花镇咨询投诉，七种会让自己心碎的错误

 nianqingdeshihou，tingguoyishoulidudege《weiaifanlezui》：“wolaiaifanshi，chengbenshiwodelei。huazhenzixuntousu，jiebushangxiangnian，duanbushangfuwei，benlaiyiweichuanleshiwojinijiyurangwoxinsui……”

 yishengzhiaiyicishixingfude，beijudeshi，zheixiebeiganqingsunhailededajia，quezhongjiubujinaiyici。yinci ，ruguonihaibuyuanbaguoduodeshijianhuazaifenshouhoudezhibingshang，neimaniyejiugaisikaoyixia，shifouzaiganqingzheiyiweixiandeyouxili，yiqianweileaiduizishenfanle“zui”。

■第一宗自取其辱的宽容

kuanrongjiuxiangniqianbaolidehuangjin，meiyicidejiyudouyingdangyouliyouju，buranbianbianchengyizhonghaowuyongchudexiaohao。

 taxiaizaiwanshangyuepenyoupaojiubayinjiu，jingchangyaoguoquleshenyecaihuijiale，tazongshishuo：“xiayiciliuyi，xiayicijinzao。”niyaozheishihoudahuoerhainianqing，zhihoujiehunlejianjiandijiuhaole。yici，niwuyijiandifajue，tayumouyinvhaierjingchangyiqichifan，ertayizaidishenminglianggerenshichunsuideyouqing。dannihuanshiyuanliang：“tadouneimeduzhoufashi，woziranjianxintazhihouburongyizaiyoushenmeshile……”

 quebuzhidao，nidebaorong，fandaohuisuzaotaduinidebugaoduzhongshi，zhangqizhihou，tahuiganjueyiqiejinyouzishencaisuanshiguanjiande，jinerhulvenidetihuiheduinixuyoudeyiwu。youyunihuikuanrong，taburongyigulvzaicifashengyicibuzhengque。

jilao：panbianbingbushiganqingdeweiyixiongshou，quanbudebugaoerbiebingbushizhichanshengzaimouyitian。

■第二宗沒有标准的宠溺

shibushinifeichangxihuanta?yizhiyuxuduo shierdouyoutalaiding?

 fadingjiejiari，nixingzhiangran，xiangtuotayiqiquguangjie，maiyixiezhuanjifushi。danshitapianyaobuyuan，yingyaozuozhejiazhongkanzuqiu。yinci，niweilegenghaoditaotakaixin，huoshishiyizhongzaiqianyishizhongdezhuisui，niyeyiranfangqilezishendefangan，yutayiqizuodaodianshiqian。tazuoshengri，niyongxinxuanzeleshifenbitingdeyikuanxizhuangzengjita，danshitajiushuoneitaibuhaokan，tazhixiaitxuheniuziku。beijiaoleyitouliangshuidenianzizhizezishentaicuxindayi，jingranbuqingchuxinaiderendexie。diertianqiaoqiaodequdianpugoudaotaxiaidefushi……

 fangongzisheng：nikuailema?huoxunijuedekeyihexinaiderenzaiyiqi，kandaotagaogaoxingxing，niyejiuganjuehenkaixin。danshi，neiyangdeqingkuang，henyoukenengduanqineiburongyiyoubutaihaodejuede，eryidanzhangqizaiyiqi，niyejiuhuizaochengbumanyi。yuanbenma，aijiuyinggaishigongpingde、xianghulijiede。taiguodijiaozonglingyifang，huishitaganjueniduitadehaoquanshiyingdangde，fandaohuibuaixi。fanguolaidi，tahaihuijixubuduandijiaowei，ruguoyouyitiannimeiyouxiangzhiqianneibanchongta，tahuiganjueniduitabutaihao，lianggerendebufuhejiuzhongxiazhongzi。

