不自信的男生，该怎么追女生

 zuijinshoudaofensiwendezuiduodeyigewentishi“buzixindenansheng，gaizenmezhuinvsheng”。houtailiuyanzuiduodeciyushi：“bugan”。zuiduodewentishi：“buzhidaoweishenme”。“wobuganhetashuohua。”“wobuganqujiantadepengyou。”wobuganfanbotabuduidedifang。”wobuzhidaoweishenme，tayoushihoupiqihenhao，youshihouyoubuliwo。”“wobuzhidaoweishenme，tazongshimomingqimiaodeshengqi，wobuzhidaozuocuoleshenme?”“wobuzhidaoweishenme，tamingmingzhidaowodexinyi，quezongshiyaozhuangmeng。”wobuzhidaozenmezhuinvsheng，wobuzhidaoyounaxiezhuinvshengjiqiao。

 qishizheixiezhuinvshengde“bugan”he“buzhidao”doulaiyuanyuduizijidebuzixin。zixindenanren，buhuiyouzheimeduodeguji，yebuhuiyouneimeduodeyilv。yinweitamenzaibuqingchuqingkuangdeshihou，youliangzhongxuanze。

yishi，tamenzugouzixin，tamenhuirenweibuquanshitamendewenti，danyaoqubieyuzida，zaiyutamenshifousikaoguowenti。

ershi，ruguozugouzixin，youyihuodeshihou，huixuanzezhijiexunwen。

zenmezhuinvsheng，buzixindenanrenshizenyangdeni?

 yiqianbanshangyigenansheng，tagefangmiandoutingyouxiude，weiyijiushitayidandangzhehenduorenshuohuajiuhuiyoudiankouchi。zuikaishitabuzaiyizheijianshier，jishishuohuahuijieba，tayehuizirandishangtaiquyanjiang。zhidaotaxihuanshangyigenvsheng，erbuqiaoneigenvshengqueyouxiejieyitadezheigequedian。congneiyihouni，jiuzaiweijianguotazixindizoushangtaiqule。bujinruci，tahaiyouyigegaibian，jiushitameicirenshiyigexinpengyou，tadouhuitijiaogaosuduifang，tayoukouchidemaobing，yongyizhongdiaokanziheidefangshi。

 wowentaweishenmeyaozheiyangzuo，tashuo：“zheishuomingwobuzaihuzheigequediana，wobuhuiyincibuzixina，nixiangkankan，wodoubuyanshiwodequedianle，sheihaihuijuedewoyincizibeini?”

ng，yikaishiwojuedetashuodeyoudaoli。keshihoulaiyixiang，zhenzhengdebuzaihu，buyinggaishizhizhibulima?

 tazongshiti，bushifanerzhengmingle，zheijianshiyizhianzaitadexinshangma?tayueshibuyanshiquedian，faneryueshiyizhongduizijineixinlibuzixindeyanshi。

 bukefourendeshi，nanrendouxihuanpiaoliangdenvren。tamenzaizhuiqiuxinyidenvrenshiwangwangdoushibuzixinde，feichangzaiyiduifangdepingjia，kaojintamenjiuhuijuedexinxu，keshimianduihenputongdenvhaizebuhuizheiyang。zheishiyinweizaidaduorenyanzhong，“wobuzixin”dakeyiyong“woqianxu”laiyanshi，erbuziliangli，laihamaxiangchitianerouqueshizaishiyizhongbeirenxianqidezuofa。

suoyibuzixinshiguigenjiedishiyizhongyanshi。

 buzixinshihaipabiaodachuzhenshidezijihoubeishehuilideqitarensuoburentong，congermanmanxingchengyigexujiadeziji，yigebuzhenshideziji。jiranwomenshuobuzixinbenzhishangshiyizhongyanshi，neimeyanshijiushiyaobuluchurenhemajiao，erbugaibianjiushizuiwentuodeyizhongfangshi。

 zixinderenhuiyongyuchangshi，tamenkewangshenglihehuode，tamenhuiquzhengqu，buhuiyanshizijidexuqiu，shibailedabulezailaiyici。erbuzixinderenwangwanggubuzifeng，buganchangshi，tamentongyangkewangshenglihehuode，danshitamenweileyanshi，bianhuixuanzequansuo。

zenmezhuinvsheng，zhuinvshengjiqiaoyounaxie？

weishenmewomenhuidebuzixin?zenmezhuinvsheng？

第一，因为社会价值观告诉我们，我们是低价值的。

 xianzaideshehui，haoxiangyouyitaokeyifenbianyigerenjiazhideguize。shengao，tixing，zhangxiang，jinqian，xueli，gongzuozheixiedongxichengweileyigerenshifouyouxiudezhibiao。

 ruguonizijuedabudaopingjunshuiping，neimenijiuhuimorenzijidedijiazhi。danshiqishizheidoushishehuijiazhiduinideshufueryi，qishimeigerendoushipingdengde。

 jishinihegaojiazhiderendequecunzaichaju，neiyezhishishehuirenzhishangdechajueryi。niqishisuoxiaolezishenqitadeyoudian，tongshiyehulveleqitarendequedian。

第二，因为从未得到过，有一种陌生的恐惧。

 ruguoniconglaimeiyoudedaoguonvren，niduinvrenziranerranyouyizhongweizhidekongju。danshidangnidedaoguole，nijiuhuifaxianqishibingmeiyourenhelingninankanyugangadeshiqinghuifaxian，niziranerranjiubuhuineimekongjule。

zenyangzaiqingganzhongcongbuzixinbiandezixinni?zenmezhuinvsheng？

henjiandan，jiushibiezaiyanshile，nixihuandejiushinixihuan，nidexuehuizhenshidibiaodazijideqinggan。

“woxihuanta，danshiwobuganduitashuo。”wodeyigepengyoulaoshizheiyangduiwoshuo。

“weishenmebuganni?”wowenta，tashuo：“yinweiwojuedewozijipeibushangta。”

 jianeryanzhijiushibuzixin，eryouyoutaiduoderenxihuanyong“tataihao”，laiyanshizijidebuzixinle。womenyaozuodejiushichedirengdiaozheixiekeyiyonglaiyanshiwomendeneixinzhenshixiangfahexuqiudezhexiubu，yongyigezhenshidezijiqushenghuo。manmandinijiuhuifaxian，shehuijiazhijinideyalihuimanmanbianxiao，nibudebuchengrenniqueshibibierenai，niqueshimeibierenfuyou，danneiyouruheni?

 womenqishiyoubanfaqusuoxiaozheizhongchajude，dangnibuzaibuzixin，yongyuxunqiujinbudeshihou。dangranzuijutidebanfawoyekeyigaosuni，jiushibuzhidaoniganbuganquzuo。meitianlisuonengjidiyinideyangzi，qugongzuoheshenghuo，buyaolanduo。

tongshimeitianduisangenvxingzhanxiannizuizhenshideyangzi。zhuinvshengjiqiao。

xihuantajiushuo：“nijintianchuandequnzitingpiaoliangde，wohenxihuanzheiyangdeni。”

yijianbuhejiushuo：“woqueshijuedezheiyangzuobuhao，wojianyizanmenkeyizheiyangquzuo?”

xiangfenxiangjiushuo：“qiantiankandedianyingzhendehenbucuo，buzhidaonixihuanzheizhongleixingdedianyingma?”

 zuihouzaishuoyicizenmezhuinvsheng，suoyoubuzixindebiaoxiandoushiyanshi，xiangyaozuoyigezixinderen，jiushichediaosuoyoudeyanshi，zuoyigezhenshideziji。