花镇 冷爱有用吗？聪明女人这样去沟通

 “huazhen lengaixianghuzhijiankexueyanjiusanzhou、enaisangeyue、chaojiasannian、xianghurenshousanshinian，suihoudaoxiaopengyoumenlaifanfuyiyangdeshizheichengweiwanhun。”tashizhumingxiaoshuojiataiencengshuoguodeyijuhua。

youxierenzaichaojiaquanguochengzhongchaozhechaozhejiusankai，neimadaodizenyangchaojiacaikeyirangliangrenguanlianyuebianyuehaoni?

1、答复另一方的情绪

 lianrenchaojiadaduoshuqingxuchaoguodadaoli，niyizhizailingyifangyouqingxushijianglitabachengshitingbujin，danniyanzhetadehuashuoxialai，neidajia2geyehuiyulaiyucaogao。

zheishihouzhiyouxianzhuazhulingyifangdeqingxu，denglingyifangqingxupingwenzaijiejuedajiaweihechaojiadenanti。

 jiarulingyifangshuo：“wotounaoyoumaobing，quanshiwodecuoxingleba”，tingdechuqulingyifangshidaizhuqingxude，niruguoranhoutadehuashuo，lingyifangqingxuxuanxiechubulaidajiadeguanlianzongshigengcaogao。

 congmingdenvrenneiyangshuo：“shangpinbuyaoshengqibaoqianjinixinqingyumenle。”xianranglingyifangganjuenigentashilizaitongyibianshilejietabingshitaqingxuhuodejianqing，caiburongyirangdajiayuechaoyuezao。

2、察觉另一方的必须

wulunnanshenghuanshinvhai，lianaizhonggenlingyifangchaojiaquanshiwukebimian，neiruhefangzhizhengzhi，zuizhongyaoshixunzhaochaojiadeyuangu。

 huazhen lengaijugeshili：lianaiguochengzhongxuduo nvhaichaojiaxiaitifenshou，huazhen lengaidantamenshiqueshixiangfenshouma?dabufendoubingbushi。

tamentifenshoushiyouyuzishenzaihudedianjiangguohenshuciyemeiyouhuodechuli，pobudeyijiuyongfenshoudefangfaposhilingyifangrangbu。

 lirutashuolehenshuciyanfanyelibuxizaojiurushui，kenimeifangzaixinlirengranbenxingwusu，nijuededaodeshiqingyizhizuobudao，haiyiciyicidejitakoutoushangfuwuchengnuodeng。

zheishihouhenduonanshenggaobudong，neixinhaixiangtaweihelaoshibafenshouguazaizuishang，youdelianrenyinerjiuqueshifenshouqueshiyihan。

xunzhaodajiachaojiadeyuanguhenzhongyao，jiarulingyifangzaihudedianqueshijiushinidebuzhengque，neibufangbushizhezhegaizhengni?

3、表述自身的需求

lingtinglingyifangyaoqiusuiranguanjian，ruheqiadangbiaoshuzishendeyaoqiuyeyiyangguanjian。

 liangrenzaiyiqifeichangshaoyouyuyuanzewentideshifashengzhengzhi，dabufenbushilejielingyifangdeniantou，youqishigangtiezhinan，nibushuoqingxitamenchedinongbudong。

 birulaozongzhizeni，nixinqingyumengennanyoufalaosao，jiarunijuede：“jinrihuibaogongzuoneimaduoderen，laozonggongranbawoshuoleyidun。”

nijiangwanzheijuhua，lingyifangxiangdeshilaozongweihezhizeni，nifanshenmecuowule，danniyaoxiangdejinjinkuanweilejie。

 ninengneiyangshuo：”wolaozongdangneimaduoderenjiangguowoyidun，haofahuohaodiumianzi，kuaidaiwoyiqiquchidunhuoguodiangaoxingyixia。”nideyaoqiubiaoshudehenqingxi，ninanyoudangranhuiduizhengzhiliao。

ruguoshinanshengpengdaoneiyangdezhuangkuang，ninvyoumeiyouquelibiaoshuzishenyaoqiudanxianzhushixinqingyumen。

nibuyaoguanshenmeshiqing，zongeryanzhizunzhaoyigebiaozhun，hetalizaitongyibiananweilejiexiangyongta，zheibiquandouqiang。