花镇教育：如何干掉高段位的情敌？

 huazhenjiaoyu，jinrigongxiangyigesangeyuecongchediburongyiliaoren、chadianercuoguonanshendenvxingchaojibianshenliaorendaka，zaiduxiyinnanpengyou、yugu2020niandingqindexiaogushi(weilegenghaodiweihuneibuviphuiyuanyinsibaohu，duizhongyaoxinxikaizhanlediaozheng，xuebimingweixiaohan)

wojiangtadangnanshen，taquedangwomenshi“xiongdi”

 wodemingzijiaoxiaohan(biming)，yinianqianxinyuangongruzhirujindeqiye，meiduojiuhou，wohaizaituanduijianshehuodongzhonglejielelingyigedanweideacheng，achengshiwohenxihuandeneizhonglei，tuanduituozhanquanguochengzhongachengzhuyaobiaoxiandehenshenshi，woduitadeyouhaodubutingshangbiao。fanhuiqiyehou，.wotantingdao，achengtawenpinggao，zhuanyenengliyehenqiang，zaipengyouyanlishifenchuse，shixuduonvhaierdexinzhongdenvshen。

 jiaohuanshoujiweixinhou，fajuewomendoushitongxiang，yeyouxuduo xianghudexingquaihao，taduiyinweiwoanshenghaogandu，yikaishi，achengshuohenshangxiwodeshigan、tongzhen。dajiahuishoujiweixinhudaozaozhongwanan，keshibuduanleyigeyueliaodeneirongdoushixieshiwuxinggongzuode，chedimeiyounuanweijindudejixiang。woneishihouxiang，ganqingdeshijibuke，jianjiandiyangzheba，zheiyihuangjiuguoqulekuaiyinian。

 guowannianchunzhao，qiyexinlailayigenvhai，tabiwoxiaoyisui。cailaidiyigelibai，zheiyinvhaierjiugenachengguanlianhenhaola，qinmiwujianshuipingnaizhiyaochaochuwoliangyiniandeyangzi。zheiyinvhaieryizhezhongxinghua，zichengwei“bingge”，zaiweixinpengyouquanyezongshuozishenshinvhanzhi。achengjiuyiqiangongranzanyangzheiyinvhaierxinggewaixiangyoudaqi，jiaowangqilaiqingsongzizai，zhihousheidangshangtadenanyouhaowuyiwenhenhaoyun。

zheizhongwoquantingzaierli，yuanyiweiachengtaoyanwowenjingnvshengdewenroumouxie，yincijuecexiaofangzheiyinvhaierdezuofa。

 wojueqingbaqixiongdezhangtoufajiandaobujiuguoerdezhangduan，huazhenjiaoyu，lianyiqunyehuanweileniuzikuziheyundongxie。pingchanggongzuoshangqinfenzhuyaobiaoxianchu“nengkangshiqing”，naizhijijidanfuleyibufenzhaoliaotongshideyiwu。

 guozhen，woheachengdeguanliandequekaojinlexuduo ，wobenlairenwei，zishennenggoujiushizheiyangjianjiandizouruachengdexinli，huodeganqing。

 xiangbudao，yicibujingyidejiyu，woachengtamendedanweisongyuancailiao，tingjiandahuoerzaiyiqixianliao，achengdeyixihuaposuilewodehaomeng。

 yuanxian，achengtongshimenxianliao，qiahaoliaodewo，achengshuotagenwozhishiyibande“haoxiongdi”guanlian，haishuowoxingqingbuzumianruan，xianggenvhanzi，chuduixiangtahuanshixiaixiangganglaidenageyiyang，xinggewaixiangdaqi，haihenroumeidenvsheng。

 woneishihouchedilengzhu，wobenlaiyijuyidongdouhuixiaofangnagenvsheng，weihenanshenhuiduinagenvshengyouhaogan，quejiangwodangzuole“xiongdi”ni?

 zheihaimeiyougangkaishideganqingjiushizheiyanggaoyiduanluo，woqueshiwanwanxiangbudao，yehenyihuo，yagenwuyigongzuozhong，yaoxianggaoqingchuqianyinhouguo，bingwanliuzishenzainanshenneixindepinpaixingxiang，danwoyoubuqingchugaizenmezuozenmejiang，bizhaolehaojijiazuzhihou，benmeibaoduoshaoqidaidezhaodaotanlianaifazhanxuehao。

chaixie“hanzibiao”degaokaozhaosheng

比照察觉自己的败因

 zhushoumeiyuebangwoqianglietuijianletianxinzixunguwen，woxiangtaqingtuwozhengzailijingdeqingganwenti，buduandilejietianxinwogaizenmezuo，youyuwoneishihouqueshishifenwunai。

 guanyuwomenxiaofangnagenvsheng，quefanerrangnanshenliwogengzhangyuanzheiyidian，woxunwentianxinyuangu，tianxinshuo“nagenvshengyierzaizaiersanshuozishenshinvhanzhi，danshimeirigongzuoyidinghuihuajingmeidezhuangmian，shangyiwaitaokendingyebufeikuan，xinjidekehuafadaishenxingquxiantu，zheijiushidianxingxingdehanzibiaoya!”

