有被花镇骗过的吗？如何快速和对方推进关系？

 yizhayan，qixijiukuaidaole，youguaqileyibogaobiedanshendefengchao，kehuanshiyouhenduoyuwomaiyuanshuo，youbeihuazhenpianguodema？xiaoshuaigemingmingjiuduizishenhenjijizhudong，kepianyaobianshibugaobai，zheitigaizenmebana?

queshi，zheileihushanghuxiadeqingkuang，fandaozuishilingrenfanzaobuan，ganghaoyingyingjiupengdaoleneiyangdenandian。

 yizhiyilai，yingyingyouyuzaiwaiziqiyegongzuozhong，meiyoushenmetanlianaidegongzuojingyan，zheicaituolaidaosanshisuidouhaimeigaobiedanshen。cici，zongsuanqiyepengyouxiangxijieshaoleyigebiaozhunfeichanghaodexiaohuoer，liangrenpengmianyihou，yingyinghenlingrenmanyi，nanxingyezhuyaobiaoxiandetingjijizhudong，changchangyuetaquyongcankandianshijunaxiede。

 yingyingxintoujiqing，benrenweizishenxunsujiukeyigaobiedanshenle，quexiangbudao，zheilinmenyijiaodeshierjiuhaoxiangkasiyiyang，lianggebanyueguoqu，nanhaiziqueyidianbiaobaideyisiyemeiyou。

 wojuede，likejiuxuyaoqixijiele，fanzhepenyouquanzhongdahuoergezhonggeyangxiuenaidedongtaixing，yingyinggengweifannaole，buqingchuzishenzheiyiduanyoudayishang，lianaiweimandeguanlian，jiujingshinagejieduanchulenanti，kuzhelianyuwomaiyuanshuo，ruhekanjianbierengaobiedanshendouneimafeichangrongyi，lunlaidaozishen，ruhejiuneimananni?

 xianglaipengdaoheyingyingyiyangqingkuangdeni，yeyijingfannaoba。buyaozheji，jinrijiaoshijiulaijidajiajiangxia，gaizenyangxunsutuidongguanlian，jiniyeguoshangyigexingfukuailedeqixijie。

neidajiazuixianeryanshuo，weishenmenanhaizizhuyaobiaoxiandejijizhudong，quebuzhudonggaobaini?

这大概分成三种状况：

1、nanxingxiusehuoshimeijieshoudaonvxingdeshujuxinhao，buganbiaobai

 dequeyouyixiebutaiyoutanlianaideganjue，huoshijiaoweineixiangxingxiusedenanhaier，youkenenghuiyouyudanyouzishenbeijujue，eryizhichichibugaobai。

2、nanxingyouyuxingqinghuoshiyiwangganqingjinglideyuangu，kandaiqingganjiaoweishenzhong

 youbeihuazhenpianguodema？youyibufennanhaizi，tongchangbanshixiaihoujierbofa，yinerzaitanlianaicengmiantamenyeshiyiyang，huiconggegefangmianguanchazhihou，zaixiajuece。

 zheileizhuangkuangyoukenengshinanhaizizishenxingqingzaocheng de，yeshiyoukenengshitamenyiqianyudaoguoxinshang，yizhiyutamenzaidutiaoxuanqinggandeqingkuangxiajiuyuelaiyuegengweishenzhongqilai，burongyicongmanggaobai。

zhishihuitiaoxuanzaizheileiyoudayishang，lianaiweimandeguanlianliduozhiliuyiduanshijian，bianjiezishenjinyibuguanchahetiaoxuan。

