zailiangxingguanxizhong,85%denanshengrenweilianaishizheiyang,henvhaixianrenshi,lianggerenhuxiangjieshao,jiandanlejieyixia,ranhouyuehui、chifan,biciganjuebucuo,shizijixihuandeleixing,diercizaiyuechulai,guangjie、chifan,ranhouduinvshengbiaobai,dengdainvhaijieshou,quelinannvpengyouguanxi,ranhouqianshou、jiewen……ruguonishizheiyangdexiangfa,zaizhuinvshengdeshihou,henkenenghuiyiweidetaohaonvren,jiuhuijinvshengsongliwu,chejiechesong,qingnvshengchidacan,ruguonvhaishuoleshenme、zuoleshenme,nihuiwuxiaxiandetaohaonvhai。kepadeshi,daozuihou,beinvshengguiweibeitai。zenmezhuinvsheng?zheiyangzhuinvshengkeshibuxingde,nixuyaozhangwoyixiezhuinvshengjiqiao。
zailianaizhong,zailiangxingguanxizhong,zhengquedezhanshihexiyin,cainengrangnvhaizhenzhengxihuan。ruguonizhanshidejiazhi,shinvhaixihuande,neinvhaijiuhuibeinixiyin,congergenniqueliguanxi;ruguonizhanshidejiazhi,nvhaibuxihuan,nvhaibuxiangyao,nvhaiyejiubuhuihenizaiyiqi,daluchaotian,gezouyibian。
xiamianjiuhedajiafenxiang,zainannvjiaowangzhong,nanrenshenmeyangdexingwei(yejiushijiazhi)caihuiduinvrenyouqiangdadexiyinli。
一、界限感
jiexianganjiushiyaoyouzijidebianjiehuozhekuangjia,nixihuanshenme,buxihuanshenme;bierenduinishenmeyangdexingwei,ninengjieshou;bierenduinishenmeyangdexingwei,nibunengjieshou,zheijiushijiexiangan。
zaizhuinvshengdeshihou,ruguoniyiweiditaohao,nvhaiduinishenmeyangdexingwei,nidounengjieshou,huzhizelai,huizhijiqu,neinvhaijiuhuirenweinihenrongyidedao,yuerongyidedaode,nvhaifanerbuhuizhenxi。
zenmezhuinvshengbiru,jintiannvhaixiangchiniupai,nixuyaojiaban,jintianbunengqupeita,tajiuwuliqunao,yaohenifenshou,nipatagennifenshou,nijiulimafangxiashoutoudegongzuo,qupeitachiniupai,tongguozheiyijianxiaoshi,jiuhuijinvhaiwuyishizhongxia,nimeiyoujiexian,tayaoshenme,nijiuhuimanzudezhongzi。tajiuhuixingchengxiguan,ruguonibumanzutadeyaoqiu,tajiuhuiwuliqunao。jiuerjiuzhi,nvhaihuigennisuoyaogengshechidedongxi,mingpaibaobao、haoche、haozhaidengdeng,dangmouyitian,nishizaibunengmanzutadeyaoqiu,tajiuhuigennifenshou。
zailianaidangzhong,ruguonifuchutaiduo,touzitaiduo,dangnvrengennifenshoudeshihou,nikenenghuizuochu,kuzheguiqiunvrengennifuhedexingwei,yinweinvhaiyijingzhidao,nimeiyoukesuoqudejiazhile,renpingnizuorenhewanhuideshiqing,tayebuhuigennifuhe,zheiduanguanxiyejiujieshu。
zenmezhuinvsheng?4gelianaixintairangtaduinixiaoluluanzhuang(xueheleidelianaijingyan)
suoyi,jiexianganzailianaidangzhongshifeichangzhongyaode。womenzaizhuinvhaideqianqi,jiuyaorangnvhaikandaowomendejiexiangan,buyaoyiweiditaohao,ruguonvhaideyaoqiubuheli,chaochunijieshoudefanwei,jiuyaozhijiejujue。
