我在花镇购买了感情咨询服务，如何“调情”？

 wozaihuazhengoumaileganqingzixunfuwu，zixunzhong，changchangtingjiannvhaimaiyuan：gaobiedanshenqueshishizhendehennan，xuduo nvhaiyeshimutaisolo，naizhiersanshinianyemeiyoutanguotanlianai。

 tamenjingchangshuo：“qidaiwoshiyigejinidongxinderen，erbushihengliangxuanzepouxiliyubihou，ganjuefeichanghaoderen。”huoshibingzhepengdaofeichanghao，yubushangladaodefoxingxinlizhuangtai，yizhidanshenzhe。

 tamenhuishulizishenmutaisoloshiyouyubuyuancouhe，keshizaibierenlaikan，chunsuishixiaitadetaqiaobuqi，takandeshangdeyouyizhitaoyanta，zaixiangqinyuehuijienaizhiguangweiliuchuanzheyijuhua：sanshisuidegaolingmutaisolobilihundaizhuxiaohaihuoshishierhundenvxinggengjiakongbu。

 youyunanshengganjuemutaisolomeiyoutanguotanlianai，duiganqingqidaiguogao，diaoshihemoheqidechengbenfeihaibibushanglijizhaoyigelilehundenvxing，zhishaoyougongzuojingyan，jiaowangqilaijieshengchengben。

 mutaisoloqueshineimekongbuma?yaoxianggaobiedanshenqueyizhiyubushangshihejiujingyinggaizenmeban?denglezheimeduoniannandaoshuoyaorangbuma?niyaoranggaobiedanshenyuelaiyuexiangdiaofayiyangqingqingsongsongma?

jinrijiugendahuoerjiangxiagaolingmutaisolozenmecainengkuaisugaobiedanshen?

 xueshengxiliu2020nian31，peixunjigoujiaoshi，yuegongzi8000+，zhangxiangzhongdengshuiping，shenxingyiban，xingqingyixiechenwen，ningjingdebiaomianxia，youkezaodongdexin。

 tabingbuneixiangxingkuzao，gaoxiaodeqingkuangxiachurenguowenhuayulekezhang，gongzuozhongshiyechangchangbaomingcanjiapengyoujuhuihuodong，yiqilvyou，kantadeweixinpengyouquan，yejuedeshigeshenghuoqieyiyougediaodenvhai，keshiyeshenrenjingshideqingkuangxia，gudanyizhisuibianxilai。

 youshitabaqipanjiyuyuqingchunouxiangju，kanjianzheixietianmei，xiangxiangzishendeganqingyangzi，dantayebushiyigezhikanzhangxiangdenvhai，tayeqipanyouzheyigezhongshenbanlv，keshitaxinlingshenchuquejingchangwenyixiaziji：lingyifanghuikandelaima?tashizhenxinshiyixihuanwodema?

yinci ，pengdaoxinaideren，tayaobuyaoyuandekanjian，yaobudengbierenyiaijin，jiuyongjinglakai。

 mutaisolodejingkuangshiduoshaodoushiyouleisi，keshidaozhimutaisolodeyuanguquedouyougedebuyiyang，wozaihuazhengoumaileganqingzixunfuwu，zixunzhongchupenglegeshigeyangmutaisolodenvhai，huizongleyixia，zenmehuimutaisolo，youxialiejileiyuangu：

第一种、自我认知出现偏差的原因

wozaihuazhengoumaileganqingzixunfuwu，fenerzhongzhuangkuang：yizhongshiguoduobuzixin，yizhongshiguoduoziyiweishi。

guoduobuzixinrutongshilizhongdexiliuyiyang，bujianxinzijishifeichangzhideshenaide，pengdaoqingganyizhihuila。

 yuzhifanguolaideshiduiguoduoziyiweishi，zishenyanlidezishenhebierenyanlidezishencunyouchabie，jingchangganjuezishenfeichanghaohenchuse，daozhikandeshangzishenderenganjuebupeizishen，kandeshangdeyouzhinanyouqiaobuqizishendeqingkuang。

第二种、“心灵毒鸡汤并发症”

 zhenduiqingganyoutuolishijidexiangxiang，liruxihuankanqingchunouxiangju，duiganqingchongmanlelangmanpaidexiangxiang，yangaoshoudinaxiangxiangzhongdeganqingqukaoliangshiji。

 rutonghaoduohaoduonvhaizuibianshuodeshimeiyouguifan，shishishangbushishexianzhi，youshiganglejiedeqingkuangxiaganjuelingyifanghaibucuo，zhangwoyihouyouganjuetabuguoshigepingchangren。

第三种、“过多思考谈恋爱成本费”

 jinguanshuoyingduiqinggan，keguanchaoguoganqingshichengshudebiaozhi，keshiqinggantazishenshiyigeshifenlixingdeshier，yuefazhanqianguhou，keguanjishizhisun，jiuyuenanpengdaoheshide，eryuenangaobiedanshen，biranyouzaocheng gengkeguanshenzhong，shenxianneiyangdeyigebihuankongzhizhizhong，zongshiranggaobiedanshenyuelaiyuegengweinanyidadao。

yigemutaisolo33niandexueshengshuoguoyiduanhuayinxiangyouqikegumingxin,tashuo：

 “shibasuideqingkuangxianishiganyuchangshide，nijuedehexiaidenanshengyechabuguoduo，meiyouyouqidadejianju。sanshisuideqingkuangxia，nixiaileyigenansheng，danniyejiuqingxidelejieniliangbutaikeneng，bingbushiyigeshijiederen。ninengsisuotaruhekanni，huisisuozhibuzhigangkaishizheiyiduantanlianai，huikaolvdaotanlianaidechengbenfei，huikaolvdaozheikaolvdaonei，kaolvdaodeyueda，jiuyuebutaikenenggangkaishi。”