爱情算什么?分手破坏了什么？

 aiqingsuanshenme?fenshoushiyizhonghuihuai，zheiburongzhiyi!jianxinmeirenhuitichuzhiyizheiyidian，neimafenshoujiujinghuihuaileshenme?neimeshenmeshizhenai?zhenaiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmeyangdeaidewenzhangba。

 youxierenganjuefenshouhuihuaideshilianggerenzhongjiandeganqingjichu，fenshoule，lingyifangruguobuaile，yizhiyilaichuangjiandeganqingwanrubeifeiliaodegongchengjianzhu，qingketanta。

 youxierenganjuefenshouhuihuaidexianghujianguanliandelianjiehejunheng，zhiqianlianggerenshiqinglv，shizuiqinmiwujianderen，rujinbingbushile，bianchengzuilejiedeluren，fenshoubaituoleguanliandejunheng。

zheizhongyemeiyoucuo，keshibingbingbushihuihuaideguanjian，fenshouyijinghuihuaideshixianghujiandexinlaigan。

youyutayibuxinrenganni，duinidexinrenganweilingle，yinci dajiafenshoule。

 weihexuduo nanhaizisuibianbutifenshou，keshiyidanmingquetichulefenshou，jiufenhaomeiyouxuanzhuandekongjian?bianshiyouyutatifenshoushizaiduinidexinrenganzaoyijiangzhilingdejibenshang，zangouleshiwang，yinci shilijingshenzhongkaolvhouzuochudejuece。

 weiheyouderenshuolianggerenhaihuijixuzhengchao，zhengshizheiyiduanguanlianyeyoujiu，keshijiaruxianghujianlianzhengchaodouyibuyou，xianghuzaoyiganjuezhengchaodouyibuyouxiao，duilingyifangcongcimeiyouqidai，yebuganxiangxinlingyifanghuijiuzheng，neimazheiyiduanguanlianzaoyizoulaidaozhongdian。

 neima，nidaodishizenyangyibubuxiaoqiandiaotaduinidexinlaigandeni?shiyiyicicijiangguoyaogai，quezishizhizhongmeiyougaigangkaishide。

 jugeshili：nihenfangannanyoudeshenshangdeyixiequexian，niqidaitajiuzheng。diyici，tashuodaotahuigai，niduitadeqiwangzhihexinrenganzhiquanshiyibaifen，keshixiayicitabingmeiyoujiuzheng，niyoudianerfahuo，duitadexinrenganyouyidingdejiangdi，bianchenglebashifen。

 dierci，tahuanshimeigai，niduitadexinrenganjiujinyou60fen，erqiejuedeshifendenaonu。aiqingsuanshenme?disanci，tahuanshimeigai，nidexinrenganyixiazijiangzhi10fen，niborandanu，erqiejitamentieshang“zheigerenshuohuangchengxing，zhicuobugai”debiaoshi，nizaoyibuganxiangxintahuijiuzheng，youyutadegerenxingweihuihuaileniduitadexinlaigan。

 huanweisikaoyixia，nanshengyeshiyiyang，dangtayicicixiangxinni，suihouzaiyicicixinhanzhihou，tayibuxinrenganni，dajiazhongjiandebuyukuaiyizhizaichansheng，zuizhongtashoubule，duiniyibuyouxiwang，tiaoxuanfenshou。

tashiduixinlaigandediyicihuihuai，dannicaiyongdebuzhengquewanliufangfazeshiduixinlaigandediercihuihuai。

 fenshouzhihou，niwangbudiao，bidinghuicaiyongyixiefangfaquwanliuta，erzheizhongfangfayoutongchangshicuode。sipilailian、kukuwanliu、zhaoqinqipengyoubangzhuquanhe，zaijiduanhuayidiandeweixieta，zheizhongfangfahuijitamenchanshengjudadejingshenyali，suihoudaozhixinlaigandeercihuihuai。

 fenshoudeqingkuangxia，nijuedeburongyizaiqudajiaota，zhutaxingfukuaile，keshinibingmeiyoubaozhengzheiyidian。nishuonihuigaizhengzheixiehuaixiguan，doumeiyoubaozheng，huanshilaoyangzi，neimatayidinghuizaiduduinijuedexinhan。

yinci ，zaigangkaishizhixingwanliuduiceqian，nixuyaozuodeshifujiantaduinidexinlaigan。

zenyangcaikeyifujianxinrenganni?

diyibu zhenxinshiyizhiqian

 zhiqianzheiyigerenxingweishiweilegenghaodishitajiandao，nirenkelezishenzaitanlianaidequanguochengzhongcunzaidewenti，jilianggerenchanshenglesunhai，rujinniguannianlaidaozishendebuzhengque，bingjuecegenggai。

 zhenxinshiyidezhiqianshinengxunsudapojiangjudefangfa，ruguonizhiqianle，tazuishaohuizaochengyizhong“tayebushichedicaogaoderen”，suihoutiaoxuanzaixiangxinniyici。

 zhenxinshiyidezhiqianyidingshifazifeifudezhiqian，xuanyongqiadangdefangshiheyudiaobiaoshunideqianjiu，yaoburan，buzhengquedefangfaheyongyuzongshidebuchangshi。

第二步、了解

 shenmeyangdeai?xuduo nvhaifenshouzhihou，wufajienazheiyijieguo，yagenbuyuanyifenshou，suihoupaoquchanzhelingyifang，zheijiushiyizhongbulijiedegerenxingwei。

 nizhikandaoletayaoyunifenshouzheijianshiqing，quemeiyoulejietaweiheyaoyunifenshou，nijuedetabuainile，shigehuaxinnan，quemeiyoulejietaneishihoudejianxinhekunnan，fenshoutaheniyiyangjuedenanshou。

 bulijiezongshihuandetadedichu，duinijuedegengweideyanfan，buxinren。yinci wanliuqian，biaoshulejiehenzhongyao，ruguonilejielelingyifangdebuyi，nijiuhuiyuelaiyuekuanronghekeguanxing，neiyangfeichangrongyizaidudedao tadexinrengan。

shenmeshizhenai?zaiyiduanzhangqixingguanlianzhong，nanrenshiwufajujueyigelejienidenvrende。