为什么要做任性的妈妈

 weirenmudouqidaibangzishendehaizidejiaoyudechuse，yincixuduomamashifendejiaoguanzishendehaizi，naxiebixuzishenshibigongqin，zheileibuqiuhuibaodegerenxingweikanshangqushihenjiechu，keshishijishangshiduihaizidefazhanqushiweihaishihenbutaihaode。 huazhenqinggan wangbianrenwenmuqinyoushiyingdangdongdezisizilirenxing，zuogerenxingdemuqinrangzishendehaizichupengyixiexindedongxi，bupatamenfancuowu。

一、需不需要做“自私自利任性”的母亲

1、nvxingzuigaojidechuse，jiushishuozuoziji

 zhinengmuqinzisizilirenxingyidianer，huodexiaosakaixinyixie，zaojiuwennuandeziranhuanjing，haizicaiyoujianghuidedaodaliangdexingfukuaile。yincishiduneishihouzuoyihuirenxingmuqinhuanshishifendebixude。

2、yanghaiziyaotaoqian，danbukeyizhitaoqian

 xuduorencengjiangnvshiderenshengdaoluquhuaweisangehuanjiebaohan（hunqian，hunhou，shengxiaohaihou）。jiehunqian，zuizhuzhongzishen，yuanyihuaxuduoqianchuanzhedaban，tigaozishen。zishenyuelaiyuechuse，caihuipengdaogengqiangderen；hunhou，zuizhuzhonglaogong。zhangfuchuse，zheiyijiacaiyouqingmian；weirenmuhou，zuizhuzhonghaizi。suzaoyigechusedehaizi，shihoubanbeizizuiguanjiandeshi。

 duiyuwobingbushirenke，dancongyouwazhihoushuo，renmentijimuqin，naohaizhonglizuikaishishanguodexingrongci，yexujiushishuobuqiuhuibaode。

 danshi，buqiuhuibaoburenxingmamademamaqueshishihaizibixudema？shehuixuejialixuecengzai《dangniyushangyigeren》zhongtidaoguozheiyinanti。dangtazishenxiangxichuangdandeneishihou，muqinyaoshuo：nixibuzhengjie，haishechilangfeishui，huanshibangwoyiqixileba。

 dangquguangchaoshi，taxuanzezishenxiaidejizhongdongxi，muqinhaihuisaijitayiduilingshi，suihoujiushuo：niquyitangshangchangdeyaohuafei，biwoyigeyuedouduo。dangtachangshiguanzhumuqin，huodedehuifuqueshiniqukanshuzouba，bubiguanwo。

 tademuqinjiuhaoxiangyigeshengxian，meiyouzishendebixuhetihui，danquehuimaiyuan：wolaihaizinulineimaduo，taquecongbuguanzhuqianjiuwoyixia。tapouxidao：muqindexinliwubiqueai，duihuodeaizaoyishiluo，yinciyaogenjuxunzhizishen，laikaolvwo，jianjiedekaolvta‘benzhidexiaohaizi’，ershishishang，wo‘duozou’lenage‘neizaixiaohai’deai。neiyangduizishendehaizieryanbingfeineimadehao，youshihuanshiyaozuohuirenxingdemuqin。

3、yixieaikanqilaibuqiuhuibao，queshisunhai。

 rutongronggechangshuo：fumuduihaizizuibutaihaodeweihai，moguoranghaiziganjuetamendefumumeiyouxiangyaoyougejia。queliqinzihudongjiexian，mingbaishiduchechu，neima，zenyangzuoyigezisizilirenxingdemuqin，tigaohaizideyouyueganni？

 yiqian，zhuyuchendemuqinshouhuanyinggedawangzhan。zhumuqinzaiyulejiemushangzhiyan：woyeshiyongzishendexingmingqukandaierzide，chedimeiyouzishen。meirilingchensidian，jierzizhulitang，yizhujiushishuoshinian；erzifadexinlangweiboheduanxiaoxi，tabixuqinzichaozaibenzihshang；yizhiyu，erzidemeiyiduanqinggan，tadoushiganshe。

tadefuwuzongzhishi：buguanerzilaidaonaer，doushijitamengewennuandejiudianchufang。

 dongji，beijingshijimaocaibutaihaomai，tachaoleyipen，zishenbushedechi，quanjiaojierzichi。danshi，erzibingbuyuanchi。tayoukaiyankuqingxi：yibianrangnishaocai，shoudouliekailea。

 tameikongguanzhuairendetihui，yizhiyucongmeikaolvdaoguozishendeyishizhuxing，jinjinzhuanxinzhizhidiaizhehaizi。zheileibuqiuhuibaodeai，queyouqianwandunzhizhong，yazheerzichuanbuhuilaiqi，meifahuijue，baituobuke，zhiyoutongchudichengdanzhe。

 mamawoquanshizaihunideyiqiangganxin，zuihoubierzijiangchuwufayiguo，wokeyibeinigaosideyindudehua。jiaruomuqinnengzisizilirenxingyixie，zhuyuchenshifoufandaomeineimelei。

 zhenshideaibingbushiweihuyucaozong，zhishifangkaishou。rutonglijianyouyishouge：「niaoershuizaiwoshenbian，rutonghuaduotuqingxiang，sheiyebukeyisunhaita，woxiangweihutaaoxiang