biru,nvshengshuo:“jintianxiabanhenwanle,nilaijiewoba。”
zheishihou,niyoushizoubukai。
jiukeyiduinvhaishuo:“buhaoyisi,wojintianyoudianshizoubukai,nizijidacheba,lushangzhuyianquan。”
ruguotashuo:“buxing,wojiuyaonilaijiewo,ruguonibulaijiewo,wojiurangbiedenanrenlaijiewo。”
zheijuhuashinvrenjingchanghuiyongde,weixienanren,dangnvrenzheimeyishuo,nijiupidianpidiandequle,jinggao!!neinijiuwandanle。
zhengquedezuofashi,xianlimaodegentashuo:“guaila,wojintianhenmang,woxianzaizaizuoshenmeshenmeshi,shizaizoubukai,zijidacheba”
ruguotashuo:“haoba。”zheijianshijiuwanmeijiejuele。danruguotahaishiwuliqunao,genbenmeibiyaodalitale,renxing,bulijienidenvren,yaotayoushenmeyong?renyoutaquba,bushinideliuyeliubuzhu。
二、自信
zhuinvshengjiqiaoshenmejiaozixindenanrenni?
zixindenanrenduigongzuo、shenghuochongmanxinxin,taxiangxinzijihuichenggong,bingbuduanfuchunuli,yongyuanhuaibaoxiwang,shenghuozaiyangguangxia,leguan,jijixiangshang。zixindenanrenbupacuozhe,bupadaji,zijinenggouzhanshengnanguan。
zixindenanrenyudaoxihuandenvhai,huiyongganhenvshengrenshi,huiyonggandezhuiqiuta,zixindenanrenzailianaizhong,buhuiyoubuanquangan,buhuiyoukongzhiyuhezhanyouyu,feichangxiangxinnvpengyou。zixindenanrenhenvrenjiaowang,nengdaijinvrenhaoqingxuhejijixiangshangdeshenghuotaidu,nvrenhetazaiyiqi,nengkandaoweilai。
danhenduonanshengjiandaoxihuandenvhai,yinweibuzixin,bugangennvhaishuohua,bugangennvhairenshi,tarenweizheigenvhaitaipiaoliangle,renweitayounanpengyoule,suoyoudeyiqie,douzaizijixiangxiang。
yinweimeitiguanshudeshisujiazhiguan,gaosuni“nanrenmeiqianjiubupeiyounvpengyou,nanrenmeiqianjiubupeijiehun。”shijishang,tamendemudeshixiangtuixiaoshechipin,tuixiaofangzi。ruguoniyinweimeiqian、meiche、meifangjiubuganjiaonvpengyou,neiniyongyuanzhaobudaonvpengyou。
zhuinvshengjiqiaohaiyoudenanshengshizailianaizhongbuzixin。nvpengyouhuijiawanle,tahuiduinvpengyoubaogenwendi,lianchifan、shangcesuodeshijiandoubufangguo,bixuyaozhidaotaqunale;huozhefannvpengyoudeshouji,yinweichicu,kannvpengyoudeweixin、qq、dianhua,youmeiyouhebiedenanrenaimei;youhuozhe,kanjiannvpengyouhebiedenanshengzaiyiqi,tahuikongzhinvpengyou,buzhunrangtahebiedenanshengshuohua,buzhunchumenshangbandengdeng。
meigerendouxihuanziyou,ruguonijidubuzixin,nijinvhaizhanshidebushizhengnengliang、gaojiazhi,ershibiaoxianchufeichangqiangliedekongzhiyuhezhanyouyu,nvhaihenkenenghuilinierqu。
nvrenxihuandeshizhenzhengzixindenanren,zhenzhengzixinshiyouneierwaisanfachulaideqizhi,erbushichezi、fangzihepiaozi。
三、有主见
yizhaorenxingxintaixue,nvrenyouxuanzekongjuzheng,dangnvrenyudaoyijianshideshihou,tabuhuixuanze,ershitaobi。