 yeyoubianshi，woyizhihenguaiyi，weihewoyunanshenliaoleyinianshoujiweixinyemeiyoujindu，ernagenvshengjingranyixingqijiunenghetaqinmijiechu?duiyucishi，tianxinshuo：

“lingyifangyong“haoxiongdi”dezhenshishenfenfeichanghaorongjinnanshengrenqun，youshihendangrandebianhuiduinanshengdadanaonaoqilai。

 ernanshengzhenduinvshengdejijizhitijiechu，jishibiaocengshangqingkongwanli，xinliyenanyimeiyoujingtaohailang，yinci duanshijianqinmijiechuchediyibuhuaxia。”

 keshiwo，jinguankoukoushengshenggoujiandabei，rentishangqueshifenchengxindiyudahuoerlakaijuli，buyaoshuodadanaonaole，yaoshiyounanshengaijin，jiujiaolvbuandaogankuai“tuibisanshe”。

 genjutianxindepouxi，wozhendeshiyixiazirumengchuxingle，yuanxianshuobailede“xiongdi”yejinjintayongyutiejinnanshendeqihao，bizhaoxia，queshijuedezishenzhenshidiaobaole。

jiushizheiyang，zaitianxinjiaoshideshudaoheyindaoxia，wokaishilezishendezaicipinpaixingxiang、huodehaogandudezhanzheng。

再次品牌形象，再次赢得男神好感度

tianxinxunsujiujiwotiqianzhunbeileyifenhaijishouce：rongjiedisanzhederenwuguanxi，zaicichuangjianzishendexinyinxiang。

●tianxinlijiyong3geshitanfajiwojiechuanchu：nanshenlinshihaimeiyoujiaoxinhuan，danshihenagenvshengyishiyixiehanyi。

 jiechuanchuquhou，wohaishihenkaixinde，danlingwaiyejuedehendanxin，youyuwofangzhizishenbuxiehenagenvshengquzheng，woxiangyaoachengshifazifeifudexihuanwo，ganjuewoyouqi。

●toudengdashi：zaibiaomianshangzuochugenggai。

 nanrendoushiganxingdongwu，zheixieshuozishenxiainvshengluozhuangdenansheng，jinjinxiailuozhuangyepiaoliangdenvsheng，duiyushuoxieshenmebuyaokanbiaomianzhikanbenzhidenansheng，quanshipianzi。

 tianxinjiaoshibangwoliejule11yedechengzhangfanganlijiyoujibangwo，wojiangtamenfuyinhoutiezhuwoshichuang、dianbingxiangshang，meiridouanzhaojiaoshidefanganqushixing，jishifankuijihuizong。

 lingwai，tianxinhaiwajuelezijideyoudian，tashuowoyaoyouqixi，yaowailuzishendenvshiquxiantu，liruchuanxiaokuangaoyaokudeshejifangan，wailushencaiquxian，congshijuexiaoguoshangbianzhangjiaobuxiankuang，zhanxianzishendenvxingmeilizheixie。

 zheiyigenggaidequanguochengshihenxiyuede，meiridoushiyoupengyoushuowobuyiyangle，zijiyufaxiaizishen，caiguoquleyigeyue，woyejuedeachengduiyinweiwogengweijijile，lingwaitianxinzixunguwenhaijiaoworuheweixinfapengyouquan、qianzi、xiangpiandengshuaxinzhiqiandeyinxiang。(youguanfapengyouquanfayumosaoerweimalingdao)

●第三，学好忍让，恰当“灭掉”第三者。

tianxinshuo，yaoxiangchediyingdenanshendexin，haibixuxiaochunagenvshengyiqiandazaochuderenwuguanxi。

 yihou，tianxinjiujiaowoyixieliedexiaoqiaomen，liru，dajiadouzaiyiqideqingkuangxia，nenggourangnagenvshengningpinggai，jiarubangzhu，bianhuizaitarenxinliliuyoutashijishangbiwogengqiangdeyinxiang，ertajiaruhuijueshuozishenyeningmeidong，zeyehuirangdahuoerganjue“ei，tafangfodoumeiyoupingchangxuanchengdeneimananrenma。”

 yiyangdefangshihainenggouyongzaitidiaowu、banjiajuzheixieyixilieshiershang，zongdelaishuo，jiran“nvhanzhi”shitazishendazaochuderenwuguanxi，dajiazhibixujianyidixiaochuzuchengzheiyirenwuguanxideguanjianyaosujiukeyile。