jilao：bushidangdechongnihuirangdajiadeganqingfashengbianhuawei。

■第三宗一厢情愿的激情

nishibushiyecengjinglineiyangdexinxin：jianxinjingchengsuozhi，jinshiweikai。

 niqiaoqiaodejizhedajiahuandudemeiyigegengyouyiyideshenghuo。zaixiangyuzhounianjiniandejierili，yongxinweitaxuanzeyifenlipin，huoshimingsikuxiangyigenairenxunweidexingwei。erta，quemurandiwangzheni，ruheyexiangbuqilaishigeshenmeyangzidechuantongjieri。niyecengreliedeyaoyuetayitongcanjiapengyoudejuhuihuodong，xiangrangdaliangdepenyoulejiedajiadeguanlian，ketaquewanbanwunaiduinishuo，zheishihoutagengxiangyaozaijialixiexi、rushui……

 huoxu，youyitiantaqueshihuijinidejiqingtouruerdadong，danqianwanbiejianxintashiganqing，jibian dajiahuibianchengqinglv、lianren，naizhifufu。neiyangdezhenzhengdeaiqingshifenmingande，tajianxindezhishijiushiniaita，erbushitayeyiyangaizheni。“gengshiyouyutayijianshihao，.wohetawanhun。”tatongchanghuineiyangshuo，erdangrichangshenghuolichuxianyigetasuozuiaideren，tabianhuiguoduandijiangnifangdaoyigeyifudebuwei。

jilao：aidetourushihuxiangde，tashizhongbushiyigerenhuanleyigerenbiequ。

■第四宗得寸进尺的妒忌

 dujishiquanbutanlianainanhaihenvhaidequanli，zhenaidewuzhi。gengshiyouyunizaiyita，nicaihuiguanxindaotashenpangdemeiyigenvsheng，qiaoqiaodenazishenyutamenjiaowei。dujibiancongerweizhi。

 zouzailushangnijiandao20suinvhaitongninanpengyoujiqingdidahuluni，ninengmeishenmeyuanyindiduineinvhaizaochengdichu，yincilengyanlengyu，naizhifuxiuerqu。zairu，niyoushihouzaixiangcetupianlifajuenanpengyouhetarendehezhao，jiusuanshizuiyibandezishi，niyehuijueranguidingtajiangxiangpiancongyingjizhonghuatuichu，naizhisilan，chufeishineinvshengdexiangmaoqueshibunengfengcheng……

 jinguanshuo，airendexinshijiacengbolizuode，lianrendeyanzhongzhuangbuxiayikesuishizi，danguoshaodeganyu，youkenengjifalingyifangdeqingchunqipanni，duinizaochengdichu。shenaizhetadenigengshiqinzijiangtaganchulezheigeshijie，qibukebei?huoxunidaobingbushicaijita，bianshixiangshitabaozhengzhiduiniyigerenhao。danshi，ruguonidouhaimeishiqulixing，niyejiugailejienishizhongbutaikenengshiweiyi。meiyouni，tayehuichuxianzuixihuandenvren。yinci ，fangkaixindishanliang，liangzhezhijianhuashijianlaiduji，bibushanglianggerenhaohaodiyichengxiangdai。

jilao：yiqiezhengchangdedujishinenggoujienade，naizhinenggoujiushinihetazhongjiandediaoweiliao，eryidantaiguojiubuhaole。

■第五宗盲目跟风太过的信任感

hedujiduibi，guoduoxinrenganyehuizaocheng bicizhijiandexiaochu。

 lirulibaitian，taduinishuo，tayaozaiqiyejiabanjiadian，bukeyiheniyiqiqukanneiyichangdajiahaozhangshijianjiuyuehaodianying。wuxuguoshaodebiaoshuheyuanyin，nichedijianxintadehua。zailiru，tazaiyuniyouhuideqingkuangxia，jingranzaiyigewangluoxianshangzhanleyigeduozhongtou，dishengxiyu，wenroushifen。wendaolingyifang，tagennishuoshiyidideyuanfangqinqitangmei。yinci，niyejiuyibuzhuize……

