为什么不能谈异地恋？还是你不敢谈？

yidilianweishenmeshibaideneimerongyi，weishenmebunengyidilian？jirannan，rongyishibai，quehaiyourenzaijianchi。zhendezhideshensi

一、异地恋为什么失败？

1、缺少交流

 yidilianweishenmeshilian？yinweiquefajiaoliu。yidiliandequefajiaoliu，yifangmianshiyinweibiaodazhangai，duanxintingbudaoyuqi，dianhuakanbudaobiaoqing。qishiwomeishengqi，nidangzhenle；wozaixiaoni，nikanbudaoba；wokuleni，baozheshoujikujuanleshuiguoyouxingle，niquehaishizaimang。zheiyangdeqingkuangxiangxinshihenduoyidilianqinglvdechangshi。lingyifangmiandequefajiaoliushiyinweigongtonghuatidejianshao，ruguolianggerenzaiyiqi，lianggerendejiaowangquanhuirongweigongtongdequanzi，huatiyongyuandouzaigengxin。erbuzaiyiqidelianggeren，duibicishenbiandehuanjingdouhuiyinmoshengerzhujianshiquxingqu，manmande，nengshuodehuazhiyoukongdongde“woxiangni”。

2、shentihexinlingdeguji

 yidilianweishenmeshibai？yinweirendoushigudude，zheizhonggudubuguangshixintaishangde，yeshishentishangde。yidiliandepengyoukendingyouguozheizhongganjue，turanhenxiangzhaogerenqingsu，huozhezhaogeyikao，shenzhiyoushihouxiangzhaogerenyongbaoyixiadeshihou，nizuiqinaiderenquebuzainishenbian，zhengshiyinweizheiyangzhangqideyayidebudaoshuhuanjiuhuirangrensangshilizhi，zuizhongzouxiangfenshoudedibu。

 erqiexianzaishehuiyouhuotaiduo，ganqingkongxuzhixia，nanmianhuizhaobiedefangshixunqiuweijie，henduorenhuiquaixilouyeshiyinweizheigeyuanyin。shangmiandenvshengyedaduoshiquxunzhaoanweide，gengduodenanshiyeshiyinweikongxuerqu，zhiyaomaidongzuanshiwanggong，tongguoqiangqindefangshibicijieshi，lianggechujingyiyangderenziranhuiyouhenduodehuakeliao，qingtouyihezhishi，xianxiajianmianjiubuzuweiqile。

3、缺乏安全感

 yidilianweishenmeshibai？yinweijulihuichanshengwuhui，dabufendeyidinannvchaojiashengqidoushiyuanziyixiekeyibimiandeshiqing，yejiushiwuhui。bushiganqingbujianding，zaiyiqideshihoukeyianwendezouxiaqu，fenkailezhihouhaipashiqu、kanbudaoduifang、zijihuluandecaicehuirangbenlaimeihaodeyiduanganqingzangsong。

 yidilianshitongkude，paokaibicidexiangnianbushuo，zuirangzheixienannvshoujinzhemodejiushizheibujingyijianchanshengdewuhui，yinweiyijuhuashitazaiyile，huozheshitalianxiangdaobiededifangle，ertongchangzheishihousixiangdoushiwanghuaidefangxiangqianjin，yushitashangxinleyushilianggerenxinqingdoudiluole。

4、不想牺牲

 weishenmebunengyidilian？yinweirongyishibaixiangjieshuyidiliandebanfazhiyouyige，qizhongyifangzuochurangbudaoduifangdechengshiqugongzuo。danshizaiyigedifangdaijiulezongshiyouganqingde，erqiedouyougezidepengyou，nixuanzedaoyigexindedifang，yiqiejiuyaocongtoukaishi。ruguo，shuangfangdoubuyuanyiweileaizuochuxishengdehua，neilianggerenweiyoufenshoushouchangle。

5、时间、金钱成本

 weishenmebunengyidilian？yinweirongyishibai。youjuhuazongjiedehao，yidilianjiushifeiqianfeishifeiliuliang。youyuzhangqibuzaiduifangshenbian，nixuyaogengduodeshijianheduifangweixiganqing，keshirendejinglibijingyouxian，goutongganqingdetongshi，nihaixuyaoyingduigongzuo、xuexideyali，gangfenkaideshihou，nimenhuijingchangliaodianhua，erqiehuiliaohenjiu，keshiguoleyiduanshijian，nihuifaxianliaodianhuadecishuhemeiciliaotiandeshijianhuimanmandijianshao。

 neimeyidilianneimerongyishibai，renweishenmeyaoyidilian？dagaishiyinweibicidoufangbudibicile，taibicilesuoyishebude。yidilianneimeku，renweishenmeyaoyidilian？yinweidagaitamenbicidouxiangxinduifang，xiangxintanenghetanengchuangzaochuyigemeihaodeweilai