广州花镇情感：自卑消极的人如何恋爱？

guangzhouhuazhenqinggan，shangyue，youyigedanshenmamazaidajiazheiergaobiedanshenchenggongle，wohengantan。

 zheimingdanshenmama30jisui，daizhuyigenanhai，yiqiandetayouqidebuzixin，ganjuezishenyouxiaohai，hailihunle，ruhehaihuiyouxierenyaoni?

 jinguanlihunzhihou，tayeyingyongdezhuiqiuwanmeiguozishendexingfukuaile，keshiyouyutadebuzixin，zaocheng gerenxingweishangchuxianlenanti，qingganyizhimeiyouxiawen，zuizhongtazishenyeyongyoushenshendideshiluoganheshiluogan。

danshirujintazaoyiyouzheleyigebitaxiaoduoshaosuidenanyou，meiyoujielehun，bingqiehaifeichangaitahetadexiaohai。

 shijishangxuduoren，zaidanshen、lihundengzhuangkuangxia，yexiangzheimingdanshenmamayiyang，doushihuiyouduoduoshaoshaodejiaolvqingxuheziwopipan，liru：

wohencaogao，taneimechuse，weishenmehuikanlaini?

meirenxiangyaojienawo，lilehun，haidaizhuxiaohai，woyijingzaoshoulefeichangdadeyanlidaji，zhenbuyuanyizaiaiqingzuimeilile。

woyebuzhidaowoshibushihaikeyixunzhaoganqing，woyiqianshizheleshijinianle，meiyiciqingganquanshibuchenggongde。

tashenbeiwoyutarenyuehui，haishuowobawobuzhunanrenxin，zheiquanshiwenti，wojiushibuchenggonga。

taquanshifangzhiyuwojianghua，laikanyuwojianghuashizaitaifaweile。

ciciyuehuiwozhuyaobiaoxiandebutaihao，zhengzhongjiangaliaole，tafangfoyebuyuanyuwojianghua，ai。

 shijishangzheijiushiyixierenbenzhiduizishenshuodehua，ruguobudiuqizheizhongguannian，gerenxingweiyehuibeixianzhizhu，jiusuanjianglaipengdaonenggoufazhanqushibianchengqinglvhuoshiwanhundemubiao，yehuiyouyuzishendeduobi，ranglingyifangganjueninanjiejinhuoshibiedeniantou，bashoule。

 neimadajiagairuhepojieni?guangzhouhuazhenqinggan，jinriwoxiangrongheyingguoxiangnongdeshu《neixiangxinggedeaiqingzhinan》hedahuoergongxiangsandian：

●renzenmehuijiaolvqingxu?

●jiaolvqingxuruhepojie?

●zenyangzuozishenyuliaorangzishenjiejueyiqianbutaihaodelijing，tigaohebierendeguanlianlianjie。

dajiaxianlaizhangwo，dajiazenmehuiduizijizuoziwopipan，huijiaolvqingxu。

jiaolvqingxudeguanjianshi“xiuchigan”，xinlingshenchuganjuezishenyouquexian，neiyangdexiuchiganjingchangmengfayurendezaoqianjieduan。

 youxierendexiuchiganlaizifumuhebiedejiatingzhuyaochengyuandeyantanjuzhi，youdelaiyuanyubeiguli，beiqifudelijing，youdeyuanyuyiqianlianaizhongbeisunhai、mengpian、beishiyafourendelijing。

 lirulingyifangshuonizheigerenjianzhibunvxing，yidiannvrenqizhiyemeiyou，zaizhihoudelianaizhong，beishiyadenvhaieryehenyoukenenghuiyouyuyuehuidebuchenggongguiyinyuzishenmeiyounvrenqizhizheixie。

 shijishangmeigerendouyouyixielijingyinqixiuchigan，youxierenbatongchuyanmaizaixinli，youxierenyinxiuchiganerzaochengziwopipan，ganjuezishenyouquexian，zishenbuzuhao，buzhishenaideng，haihuiyinqidaliangdeziwopipan。

 erziwopipandezaocheng，ganjuezishenpeibushangdezheizhongganjue，zaiguanlianshangmianfangaidajiadeguanlianshencengcinaizhirangliangrenyuelaiyueyuan。

youyuxiuchigan，dajiahuizaochengziwopipan，lingwaisuizhejiaolvqingxu，xinlizhuangtaidebuyiyang，guanliandemaixiangjiubuyiyang。

neidajiagaizenyanggaizhengzheileizishenquediandetihui?

zuixian，womenyaolejiedaotarensunhaileni，zheibushinidecuo，nibuyinggaiyinerxiaojibeiguan。

 pengyoudulini，fumuzhizeni，yiqiandeairennanyoufourenniyunitichufenshou，chuguideng，henyoukenengjinjintamendefangfabudui，huoshitazheigerendenanti，budaibiaozheniyejiubitarencha，budaibiaozheniyejiubutaihao，budaibiaozhenibuzhishenai。

dier，buyaoyongziwopipandefangfalaidafudajiade“xiuchigan”，womenkeyineimezuo：

●做一个长距离的观测者，冷言冷语自身对自身的体会。

dajiaziwopipan，yibanyehanyoujiaolvqingxu，neimadajiajiuxuyaochulizheiyijiaolvqingxu。

ruhejiejuejiaolvqingxu?yigehelidefangshibianshijiandaodajiadeguannian，bingjiandaozishen，keshiwomenyaochoushenchuqu。

 liru：woyuehuihuijia，keshiwoyouyuyuehuizhongzhuyaobiaoxianbutaihao，xianzaiwozaiziwofansheng，woxiang：“ai，zishenruheneimasha，neishihouruhejiuhaole，neimexiang，ninengjiaolvqingxu，huikuijiu，huiganjuezishenbutaihao，huiganjuexiayicitahenyoukenengjiubuyuanyuewochuqule。”

neimaruhezuo?womenkeyiyongyigejuxing，rangzishenchoushenchuqu，zheiyijuxingbianshi：“wozhengzaixiang，shashasha”