想谈以结婚为目的恋爱，花镇情感是真是假？

 huazhenqingganshizhenshijia？wodemingzijiaoxiaolin，2020nian30suile，youqixiangjiehun。woshi“meirongliansuo”gongzuorenyuan，yinci waiguanshejibiaozhunhaisuanfeichanghao，yinweiwohenliuyiweixinpengyouquanfadeyuancailiao，woyongpenyoudehuashuo：

“nizheibiaozhun，shenpangzenmekenengquenanren?”。

 keduiwolaishuo，nanrenbushique，kequedeshinenggouzhangqixingxiangchu，nengyiwanhunweimudichuduixiangdenanren，woyijing30suile，tanlexuduo changtanlianai，kemeiyiduandoutanzhangtaikuai，meiyiduandourangworenweimeifajianchixiaqu。

 tashiyazaiwoxinlideyigeheiying，meiyicixiangzaidakaiyiduanxindelianaiguanxi，zheiyi“heiying”bianhuipaochuqu，chixutishiwo：

“zheiyiduanbieyetanbuzhanga，nixuyaozhuyile”。

keyuefaneiyang，jiuqueshitanbuzhang。kewohaishiyaojianchixiaqu，yaoburanhainengzenmebanni?

 shangnian，wohaizaiyichangjiujushanglejielexianzaiwodenanyouxiaoliang，tabiwoxiaoyisui，renhenqinfen，yijingzizhuchuangye，zaoyikaiguojigeliansuojiamengdian，tayijianshihenfangzaixinshang，jiusuandajiazhangqixingwaidi，tagongzuozhonghaibijiaomangdeqingkuangxia，yehuipeiwoliaotian，bangwosongxianhua，tiqianzhunbeigezhonggeyangyiwaijingxi。

 yikaishideqingkuangxia，dajiajiaowangdefeichanghao，tayijianshizijintouruxuduo shijianhehuoli，danzaidajiaxiangchulekuailiangyuedeqingkuangxia，gezhonggeyangnantidougangkaishizhanxianchulai。

 zuixian，dajiameiyoushenmehualiao，lailaiquququanshi：chilema?shangbanlema?ruhea?shuijuele?neidianshi，“xianliao”yulaiyubiancheng“kekeqiqi”deyizhongfangshi，yulaiyuyougongzuoyali。

 bingqie，tabangwotiqianzhunbeiyiwaijingxidepinlv，yejijuxiajiangle，womingbaitagongzuozhongbijiaomang，dantayiwangjirannengbaozheng，rujinweihejiubuxingni?zhibuguoshiyouyu“bufangzaixinshangle”。

 woyishidaozheiyidian，yaoxiangqinfenhetatiwenyixia，jiuzaigongchudeqingkuangxia，keyiqutazaidedachengshizhaota，shiwotizaoduitashuo，woxiangquzhaota，dantazhenduiwodelailin，jibenshangmeiganshenmetiqianzhunbei，neijirichangchangbeitadegongzuozhongdajiao，yagenmeiyoushiduoshaoyurenxiangchushijian。

 woduibicizhijiandeguanlianzaochenglecaiyi，dajiarujindezheileiqingkuangwohenlejie，womingbaizaineiyangxialaijiuyouhuixiangqianjigeyiyangyouyuanwufen，wodemeiyiduanguanliandoushihuitingbuyuzheileiqingkuang，woyebuzhidaodaodishinalichulenanti。

 danshizheiyeyaowoguannianlaidao：jiaruzaibuxunzhaojiejuefangandehua，neima，jiusuanwohuanlexiaoliang，zaitanjihuixindetanlianaiyeyiranhuineiyang，zhouerfushi，meiyoujieguo。

 woguanxintanlianaifazhanxuehaodeweixingongzhonghaozaoyiyouliangsannianle，worenweilibianwenzhangneirongxiedexuduo “bingzheng”douhenchuowo，yinci ciciwoyelijibaokaole。

