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wojuedelingwaiduinishuoyigexixunheyigeehao：

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ehaoshi：nizijihenyoukenenghaidabushangzheiyiguifan!neizenmebanni，xiaotingwogenniweiweiertan。

1、zaojiuyouliangguanlianderengetezheng

niyaowenyiwenzishen：zaiyiduanzhangqixingdehunyinguanxizhizhong，wohaizailingyigerendeshenshangzhaoxunshenmetexing?

【zongtixingqingtexing:dawurenge】

 dawurengeshishehuixinlixuelijingdiandexingqingjichulilun，taguanjianbaohanwugecengmian：kaifangshi(openness),jinzhixing(conscientiousness),xinggewaixiangxing(extraversion),yirenxing(agreeableness),andshenjingzhirenge(neuroticism)。

 kaifangshi(opennesstoexperience):zhenduizaoxingyishu、ganqing、tanxian、buxunchangdeniantou、xiangxiangli，haoqixinhegeshigeyangganshoudeshangxi;

 jinzhixing(conscientiousness):yizhongxianchuziwoyueshu、chengdanzerenerqieyizaojiuweidaoxiangxingdequxiang;youmudexingerbushijixingbiaoyandegerenxingwei;

xinggewaixiangxing(extraversion):youdongneng，jijixintaierqiexunzhaocijixinghebierendeshouhou;

 yirenxing(agreeableness):yizhongpojuzerenxinerqiexiangyaogenbierenxiezuo，erbushicaiyihuoshipaichitarendegexingquxiang;

 shenjingzhirenge(neuroticism):yizhongjiaoweifeichangrongyiganshoudaofumianqingxudexingqingquxiang，lirunaonu、jiaolvqingxu、yiyuzhenghuoshishimingan;youshibeichengzuoxintaiduobianxing。

 xinlixuezhuanjiarobertshedelvecchiozai2000niandeqingkuangxiafabiaolunwen，zaitamenzuodejiangjin20niandekexueyanjiuzhongfajue，dajiadedawurengezaidajiasanshisuishangxiajiuyuelaiyuexiangduiwending，erqienanyigaibian(hunyinshenghuomeifagaibian)。

neimadawurengegendajiahunyinshenghuodeguanlianshishenmeni?

 neyerheasendorpfzaierlinglingyinianfabuzaixingqinghexinlixuezazhiqikanshangfabudewenzhangneirongzhongfajue，zaitamenzhuizonglesiniandehunyinshenghuozhizhong，dawurengebingmeiyouyouyuhunyinshenghuodepinzhieryouyiqiegaibian，keshihunyinshenghuodepinzhiquebeidawurengeshenshendideweihai!tamenfajue：zheixiedishenjingzhirenge(lowneuroticism)，gaozizunxin(highself-esteem)，gaoyirenxing(highagreeableness)derenhuifazhanqushichugengqianglingrenlingrenmanyidehunyinguanxi。

yinci nizuixianyaozhaode，shiyigewendingqingxu(dishenjingzhirenge)，gaozizunxinerqiegaoyirenxingdeairen!

【依恋类型】

 yilianlilunzuikaishiyoumeiguodejingshenfenxixinlixuezhuanjiabowlbymingquetichu，rujinzaoyibianchengshehuixinlixueliyigezhiguanzhongyaodejichulilun。yilianlilunbarendeyilianleixingfenchengsanzhong：anquanxingxing(secure)、huibixing(avoidant)hejiaolvqingxuxing-dichuxing(anxious/ambivalent)。

zheisanzhongzhongleizuikaishideqingkuangxiashiyongyuxushubaobaohemamadeguanliande。

 jiarumamaduibaobaodegezhonggeyangbixudoushifenyizhidejiyulijidedafuhezhaoliao，baobaohemamadelianjiejiubianchengleanquanxingxingdeyilianguanxi;

 jiarumamazhenduibaobaodebixuzhuyaobiaoxianchuyizhidelengdanhemobuguanxin，baobaojiujianjiandimingbaizishendekunaoshimeiyouyiyide，bierenshiburongyilaikaolvzishendebixude，yinci jiuchanshenglehuibixingdeyilianguanxi;

 ziranzuiquweidejiaolvqingxuxing-dichuxingdeyilianguanxi，zheileiyilianguanxidechanshengshiyouyumamazhenduibaobaodezhaoliaohebixushifendebuyizhi，jinritahenyoukenengtitieruweidezhaogubaobao，ermingriyouhenyoukenengmobuguanxin，erqiebaobaomeifaxiangdaomamadegerenxingweihuishinayang，youyuyuelaiyueshifenjiaolvqingxuhezaodongbuan。

 xinlixuezhuanjiazhihoufajuezheileiwomenzaibaobaojieduangenmama(huoshiguanjianfadingjianhuren)chanshengdeyilianguanxihuilijiweihaidaodajiachengnianrenhoudehunyinguanxi。hazanheshaverguidingbeiyanjiuduixiangyueduwenzhangxiashusanduanneirong，bingqiangdiaoneiyiduanneirongzuihaoshidixushuletamenzaihunyinguanxizhongdesuoxiang、suoxianghegerenxingwei：

 a.yutarenqinmiwujianlingwojuedeyixienanshou;wochajuezijiwufachedixinrengantamen、wufarangzishenyikaotamen。dangtarenhewotaiqinmiwujianshiwonengjiaolvbuan，tarenxiangyaowogengweiqinmiwujian，zheishiwojuedenanshou。

 b.wofaxianleyutarenqinmiwujianbingbuhuitainan，bingnengshuxindiqujueyutarenherangtarenyikaowo。wobuhuidanyoubeitarenpaoxia，doubudanyoutarenhewoguanliantaiqinmiwujian。

 c.wofaxianletarenbugaoxingxiangxiwangdeneibanhewoqinmiwujian。guangzhouhuazhenkeyituikuanma？wojingchangdanyouzishendeairenbingbuzhenzhengdeaiqingwohuobuyuanhewozaiyiqi。wojuedeyuairenguanlianshifenqinmiwujian，erzheiyoushihouhuihetuitaren。

 genjuzheileisanguileijingqueceliangdejieguo，hazanheshaverfajue，chengnianrenzhongleidebianbuzhuangkuangleisibaobao。yejiushishuo，zaichengnianrenzhong，yue56%juedezishenshianquanxingxing(bduan)、yue25%bazijixushuweihuibixing(aduan)、lingdayue19%bazijixushuweijiaolvqingxu-dichuxing(cduan)。

 zaiyigexinlixuezhuanjiaroismandengzuodejiangjin23niandekexueyanjiuzhongfajue，dajiadeyilianleixingjichuzhangqibaochi(yueyou75%derenmeiyougaibian)。zheixieanquanxingyilianleixingderenyouzhegenglingrenmanyigengzhangjiudehunyinshenghuo，erhuibixingderenyougenglingrenmanyidegongzuozhongdanlingwaizaihunyinguanxizhonggenglengdanhebuwenbuwen，jiaolvqingxu-dichuxingderendaohunyinguanxizhongchangchangzainianrenhenaonuyiqianbaidong。

 neimayoumeiyourenkeyichaoguobabamama(huoshiguanjianfadingjianhuren)gendajiachuangjiandebuanquanyilai，bianweianquanxingdeyilianleixingni?huidashiyoude，keshihenjiannan，yibannixuyaoshifenjishuzhuanyedexinlizixunshidexiezhuerqieshizhangdaduoniandeqinfen。