追女生时怎么掌握主动权?

 zenyang zhuinvsheng ?xiangyaozhuiqiunvsheng，zuixiannikeyixiyinzhudaota。yaolejiexiyinzhudeshizhishizheizhongxintai，neimaruherangnvshengzaochengzheileixintaideqifuni?zhuinvshengjiqiaoyounaxie?nijinvhaizisonghua、yongcan、guanchiguansonghuoshijinriqingtayongcandeneishihouchi1geliangqiankuaiqiandeniupaibei，he1geshiduoshaowandelafei，tashiburongyiyouyuniupaibeihenmeiweiergennihuijiale。yincishuoniyiban suozuodezheizhongwupinyebukeyizaochengxintai。yaoxiangqingqingsongsongzhangwozhudaoquan，youshishibixuyouyidiudiuhuaixintai,caikeyizaochenghaodexintai。

zenyangzhuinvsheng?huaixintaizhideshishenmeni?huoxubingbushishuojiniqiyanvsheng。

yi、jiushishuobukeyucexing。

zhuinvshengjiqiaoyounaxie?zhuiqiunvshengbiqinshenjinglide4gehuanjie，jiniqingqingsongsongzhangwozhudaoquan

 juedaduoshudenvhaizaichupengnanshengdeneishihou，tamenshenpangdezheizhongnanshengdezhaoshuwojuedequanshi10nianbuhuigaibiande。jiushishuoyiqiandenanrenheshinianzhihoudenanshengduitademouxienanti，yuetaquganshenmela、yiqiguangjiegouwu、yongcan、kandianshiju，chukaishicaiyingyuanyiwai，biedequanbubuzhouquanshiyiyangde。

 xuduonanshengyehuihenanshidijitadakaqiandaoqiandaomeiwanlaidaojiudianzhongjiuhuiwen“nizaiganshenme"jinriguoderuhe”jinvshengfazheileiduanxiaoxi，zheileiwupinquanshishifencaogaode，youyunijilelingyifangshifenkeyucefenxidegerenxingweifangshi,womendoushiburongyiduizheileiwupinsuohenganxingqude。daliangdeneishihou，nibixugenjumouxiebunengyucefenxidegerenxingweiqugenlingyifanglianluo，meiyoudeguilvxing，naizhidajiaquzuodewupindouhewowangrizuodewupinbutong。

 liruwochuqulang，wojiushiburongyidoubutiyigennvshengyongcan、guangjiegouwu、kandianshiju，youyuzheixiediqudoubingfeifeichanghaodegoutongjiaoliuchangdi。woyiban huilaihewoguangnaxie，liruyijiajiaju。zheiyiyouwuxutaoqian，jinlaiyihoudaochuqu，niyizhizailibiannenggouhuayilianggezhongtouyouxuduodehuatitaolunjiqihudongjiaoliudewupinnenggouzaocheng，qudaomei1geqingjing，dajianenggoufangzhenmonichangjing，“ei，xifuniguolaikanyi.xiazheiyiwupin”，tahuiwuyuanwugudeganmayayaojiaotaxifudeng。

 huoshiniyoujiandaoyi1gezhenxin，nilijinazhezhenxindatadetou，tayehuinazhezhenxindani。cike，dajiahudongjiaoliushishifenkaixinde，shiyougehenbunengyucefenxideyuansu，erbingbushiyichengbubiandediandan、yongcan、fuwushengtianfujiadianshui、kandianshiju，suihou“jinrifeichanggaoxingchuqu"zaijian，daoshihoujian”"jinjiawomeitoua，jinjiafalaizheitiaoduanxiaoxi”。nixiangzhe，1genvhaimeitianbeizheileinanshengsuosaoraodeneishihou，niyeshihenbenkuide。huranyouyige-genansheng,chedimeiyouchupengguozheileizhaoshu，jianghuiyoushinvhaijiuhuiduinihenganxingqu。

er、buganxingquzhibiaozhicaikeyizaochenghaoqixin

 buganxingquzhibiaozhizhidejiushinigennvshengxiangchudeneishihou，yaolingwaiweichierzhongqingkuang。bingqiezheierzhongqingkuangshiduilimiande，yizhongjiushishuoyouxingquaihao，jiushiwoduijinixingquaihao，zheiyidajiadoudong，woduizheiyinvshengyouxingquaihao，wonengzhuyaobiaoxianchuququyuetaganshenmezheizhongwupin。

 wuyaoqiu，jiushiwoduini，danlingwaiduiniyeshibingmeiyouneimabipode、mingxiandexintai。woyuenichuquwo0k,wobuchuquyinweiwookwobuxiangyouyuwobuchuqu，erjuedexinhan，wobuxiangyouyuwoburentongwojuedebukaixin，yincishuotamenneiyangyiqirenmendoushichengweidiaozhenghaodezhinengneiyangzuonvhaicaihuiduinizaochenghaoqixin。