3、nanxinglingwaichupenglehenduozongtimubiaonvhai，zuoyuchangguanli

 yeyouyizhonggailv，shinanxinghenyoukenengzaitongyishijianchupenglehenduonvhai，keshiyishijiandouhaimeixinjijindaolianaidejieduandeyaoqiu，yinci bianhuichuxianyuchangguanlidezhuangkuang。

 zheiyileidenanhaizi，tongchanghuiduinvhaijiji，keshihuizaiyidingshuipingshangfangzhinuanweidezhuangkuang，chuxiannijinwotui，nituiwojindezhuangkuang。

 neima，pengdaozheileizhuangkuang，dajiagaizenmezuo，caikeyixunsutuidongguanlianni?neizaizheier，jiaoshijidahuoerchushisanzhaoshifenhelidexunsutuidongguanliandeduice：

diyi，yingyongnuanweifangfajiechuanlingyifang。

 dangdajiafajuenanxingduinigerenxingweishanghenjijizhudong，danbianshibugaobaidezhuangkuangxia，nenggoushizheyixienuanweideyuyanhegerenxingwei，kanyixialingyifangshibushijiezhao。

 liru，zaiyouhuideqingkuangxia，xingzoushuciyibuxiaoxinyudaolingyifangdeshoubei，suihouzaijiaomeidelaiyiju“aiyo，kanzhewojianzhiyibuxiaoxin，yizhidajinni，wodoucongweiyurenzoudeneimajinguoni”

 cike，jiarulingyifangshiyouyuxiuseerbuganbiaobai，jienadaoneimexianzhudeshujuxinhao，huichuxianjudadehenyoukenengbiaoming，neiwomenkeyizaikaojinyidian，huoshijijiqianzhunideshou，neiyangguanlianjiukeyimingzhengyanshundexiangxiatuidongle。

dier，yingyonghuilafangfa，jiqigaobaiqudongli。

 ruoshidanchunxingdenuanweimeiyoushijixiaoguo，lingyifangbujiezhao。zheigeshihou，ninengshizheyingyongyixieyuqingguzongdehuilagerenxingwei，jiqinanhaizidegaobaiqudongli。

为何这样说呢?

 youbeihuazhenpianguodema？jidahuoerjugelizi，liruniyuyigenanshengjiaowang，yikaishinihenyoukenengbingbingbushihenzaihuzheiyinanhaizi，keshitameiwandoupeizhenixianliao，yunidaowananhaomeng，erqietayizhijianchibuxiele2geyue，zhangciyiwangnifangfoyexiguanzheiyinanhaizideshouhou。danzheigeshihouturanyouyitian，nanhaizimeiyouzaiciyuenile，ninengruhexiangni?

woxiangjuedaduoshunvhaihaowuyiwenhuizhanzhuannanmian，neixindanxinbuji，xiangxinjihuoliaoyiyangxiang：

 tashizenmehuishi，zenmebuyaowole，nandaoshuojiushiwojiangcuoshenmehualeme，huanshitashoujimeidian，huoshihezuile，huanshiwangjile，gaiburongyishiyouquzhaobiedenvhaileba?

 niyidinghuiyouhenduodecaixiang，errendexinlianshishihenkongbude，ruguoniyulaiyuguanxintadeqingkuangxia，yulaiyuzaihutazenmemeiyouyueniledeqingkuangxia，jieguodiertiantahuanshimeiyouyuniwanan，ninenggengjiazhongneiyangdexintai，gengweizaoxinxinji。

 suihoudengdisantian，tayouxiufuyuenile，henijuedeqianjitianshoujipingmuhuaile，zheigeshihounihaowuyiwenhuizhangchuyikouqi，suihoujibukenaiyaoxianghetayougengjinyibudefazhanqushile，zheigenijiuchengweiyuqinguzong，budanduinvhaihenheli，duinanhaiziyeshiyiyangdee。

yinci ，kandaizheixieyizhiyuninuanwei，youbuyuanyigaobaidenanhaizi，yaohendexiaxin。

 liru，dangdajiaxianliaoliaodehenhuobaodeqingkuangxia，nihurandaijimeiyouhuiyingle。huoshi，shuodajiayuanbenyuehaoyaoquganmaganma，jieguonihuranweiyue。youhuoshijiushinihuranchixuertianyemeiyouzhaota，doumeiyouhuiyingtaweixinle。

 jilao，nidezheizhonggerenxingweishijishangjiuhaoxiangshishanshuiguohuazhongdeliubaiyishu，tongchangzheizhongliubaiyishushibizheixiesecaibinfendeyibufenlingrenxiaside。