婚姻咨询：怎么样挽回我的婚姻呢

　　zenmeyangwanhuiwodehunyinni，「meiai」qingganshudong，womendeganqingnandianchuliquanweizhuanjia。bulunshijiejuemaodun、wanliufenkai，huoshitigaoaiqingtongguolv、chulihunlianwenti，womendoukeyiweinintigongzhuanyedejianyiyuzhichi。

　　yingduilingyibandepanbian，meiyiweinvxingdouhuixianrushenshendetongkuhemangran，neixinxiangfafanzawufayanyu。zaihunyinshenghuodeshizilukou，jiushixuanzebaorongkuanrong，huoshijueranliyi，zheiwuyishiyigehouzhongdexuanze。

　　shijishang，henduonvxingpengyouzailengjingfenxihou，tongchangbingbuxiwangsuibianwanbizheiduanganqing。tamengulvdaoxiaohai，yejiangudaozijidexiangfa，xinlingshenchushijishangaizhelingyifang，bukensuibianfangkaishou。danshi，zaimianduiwanhuihunyindekunjingshi，tamenyouwangwangxianrumimang，butaiqingchugairuhexingdong，jinerzaiyouyujiujiecuoguolejihui。

　　yaozhixiao，zhixucaiquzhengquedefangshi，hunyinshenghuodeliefengwanquanyoukenengdedaoxiufu。dangranqiantishiwubijianshaofengxiandewanliufangfa，biruguoduochize、meiwanmeiledeyoukuyounao、sipilailianjiqibeiweiqiqiudeng。zheigefangfazhinengjinyibuehuahunyinqingkuang。zhiyouxunzhaoshidangdewanliufangshi，caiyoukenengjiangairenladaoshenpang，zhonglianhunyinshenghuodemeimiao。xiamian，womenjiangyaoweinintigongyixiezhengquewanliuduice，bangzhuniqudechenggongwanhuizhangfudexin。

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　　挽救婚姻的思路

　　►tanranmianduiyuzhimianrensheng

　　ruoyaozhonglianganqing、wanjiuhunyin，zhuyaozhiwushitanranmianduihunyinshenghuozaoyifashengdeliefeng。henduonvxingpengyoudangmianduihunyinshenghuodekunjingshi，wangwangxuanzetuolixianshi，jiwangyulingyifangnengzizhuhehaoruchu。danshi，zheileiziwoqipianzuofazhihuirangnixianrumangran，wufazhenzhengchuliwenti。

　　weilenengzijideaiqing，nixuyaozuodeshizhimianrensheng，yishidaolelingyibandexintaizaoyibianhua。zhiyouyongyujienazheiyishiji，nicainenghuodemodadeyongqiquxunqiugenggai，congerwanjiuhunyindekunjing。

　　►负责任

　　zaiganqingchuxianwentishi，buyinggaijianyiguiyinyudanfangmiandecuowu。jiranbicigongtongdizaolezheiyiduanqingxu，jiulidanggongtongfuzehunyinshenghuozhongdeyiwu。hunlianwentixubicigongtongfuze，zhanxiangenggaichengxin。

　　yexuzaiyiwang，nirengweinengzuodaojinshanjinmei，dandangxiahunyinshenghuomianlinweiji，nixuyaorangairengaoqingchu：nijiuyijingshenkefansheng，renshidaozijidebugou，bingqieyuanyijieshoutadetaidugaibian。gengweiguanjiandeshi，nixiwangzaicidanfuqihunyinlideyiwu。

　　shijishang，baizhengtaidubidiweidiyaoqiufuhexinggengrongyizhijirenxin，zheishijishangnenggoudailaichuhuyiliaodezhuanzhe。

　　►谦让与倒退

　　yingduilaogongdelengdankandaihuochugui，yixienvshenghuixuanzeyongqiangyingdetaiduhuifu，changshiwanquanyizhilingyifang，yibiaoxianzijidequanweixing。danshi，zheizhongxingweitongchangdebuchangshi，kenengzaochengguanlianjinyibuehua。

　　yingpian《wanjianchuanxin》lidelaopo，dangfaxianlaogongyunvtongshiyouyituihou，yuelaiyuejiansuankebo，zaigezhongchanghelengyanlengyu，yongyizhangqixingyizhilaogong。danshi，tabingmeiyounengdechangsuoyuan，zuihoulaogongyinnanyirenshouerlikai，shenzhiyongzishadefangshijieshuxingming。

　　yilixingqianrangqudaiqiangshidikang，yicujinguanxigaijin。ruoshinixinxinwanhuihunyin，neiyangnidexinlixujubeikuanrongdexionghuai。zaibuduanzhonghuixirihemuqingkuangdeguochengdangzhong，weichigongpingdetaiduyouweizhongyao。guodulengyanlengyuzhihuijiazhongfenqi，erlixingdeqianrangyudaotui，caisuanshizhengqueyindaolaogonghuiguizhengtudeguanjiansuozai。

　　►更改与再生

　　hunyinzhongdewentihaosiwanshi，zhiyougenggai，cainengjihunyinshenghuochanshengzaisheng。genjugaibianzijihegoujianjijizhudongdeziranhuanjingcujinhunyinshenghuozaisheng。zainimendexiangchudeguochengzhong，yexucunzaizhuduokunhuo，dangshihenyoukenengbucengfajue，danrujindenantizaoyichengxian，qiaoxiangjingzhong。cishi，xianzaishishihouzuochudiaozhengle。weilenenghunyinshenghuodehexie，yeshiweilebicizhijianxingfu，womenyinggaiyiqichengzhang，weitarendeshenghuozengtianguangcai。

　　huiguguoqu，nishibushifajuemouxiexingweizaiyueshuzhehunyinshenghuodefazhanqushi?jiujingyounaxiefangmiankeyitongguogaijin，shitaduiniguamuxiangkan，jinerduizijideruhuozhibaoni?zheishinigenggaifangxiang，yeshinimenhunyinshenghuomanxuefuhuodeguanjiansuozai。

　　►积极与重归

　　zenmeyangwanhuiwodehunyinni，zaiquedingwanhuiqinggan、tiaoxuanzhonglianhunyindeguochengzhong，niqishiyijingtachu“jiji”deyibu。danshi，bingbuyiweizhenizhinengbeidongdidengdaitadehuifu。jijixingdongyufujianshejiaoquanzishizhaodaoqingganshangdezhongyao。

　　zaizheiduanqijian，nikeyizhudongzhaodaoneiyigecengshuyuzijidezishen，zhonghuinizhiaideshejiaoquanzi，qulvyou，peiyangyigexindegerenaihao。jiarunikunhuobuyihuoyayigan，hebuxunzhaoqinggandaoshidezhichi，yihuanjiexinlidegulv。

　　zaixinjianlianluocengmian，nijijigerenxingweiyouweizhongyao。weiyounizhudongjingong，cainengzuodaozhenzhengniuzhuanjumian，zaicigoujianqimiqiedelianxi。buran，takenenghuiyinneixinshenchudeyouyuhezaodongbuanercuoshihenizhongliandehaojihui。zhongjiu，jiushitazuocuoshi，tadexinlikenengqueshaozixin，haipaniwufazhenzhengyuanliang。danshinidejijigerenxingweihuidaijitazixinxin，rangtaganshoudaoniyaozaicijieshoutadexinxin。