爱是个什么东西?分手后这样发朋友圈

 aishishenmeni?fenlichulaizhihoucaiyishidao，yuanlaizaiqingganzhongzuitongkudeshi，bingbingbushimeiyoudedao ，jinjinneishihoudewomen，xianrujinquejinyouyanzhengzhengdekandaoqingganyuanqu，baibanwunai。neimeaishigeshenmedongxini?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaishishenmedewenzhangba。

 zhongyuyishidaowufadanfuneibandetongku，nizixinxinxiyinzhuqinggan，yinerhaoguangfangfa，changshizhiqianmeiyoudekuanhongdaliang，kezuizhongyisiyihaomeiyouyiqiezuoyong。

weishenmetayizhizaijujuebenshenzhuyaobiaoxianchuqudewanhuizuoyongni?

weishenmeqianrenwufajieshoubenshendekuijiuni?

weishenmeaiguoyihourenyaodichubenshenni?

 henyoukenengnineibanxiangxiangguo，yexuyouyitian，tadexinlizhuangtaihuijianqingchuqu，tazaiyebuhuineibandichubenshende。danni，zhiwubijiandandeliangsanju，tajiubuyijujueni，yunizaidugandaoyiqi。

 dangran，jiusuan xiangguo，danniyezhishijiangzhizuoweixiangxiang，xiangguozhihouwanbanwunaidejiazhuangkaixinyisheng，juedeyimuqiantaduinidezhuangkuang，zheiyezhishiyichangmeimeng。

keshi，zhiyaoniyuanyi，jiarunicaozuoliuchengshidang，zheiyiqiedoubingbingbushimeng，nishikeyirangtaxinganqingyuanpeizhenide。

 shijishang，aishishenmeni?zaijiaruniwanhuiyichoumozhan，shenzhixianrugangadejingyu，budanmeiyoushenmejinzhan，shenzhihairangyiqieehuashi，weihebulinshixingbiandemanyidian，zhongguinixuanzedejiyubudui。

jiyubudui，yiqienulidoujiangbaifei。

 jirantazaojiumingquezhichufenshou，neimejiuquerenzaitadeneixin，zaojiuduidahuoerdeqingganfoudingguoyicici，bingqieweilegenghaodinenggougenghaoditongxiajuexinyunifenshou，tahuizaixinzhongduidahuoerdeqingganfoudingyicici，zuizhongshangtoulexingennimingquezhichu。

jiaruniyizhizaidiyishijianquwanliu，shizhelazheta，shiwufaxiyinzhutade。

 zhongguizheishidetayiguoduan，wufazhenzhengbeiniyouyubuding，hekuangnikeyihuanweisikaoyixiayixiayixia，taxiwangdeshishenme，erniyizhizaizuodeshishenmeni?

nizaoyizuodeshi：daoqian、dizhetou，buduandefuwubaozheng。

ertaxiwangdedao deshi：nijijidijieshoufenshoudezhenlidekeguanxing。

 dangran，worenweidaibiaozhenibunengwanhui，zhishizaitadeneixin，talinshixingsuoxiwangdeshijiushiruci，danzaitalixingzhihou，yikaishisisuo，yehuiyishidaobenshendebulixing，neishijiuhuishilingyizhongxiangfa。

yiner ，nandaojiujinjinzhidengdaishijichengshu，dengtahuangrandawuma?

 jinjindengdai，dequehuichuxianyidingdexiwang，danxiwangmangran，tangruonixiwangbenshendewanhuitisheng lvtigao，jiuyidingyaozuoxiamianzheiyixieshi。

1.调节情绪

rangdiaozhengqingxuchuqu，caisuanzuoyiqiedebiyaotiaojian。

 zhonggui，sheidoubuyuanyijiejuexiesidilideqianren。nideqiannanyou，xiwangdeyeyidingshizaiyudaonishi，niyulaiyubuyiyang，zhishaoyibingbushikebo。

sheidouyaoxiangjiejuexinpingqihederen，sheidouxiwangqianrenduibenshenshiyizhongpingjingdexintai。

hekuang，jiarunidediaozhengqingxu，cainenggoumianduixianshiyiqie，jijidijieshou，yikaishixiayibuzhunbeichongfen。

2.解决问题直接原因

jiusuan shijichengshu，lizaitayanxiadeni，jiuyidingnengrangtazaidujieshouma?

jishitayikaishisisuo，tayeduoshaoqianyixiehuiyi，danzheibuyidingdaibiaozhedahuoerzhengzhongjianjiuyidingnenghuidaoyuanlaidezhuangkuang。

 zhongguitadeneixinduoshaoqianhaishiyougehede：dahuoerzhengzhongjiandenandianbujiejue，jiusuan zhongtouzailai，yejinyouzaiyicizoujiulu，zhongguidahuoerzhengzhongjiandeyiqienandiandoumeiyoujiejue。

 yiner ，yaozhaoxunzhijieyuanyinnandian，bingyikaishijiejueyiqie，jiusuan wubitadebangzhu，yeyaorangtajianniyimiandexinlizhuangtai。

 dangran，chulejiejuedahuoerzhengzhongjiandenandian，zaizheiduanshijianzhong，haiyaojijidebiangengbenshen，nulichangshibuyiyangdeshejilinian，rangtayanqianyiliang。

3.提升 舒适度

xiangzaiyicixiyinta，jiubixuxuejingtisheng dahuoerzhengzhongjiandeshushidu。

 zhonggui，dahuoerzhengzhongjiancunzaiyidingmoca，xianrujinjiusuan zaojiujianqing，dantaneixinhaishiyixiedichude：tayoulvdahuoerhuidaoyuanlaidezhuangkuang。

keshi，ercixiyinwanquankeyijiejuenidewenti，hekuangniyezaojiugaohaolezhizaoxuanniangongzuoshang。

 aishigeshenmedongxi?congjintianqi，nixuyaozuodejiushilinshixingyinzangzijideguiding，wuxumiaoshuchubenshendexinlizhuangtai，hetabaochiwendingdepengchu，tigaolianxigan，yingzaochongyudeshushidu，zaiyiciyijianzhongqing，dahuoerzhengzhongjianjiuhuizaidujianlifuqiguanxi。