我要做一个“真正活著”的女性，才会深爱

 miyaolaoshiyigehenwenrou，hengulihelingtingdejiaoshi，woyijinghaoduonianmeiyouyurenshuoguozheimeduohuale，shenpangdeqinrenyeba，penyouyehao，wohaizhihetamenliaowogongzuo，zhenduiwomendeshenghuotamengengzaihudejiushiwo“jiemeiwanhun”。

 jiufangforenshengdaoluzhibixuyueshangneihaoduogejietijiukeyile，meirenhuizaihunide“zhenzhengniantou”，zhikanjiannibiaomiande“guangxianliangli”laifenbianni。

 danzhishiwozishenlejie，wojinguankanqilaifeichanghao，danandiliquebingbutaihao，erzheishiwo“buzuweiwairendaoye”deyibufen。

miyaojiaoshijiuhenqimiao，tanengzaiyuwodeyuyintonghuaquanguochengzhongpouxichuwodeqingkuang，tashuo：

“niyizhihaipazaitarenyanqianxianluzhenshideziji，nidanxinzhanxianchuzishendeyouquehan，tarenbianhuifangqini”

 “danniyuefayanchuzishendexinggannvshenrenwuguanxi，nanrenjiuyuehaipachupengni，yinweiainixianyongyanchuchuquderenwuguanxibalingyifanggeli，tatihuibushangbeinijieshou，beinixuyao，dangranbianhuicheli。”

 “shijishangnibingbuyidingneimejizhi，ninengjiangnidexiaoquexian，zhuyaobiaoxianchuqua，neiyangtabudanburongyikanbushang，haihuijixuganjuenitaorenxihuan，henxuxurusheng，niyenenggoujijijiangchuzishendekunao，xiangtayaoqiuxiezhu，tahuizaochengbeinixuyaohejieshoudejuede。”

woyiqianbingbulejieyuanxian“guodujizhi”huirangxiaoliangganjueta“bubeixuyao”。

 huazhenqingganshizhenshijia？miyaojiaoshihaigenwoshuo：“shijishangquanbunanrendourenke：qianyaojinvrenhuadejianjie，dannixuyaoshitazaixinzhongrentongnishinidenvren，neiyangshijian，huoli，ganqing，qiancaitadoushihuixiangyaojijizijintouruxuduo 。”

 miyaolaoshirangwoyishidao：wodezhuduogerenxingwei，bingmeiyourangxiaoliangrentong“woshinidenvren”，yinci womendeguanxizhizhiliuzaibiaoceng，shijianzhangledangranjiudanle。

 zhihou，wozhujiangangkaishihexiaoliangliaowogongzuozhongdegongzuoyali，worichangshenghuodekunao，woshuxia“buqinfen”，shangpinxiaoshouqudaotuozhanbuchuquzheixie，miyaojiaoshiyoutishiguowoliuyi“youqianrushen”，bukeyijiaoqianyanshen，zai“zhuyaobiaoxian”dexianducengmianyebangwolexuduo tiyihejutizhidao。

dangwomengangkaishijiji“jiejin”xiaoliang，tayijianshidexintaibuyaneryudiyinqiexuduo 。

miyaolaoshishuowojiaoda denantibianshi——duinanrenmeiyou“qiuzhiyu”。

zheigeshishenme?bushiwohendong?

 miyaolaoshishuo：“niyanyizishendejizhirenwuguanxi，shiyouyunideguishugandi，yinci nijiangzishenfengbishizaizishendequanqiuli，nijibuhaoqixintaren，youbuxutarenaijin，neiyangdexinlizhuangtaizenmekenengrangtarenjieshouni，genniguanliantiwenni?”

 “nixuyaoquchangshihaoqixinlingyifangdegongzuozhongyushenghuo，jitamenyizhongdajiayijingrongjinxianghurichangshenghuodejuede，dajiadeguanliancaihuichuxianzhidetigaoa。”