1,“bunaifan”shengyu“guoduoguanxin”

 nanhaizizhenduixiaidenvxinghuiyouguoduodeguanxin。nijitafazheitiaoshoujiweixin，tayiguobangexiaoshicairangnifanyinglai，tafanyinglaiyihounimiaohuihuoshishinvhaiyuenizhouliuyiqichigewupin，danniyuanbenlibailiunizaoyiyuehaolanideqinrenyikuaierle。boninengyouyuzheiyinvhaiyuenihuolaohaiyoujihuiyuetaerbaqinrenhuijue。zheizhongquanshirenmenchengzuoyaoqiuganheguoduodeguanxin，tashicuowude。zhenshihaodegennvshenggoutongjiaoliufangfashizoushende,jiushizhiniyizhizaihewoxiangchudeneishihouxianliaodeneishihou，zhaowoliaozhaowoliaoyoutarentaguo，nijianghuizoushenle。

 niyoumuyoushizhegentarenfayandeneishihou，bierenbunaifanzheileijuedenihenfanganta，keshiniyizhizailiaomeideneishihoujiushishuobixuneiyangdeyi-zhongxintai。niyuefaneiyang，fandaonvhaidexintaiyuehuiyouyunineiyangbunaifanerzaochengmengliedenanshou,youyujihumeiyouneiyangdenanshengkandaita。 nixiangzhenizhiqianhemouyirenxianliaodeneishihou，tabunaifanshibushinihennanshou，zheileiquanshihuaixintai。danniyuefaneimenanshou，youhuishizhequzhengdetadeguanxin，zheiduinieryanshi1gehaoshier。

2，guoduoxixinhuijianshaoniyizhizainvhaixinzhongzhongdeshiyongjiazhi。

 juedaduoshunanshenghencaogaohencuowudeyidianerjiushishuoduizishendejiarenyidianerxixinyemeiyou，danzaiwaibiankandaohaokandexiaonvhaineishihou，huiyuelaiyuefeichangdeyouxixin，jibierenchequchesong，dengbierendedianhua，huoshibierenwandaobangexiaoshitahaifeichanggaoxingdeshuomeishier。 wojuedeniyoumeiyouxiangguo,zheizhongzuofazishenjiushishuoyi-gehendishiyongjiazhidegerenxingwei，nizishenqianqueguifan。keshidangnikeyibanvhaidezheizhangpainahuilai,nvhaixuduoneishihougennanhaiziyouhuideneishihouwandao，niyoumeiyouxiangguowojuedenihaikeyiwandao，huoxubingbushishuodewandao，xiangduieryanbubineimazaiyilingyifangderentong，zheiyijianghuihuiduijinigengdadexiezhu。

3，shengchanzhizaodujijuqingjiqinvhaiduinideguanxin

 xuduonanhaizihuishizhezhequshuohuanghuoshishizhegaimouxietawojuedebingbushineibanbiaocengdewupin。lirutazhiqianjianghuixiangchuguohaoduogenvyouzaizheiyishiqihenyiqiezhengchang，keshitahuiyouyidiquzhegaizheiyikeguanshishigaozhinvhaiwozhiqianjianghuizhixiangchuguo1gelianggehaopengyou，tahuihenyouyidibuxuzishenxiaidenvhaiquganjuetazaiwaibiangennvhaigoutongjiaoliuhuoshixiangchu。

 wojuede，niyoumeiyouxiangguo，nvhaigenjubeizheileidujisuojiqichuqudehuaixintai，wojuedezongshixiezhunilaigengweiderangtaduiniyouganjuegengweidixiyinzhuta，jinguanjiusuantashihuaixintai。yincishuodajiaqianwanbierenweirangnvhaiduinizaochengxintaidefangfa，zhinengduitahaoneime1gefangshi ，yeyouxuduonijianghuixiangyemeiyouxiangguodemouxiefangshi 。

san、gexinghuadute，zhiyongshuangquan

jiarushuo，nanrenmeiyouxingqing，yipiangaiquan，weirenchushihedajieshangdelurenjiashileiside，dagailenvhaidouburongyixiaita。

 nvhaini，shixiaineileijubeiquweixingde，youxuehuisikaogongzuonenglide，erqieganyutanxiandemeilinanren，zainvhaidezaiqianyishizhongli，neiyangdenanshengquanshijubeiyoudiande，youyutamenkeyicongzhangjiukanlai,youzhebibiedenanhaizigengqiangdeshengcunhuanjingheyoudian。

 ruguoyigenvrengennijiang“nishiyigehaoren"，neimatazaiqianyishizhonglijiushi，nichukaihen“hao”yiwai，nidoumeiyoubiedenaxieshiyongjiazhile，xiyinzhubixudeshishiyongjiazhi，bingfei"hao”，gengbingbushiquyingxiaozishen。

zuihouze:ganyutuidongguanlian

 nanshengtongchangdouxiaiwenmouxieneiyangdenanti。liru:zuixihuanchisha?niyaochisha?niyaoqunaliwan?nixibuxihuanzuowodenvpengyou?zheizhonghuijinvhaihenchadeganshoua。nandaoshuonizishenmeiyouniantouma，naxieshierbixuzhengdewodejianyi，wojiushigenvhaia。(dajiaduima? )

 nvxingshitaoyantiaoxuande，jininiantoudehua，jiulijigaozhita，jiaruniyaozhongshita，ninengshuo，wojinrixiangchimalatang，niokma?zuoweinanshengrenmenyaoganyudequlingzheguanliandefazhanqianjing，youyunvhaixiantianxingshijiaoweiheaide，shiburongyijijifanyiwangxunwennixubuxuyaoyouhui，qima，juedaduoshudenvxingshiburongyide，nanshengyaoshidudequhexin，shichengshudebiaoxiane!