhongguanxizhong，shuangfangkeyixianghufuchiheguanai，jianliqijiaohaodeyouyijiben。wulunshixuanzefujianganqingguanxihaishichuncuideyouyi，douxuyaoshuangfangshenzhongkaolv、bicishangyi，baozhengxuanzefuhebicizhijiandeshijixuqiuyuqingganshiji。

　　hunwaiqingfenshouhouguanxizenmeweichi，baochihunwaiqingfenshouhoudeguanxixuyaoshuangfanggongtongfendouyulijie，buguanzuihouxuandeshifujianganqingguanxihaishichuncuideyouyi。genjujianliyigexinderentonghejiaoliufangshi、jiyubicizhijianshijianhekongjian、jianliqingchudebianjieheguiding，jiqishidangdetiaoxuanfujianguanxihuodanchunyouyi，nenggouweiweilaifazhanjieshuixingzhou。jinyoushuangfangzhenxinyuanyi，caikenengzaifenshouyinmaizhongzhongxinzhaodaorichangshenghuoyangguang。