 neiyangdexiaoshiernenggouyouhenduo。dajiashuo，huazhenzixuntousu，ganqingdejibenqujueyuhuxiangxinren，keshixinrenganbingbudengyuzongrong。niyiweidimobuguanxin，zaocheng dejieguojiushitazaibujingyijianzhongliniyuezouyueyuan。weilaiyouyitian，tahuranlinierqu，niqueyiranyitouwushui。nanrenrutongnishoushangdezhiyuan，fangdetaigaohenyuan，nihaibuzhidaoshinayitiantalikainideshou。

 xinrenganshiyizhongkeguandegerenxingwei，tashichuangjianzaikeguanshishidejibenshangde。jilao：jinyouruguonilejieshierdelailongqumai，nicainenggouzuochufenbian：jianxinta，huoshibuxiangxin。

■第六宗不合逻辑的希望

 tashuodao，xiayuefaguogongzi，bianrangnimaixialainatiaonikanhaohaozhangshijiandezishuijingxianglian。yincinimeimeidadixiangxianghaojitian。danshifagongzideshenghuolaidao，taqueduinishuotagangjizijimaigenghaolesonydeminixiaoyinxiang，rujinqianbaohaixiu。dangran，nidejinglianyejiubikoufencibutile。tahaishuo，xiabianhaolaiwudapianyilai，jiuyuniyitongqianwangshangxi，yinciniyejiumeitianguanxinbaokanshangdeyingpianboyingxinxi。shubuzhi，shangyingbujiu，ruguonixiangtamingquetichuyaoqing，taqueyixiaolezhididuinishuotazaoyiyuqiyelidehaoduogexiongdiyiqikanlele，bingbutaijingcaifencheng。yijuhua，mengranjiniwujingdacai……

 tazongshibuduanrangniqidai，jinishengchanzhizaoyixienenggouxiangxiangdehuanle，yinciniyejiugangkaishinidedenghou。jinjinnidedenghouyizhimeiyoujieguo，youyutazongshishuodeduo，zuodeshao。shexiangyixia，neiyangdeyixiesuoshi，tadoumeifaduifu，niyouzenmekeyijianxintahuirangniyigejianglaini?

 huoxutahuixunzhaoyixietuocijizijibiaoshu，danhenkenengweilaitayehuichuxiantangerhuangzhideyuanyinlaisheqiduiwojinideai。jilao，zheiyangderenshibuzhinixiwangde，huanshixiangyishougelichangdeneiban：“youderennishizhongwuxudeng。”

■第七宗万般无奈的忍受

 zaiquanbulianaiguochengzhong，huoxunibingbuzongchuyumangmugenfengdefengkuangqingkuang。youshi，niyehuishifenbaochiqingxingerlixingdirenqingdajiazhongjiandenanti。danshi，meiyici，nihuishenyouhuiduizijishuoshangyixieyuanyin：“zaoyidonglexinneimezhangdeshenghuo，sheqinanmiantaiyihanle。”“jishihuanyigenanpengyouyouhuizenmeyangni，huoxuyeshiyouneiyangneibandenanti，birujinyebabushangshiduoshao，baitianneimeduobubian……”

 shijishang，zhishangzhuduozhibuguoshijiushinizaiweileaitaerzhaodetuoci，nizhenzhengxiangshuodeshi：“wolibuleta，jibian womingbaizheizhongnantiyezhinengsuanleba，sheijiaowohenainini。”danshi，nimeiganjueneiyangdeai，taixinkuma?hekuang，nizaoyibaochiqingxingdilejieniyizhizaidajiadeganqingguanlianlijinjinyizhongrenshou。ruguonineiyangganjuedeqingkuangxia，niyinggainenggouwenyixiaziji，niqueshixiangnijuededeneimeaitama?