花镇教育：3招建立恋爱框架

 huazhenjiaoyu，xuduo nvhaimaiyuan：“zaiyikaishichuduixiangdeqingkuangxia，meiyiciyouhuinanpengyoudoushihuilailaijie，meiwanlinshuiqianwanan，wojiangtaoyanchouyan，tanenglikequjieyanjiejiuzheixie，suichubawodeganshoufangdaodiyiwei。

 keshitanlianaishijianjiule，nanpengyoubingmeiyoubazheijianshiqingdangzuoxiguanxing，fandaoyulaiyubugaoduzhongshiwodeganshoule，bansuizhexinlizhuangtaideqifu，bicizhijiandefenqiyeyulaiyuduole，zheijiujingshishenmeyuanyinni?”

shijishangshiyouyuzailianaizhong，nidebiaozhunganjiaoweiruo，buqingchuzaitanlianaiqianqi，lihaoguiding，doumeiyoukaishejiangchengjizhi。

 shayisini?bianshizainanpengyouzuozhengqueleqingkuangxia，nixuyaojitamenzhengliandeyijianfankuitishengtadequdongli，zainanpengyouzuobuduiqingkuangxia，nixuyaolijideduitazuochengfacuoshi，bikaizaicifasheng。

jinrijiujidahuoerjiangxiazenyangzaitanlianaiqianqisuzaohaobiaozhungan，rangliangrendeqingganyulaiyutianmei。

xianlaigendahuoerjiangxiashenmeshiguize：

 lirurichangshenghuodebiaozhun：hengchuanmaluxukanjiaotongxinhaodeng，fandianyongcanrenbijiaoduodeqingkuangxiayaopaizhangdui，chengzuochengshigonggongjiaotongbixuxiansonghoumianzaishang，gongzuobukeyiwandaozheixie，richangshenghuosuichushibiaozhun。

 zaihunyinguanxizhong，shijishangyesuichushibiaozhun，liru：youhuibukeyiwandao，huazhenjiaoyu，linshuiqianwanan，bukeyipanbianwaiyu，bukeyipangbianrenjiuchanbuxiu，bukeyiyixingliaotian，zheixie。

 ziranmeiyigeren，meiyiduanqingganzhongdebiaozhunshibuyiyangde，rutonglinshuiqianwanan，youxierenganjueshifenguanjian，youxierenjiuganjuebushishenmeguanjiandeshier，yinci dajiayebukeyizhuguanyiduandeganjuezishenzaihude，renherendoushihuizaihu。

 dajiaweihebixuzailianaizhongqusuzaobiaozhunni?youyuliangrenzaiyiqijiaowang，douhuipengdaofenqihemaodun，yaoshimeiyoubiaozhundehua，dajiajiunanyiquyunyingyiduanzhangqixingguanlian，nanpengyouyehuiduizishenyulaiyubufangzaixinshang。

 ruguowomenyongxinguanchazhoubiantanlianaijindubijiaoshunlideren，ninengfajuetamenbiaozhunganquanshijiaoweiqiangde，erzheixiebuchenggongde，daduoshuyeshibiaozhunganjiaoweiruode。

liruyouyixienvsheng，yidannanyouzuodeshuoderangtabumanyideqingkuangxia，tabianhuiyoukuyounao，suihoushuo“fenshouba!”

 zheizhongnvshengshiqueshiyaoxiangtichufenshouma，bingbingbushi，tamenjinjinqidaigenjutichufenshouquzaochenglingyifangdegaoduzhongshihezaiyi，quzuodaorangzishenlingrenmanyidemudi，yici2cinanpengyouhuikaolv，keshipinciduole，qingganjiufeichangrongyichuzaiyigeshidiaodeqingkuang，hunyinguanxiyehuiyuelaiyueminganqilai。

zhuigenjiudi，chukaibenshenjiatingguanxiweihaideguishuganjiaoweidi，ciwaiyegenzishenqianquechuangjianbiaozhunyoufeichangdadeguanlian。

neidajiayingdangzenyangzaiqingganqianqichuangjianzheiyibiaozhunganni?

