爱情36计：彻底解决男人“前任”

 aiqingsanyuanlilunshishenmeni？yuqiannanyouzheiyihuatitaolun，wojinqitingjianneiyangyijujiangjie，juedehenyouhanyi：yigedabiaodeqiannanyou，jiugaixiangyigesishiyiyang。neimeaiqing36jiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiqingsanshiliujidewenzhangba。

 duia，lixianghuazhongdeganqingtongchangxiangyanhuoyiyang，erdangliangrentiaoxuanfenshouzeshiyouyuxianghumeifaxianghuzhijianzhichengdian，zaicidianranxialai。

 yinci dangfenshouzhihou，zuoweiqiannanyou，dangranyegaixiangyanhuosanquyiyang，qiaowushengxidixiaotuizaiyewanli，xiaotuizaiwomenderichangshenghuozhong。

danshizaiaipinshengdezixungongzuoshang，zaikandaiqiannanyouzheigewentishang，zuipubiandenantiqueshi：

 ●womenzijiwangbule，wangbudiao，jiebushang，huoshirengyouyisixiwang，youshihoujianyiwenhao，meishedeshandiaohuojiaruheimingdanlianxidianhua。

shijishanga，zheileiqingkuangyuanbenjinjinyigezhinianbale，bingbuhuiqueshiyounaxiebenzhifazhanqushi。

 shubuzhi，jiuzaimouyitianshichang、dibuhao、renbuhedejihui，qiannanyoudehenruocunyouhuranbeixinrennanpengyoufajue，nanpengyoubianhuiwenqi：

 “nizahuishini?tashinanyiwanghuaixirilianrenya，huanshixiangruhe?gaoduanwanjiashuichiliyangzhedeyu?zheiyishenghuoyeyaobubiguoqule?”

 ●huoshiyeyouyizhongzhuangkuang，nanyoudeqiannanyouluoluodafangdizhiliuzaitadepengyoumululi，aiqingsanyuanlilunshishenmeni？naizhiyoushitamenhaihuijixuchenzheyixietangerhuangzhideyuanyintongdianhua。lirugongzuozhonglianluo、xunqiubangzhubangzhu，neiyangjiuchanbuqingzhe……

zuoweitadenvyoujiaruzhiyi，kanqilaidajiaxiaojiaziqi;kejiarubutanqingxi，wanyidongshanzaiqi，xiangyixiangjianzhirenbushang。

 neima，yingduinanyoudeqiannanyounanti，huoshinanyouwenyixiazijiyouguanzishenqiannanyoudenantishi，gaizenyanghuiyingcaikeyifangzhizhengzhi、younengjiejuekunnanni?

 qiannanyourutongbailianhua，rutonghongsemeigui，meiyouhuodedeyizhizaizaodong。ergezhonggeyangqiannanyounantibianshiyikezhadan，fenwaijiaxingxing。

 neimayouguanqiannanyounanti，jiujinggairuhechuliqiadang，caikeyirangzheikedingshizhadanburongyifashengbaozhayoukeyixiaochuqianzaixingfengxianni?

 aipinshengjinrihuizonglegezhonggeyangxiangguanqiannanyounantidegonglvedaquan，jianyijiangzhibixusanbu，jiukeyixiezhudahuoerxunsuchuligezhongqiannanyouyiliu，qingchuganqingzhongdeqianzaixingfengxian。

第一步：在沟通交流中，把“你”换为“大家”

jugeshili，lirunixuyaogenlingyifangshuo：

“wokandaonimenyeyoulianluo，woneixinqueshihennanshou。nirujinxiangruhe，nishitiaoxuantahuanshixuanzewo?”

neima，rujindajiabazheijuhualide“ni”jiaruhuanwei“dajia”，huizenmeyangni?

大家就可以那样说：

 “dajiarujinkandaodejiushiniliangyeyoulianluo，woneixinqueshihennanshou，neidajiarujinyinggaizenmebanni?dajiagaizenmexuanzehuoshichulini?”

 zheizaiqizhongbianshiyizhongziwoanshi。neiyangdebiaoshu，nibushini，nishidajia，yinci zaiwuxingzhong，dajiajiubazijihelingyifanglalaidaotongyigezhanduizhong。

zaizheier，jidahuoerdaoruyigeshehuixinlixuededingyichengwei：anquanxingxingqinglv。

anquanxingxingqinglvshijizhidebianshi，zaiyiqiezhuangkuangxia，lingyifanghuixianjiangniladaogentayibian，erbushigennilizaiduili。

 zaiyingduiqiannanyouzheiyifengxianzhishuzhi5kexingdezhongqunshi，dajiajiarubananshengtuidaodajiadeduiliqu，neibubianshibayangsongjinshouzhangma?

yinci ，dajiabubizuoneiyangdechunshi，ganjinxiancongziwoanshigangkaishigenggaiba!

第二步：区别相互

 zheiyidianbixulaijieshiyixia：qiannanyouzenmehuibianchengqiannanyou，kendingshiyiqianxianghuyoubunengdiaohedefenqidiana，bingqietongchangbujinyichu。

yinci zuiconghuidezuofashisha?bianshirangtamenzhongjianyouguanfenqidejiushiluchushuimian!

 jugeshili：ruguonijiandaonanyoudeqiannanyoujitamenfaxinxideqingkuangxia，xianbubixingfen，xianxiangyixiatamenyiqianyinweishenmeshierfenshoude。

aiqingsanshiliuji,liruqianrennvyoushiyouyuxingzicha，zongzhengchaoerfenshoude。neimeninenggouwenyiwennidenanyou：

“tajinqiguodezenmeyangya?worenweitarujinxingqingxuduole，fangfoxingzimeiyouneimachaleba。”

yaolejiea，renquanshijiangshanyigaide，yaoxianggenggainaliyouzheimejiandanni。

 xianbuyaoshuoqianrennvyouburongyibian，jishitahuibian，ruguonibahuatitaolunqianyidaolingyifangdequedianshangbiandeqingkuangxia，buguannijuedededuomedehao、duomedezhenglian，neigouqilaideyidingshinanyouyouguanzheigewentidezuilanzhuiyi。

erzheigewentiyeganghaoshinanyouzuimeifajienadedian，neimatayejiudangranhuizaochengpaichixinlizhuangtaile。

suoyishuo，womenyaozuodeshizhangwoguanjian，gengyaojieshiyongjing。qianxinnantidezhongyao，cainenggouyijijipo。

第三步：一句话，称为“你期待我怎么做呢?”

zaishuoxiangjinjiangjiang，liruruguoninanyoujiandaonishoujipengyoumululiyeyouqianren，henshengqi，zhiyinizhei、neide。

tongchangzaizheigeshihou，dahuoerzuifeichangrongyifandecuobianshi，jielibiaoshu，gezhonggeyangbianbo：

aiqing36ji,“bushizheiyangde，bingbushiniyaodeneiyang，dajiarujinjinjinyibanpengyoubale。”