zenmeyangzhuinvsheng?4gelianaixintairangtaduinixiaoluluanzhuang(xueheleidelianaijingyan)
youdexiongdihenvshengqiaodingleyuehuideshijianhedidian,danzaiyuehuizhiqian,tahaihuijinvshengfaxiaoxi,xunwennvsheng,“zheigeshijiandianniheshima?zheigedifangnimanyima?”zheijiushimeiyouzhujian,meiyouzhuxingu,dangnizheimezuole,nihenvshengdeyuehuijibenjiumeiyouxiawenle。
xianghenvshengchuquyuehui,shouxian,quedinghaonihenvshengdeshijian,shuangfangdouyoukongdeqiantixia。qici,jiushiquedinghaoyuehuidedidian,“wozhidaoyouyijiazhongqinghuoguotinghaochide,wodainiquchi,xiawuqidianzaixxhuoguojianmianba。”zheiyanghenvshengshuo,erbushi“wanshangzanmenqunalichifanya?”“nijuedequxxhuoguozenmeyanga?”buyaorangnvrenzuoxuanze。
nvrenzailianaizhong,shixuyaonanrenzhudongdailingtade,zuotadelingdaozhe。ruguonanhaigennvhaizaiyiqi,zongshimeiyouzhuyi,zongshixunwennvhaideyijian,neitashibuhuixiyindaonvhaide。
biru,henvhaigangrenshi,yiqiguangjieyuehui,elexiangzhaogefandianchifan,nvhaiwenni:“zanmenqunajiadianchiya?”zheishihou,nvhaishixiangrangnizuochujueding。ruguonishuosuibian,nvhaiyejiuliushenwuzhu,zhinenghenizaidajieshangezheduzixiaguang,nvhaiduinideyinxiangjiuhuidadazhekou,niduinvhailaishuo,jiushimeiyouxiyinde。
四、需求感
yigenvshengdeshenbian,zongshiyouhenduonanrenweiraozaitashenbian,zhengqiankonghoudejinvshengsongliwu,chejiechesong,henbudezuotade24xiaoshibaobiao,takeyiyouhenduodexuanze。suoyi,nvshengdexuqiuganyejiangdidaolezuidi,takeyimanmandetiao,manmandexuan,tiaoxuanzuiyouxiudeneiyige。ruguonibuyouxiu,nihaifeichangxiangdedaozheigenvhai,neinidexuqiuganjiuhuifeichangqiang。
dangyigerenxuqiuganfeichangqiangdeshihou,takendingdebudaoxihuandenvsheng。
“nitaipiaoliangle,shiwojianguokandenvsheng,wohenxihuanni”
“nijintianganmaqule?zenmemeihuiwoxiaoxia”
“nishashihouyoushijiana?woqingnichifan”
“xiabanleyaoquganma?woqujieniba”
……
zheixiedoushifeichangbaoluxuqiugandehua,dangnvhaitingjiannizheimeshuo,tazhihuijuedenifeichangjike,feichangquenvren,genbenbuhuixuanzehenizaiyiqi。
henduonanshengzailiaotiandeshihou,nvshengjingchangshihenjiu,huozhegesansitiancaihuifu,dantani?dangnvshengyihuifu,tajiumashangmiaohui,miaohuiwanlezhihou,youshijijing,nvshengzaigehenjiucaihuifu。zheijiushixuqiuganhenqiang,xiandenishikeshouzheshouji,jiuzaidengnvshendehuifu。
zaizhuinvshengdeshihou,womenkendinghuiyouxuqiugan,danzuoweinanren,lianaizhishishenghuoheshiyedeyibufen,womenyinggaibiaoxianchu,ruojiruoli,nvhaishikeyoukewudeyizhongganjue,rangnvhaicaibutou,zheiyangdexingweicainengzhizaoaimei,zhizaoxingzhangli,xiyindaonvhai。
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