1.最先就需要学好奖赏另一方。

 yaoxiangqujiaqianglingyifangzuoyijianshiqing，qishibushihennan，bianshidangtaganlezheiyijianshier，jiujilingyifangshidudejiangshang，zheiyeshiwomenshuodezhenglianyijianfankui。

 liru：lingyifangtongyilejinrixiabanlelaisongni，dangtalailaijieyihouni，niyejiujitamenyigelouloubaobaodejiangshang，shunbianzanyanglingyifangxinku，zishenzhenxingfu，jilaojiangshangdebudanshilingyifanglaisongnidegerenxingwei，yeshitaduifulefuwuchengnuo。

 pubianyougongnengqiangdadejiangshangduice：louloubaobaojugaogao，batakualaotianye，jitamenzuotuina，peitawanyouxi，kanmanweiyingxiongzheixiepeitazuotaxiaideshier，huoshiweitazhuyibeihaocha。

 zhengliandeyijianfankuibixulijijilingyifang，neiyangcaikeyichixujiaqiangtazuozheiyigerenxingweidequdongli，qiewububisongpinpaibaowanbiao，songshouji，zhufanyeshicixuan。

2.有奖赏，毫无疑问也是有处罚的。

 zenyangfangzhilingyifangzuonitaoyandeshier，neibianshiyaoshitaganlezheiyijianshier，bianhuizaoshouchufa，erqinglvzhijian，yebixuyouyidingdechufatizhi，shitaqudanfubuzunshoujilvdebuliangyingxiang。

 liru，jinwan，lingyifangshuohaoleyaolinshuiqianwanande，keshimangzhewanyouxi，jiwangjile，zhengzhongjianniyetishiguota，keshitahuanshimeiyoushuo，neidajiajiubixushitalejietameiyouduixianchengnuo，weibeichengnuoshibixudanfuyidingbuliangyingxiangde。

 nenggouchufalingyifangweizijimaiyidunzaofan，bingsongzhiloudixia，neiyanglingyifangjilejiezishenbuduibixudanfuneiyangdebuliangyingxiang，youlejieneiyangdegerenxingweihushilenigaizenmehongni。

 quelidebiaoshu，yaobimaiyuanxutao，naizhiouqititichufenshouyouyongdeduo。jiaruxiayicilingyifangzaicifasheng，neijiuyaotazaidanfuduoyicibuliangyingxiang，ziran，zheiyiquanguochengzhong，niyeyaobukeyiyourouguaduan，zishenquhuihuaizheiyibiaozhun。

pubianyougongnengqiangdadechengfacuoshi：shitamaizaofan，zuoyibaigepingbanzhicheng，xieyizhangtongyini10gexinyuandejietiaozheixie。

 zheizhongchufashilingyifangnenggouganxinqingyuanbaozhengde，lingwaiyekeyitishengliangrenjiaowangdelequheqinmiwujiangan，qiewububiguidinglingyifangmiaohuixinxineirong，huoshimaibao，songhongbaoquanshicixuan。

 ziranbiaozhunzaituixingdequanguochengzhong，haowuyiwenhuipengdaoyixienantimeiyoubanfadachengyizhi，huoshizhidinglebiaozhun，lingyifangbuzunxungaizenmeban，zheigeshihoujiubixuyouxiaogoutongle。

3.有效的沟通。

 dajiabixugaoqingchuyigeqianti，bianshizhidingbiaozhundequanguochengzhong，niyebixuzhangwolingyifangdebiaozhun，erbushiyiweidezhidingzhiduizishenyouyidebiaozhun。

 liru，nitaoyanlingyifangdayouxi，jiuzhidingbiaozhunlingyifangchedibukeyidayouxi，nifanganlingyifangxiyan，jiuquanzulingyifangbixujieyanjiejiudebiaozhun，zheijiushineixiebawangtiaokuanle，lingyifangbudanbutaikenengzunxun，haihuijixuzaochengfumianxinxidebumanqingxu。

 goutongjiaoliudezhenshishijiyiyi，yinggaishixianglingyifangchandazishendeniantou，bingquelilingyifangdeniantou，xunzhaoliangrenxianghuxianghudefangwei，erbushishuoquqiangzhixingdegenggailingyifang。

 zaiwomenbabiaozhunsuzaochengxiguanxingdeqingkuangxia，biaozhunganbianhuichuangjianqilai，zheigeshihou，jiusuanmeiyouchufatizhi，dajiayiranhuidangrandequzunxun。

 liruzhongshiyulingyifang，gaoqingchulingyifangdejinquhedixianshishenme，meiqupengchu，neiyangliangrenjiaowanghegoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，bianhuidadaoyizhongxinyoulingxi。

 yaolejiemeirennenggouyikaishijiukeyigennibaozhengxinyoulingxishizu，niyifanwan，yigemuguang，tajiukeyilejienixihuanshenmexiangshuoshenme，keshiwomenkeyigenjubiaozhundechuangjian，zaitanlianaiqianqi，jiusuzaochuxianghudexinyoulingxilai，rangliangrenbianchenggengheshixianghuderen。