爱的背后：为什么你会觉得挽回很丢脸？

 aidebianjieyoushenme？“jiaoshi，wojiarujijiquwanliuta，shifouhuihendiuren?”neimeaide10getiaojianyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidebeihoudewenzhangba。

“jiaoshi，nijuede，ruguowoxianzaiquzhaota，tashifouhuiganjuewozizuoduoqing?”

“jiaoshi，woruguoxiandixiatoule，tashifouhuiqiaobuqiwo?”

 xuduo laizixunganqingnanti，youqishiyixietichufenshouxiangwanliudexuesheng，huoduohuoshaohuichuxianneiyangdeguji，danyouzishenjijiquwanliulingyifang，huihendiurenhuoshizailingyifanglaikanzishendegerenxingweihenzizuoduoqing。

 youneiyangdeniantouhenyiqiezhengchang，renquanshihaomianzide，youqishiyingduiqingganshi，sheidouqidailingyifangnengxiandixiatou，keshizheileiniantouzishenbianshixinzhibuchengshude，buliqinggandefazhanqushi。

 lianaizhongdahuoerdeyingxiangliyuanbenshigongpingde，zheidaibiaozhedangchuxiannantideqingkuangxia，liangrendouyingdangjijizhudongdequchuli。jiarudouhuidengdailingyifangjiji，neimanantihenyoukenengshizhongyenanyijiejue。

 richangshenghuo，dajiabuhuitainanfajue，dangqinglvzhijianchuxianfenqihenantideqingkuangxia，aidebianjieyoushenme？yizhinanhaizixiandixiatouchengrencuowu，bingqiedajiayemorenshezhileshineiyangde。keshinixuyaolejie，tajijibingbushiyouyutalisuodangrandejijiququyueni，zhishiyouyutaaizheni，yinci taxiangyaojiji。

 zaiganqingdequanqiuli，yaoxiangyaozhidaosheiaidegengduoyixie，jiukansheijijidixiatoudepincidaliang，zhiyouaideduodeyifang，caihuiyouyuhaipashiquerduizizunxinbuwenbuwen。

 yinci ，fenshouzhihou，nijijiquwanliuta，queshibingbushiyijiandiurendeshier。fanguolai，xiangbizheixiechuyubeidongdenghoulingyifanglaiwanliuderen，nizaoyishifenyingyong。

jiranwanliubingbushiyijiandiurendeshier，weihehaihuijixuyouneimaduoderenganjuediurenni?

1、旧思想的危害

 zaidajiadezhonghuachuantongwenhuazhong，nvshibeiguidingmiantian，yaoweichiyazhi。youqishizaiqingganzheiyijianshiershang，zaixihuanyigeren，yebukeyizhudongjingong，zhiyouchuyubeidongdenghoulingyifangdezhuiqiuwanmei，buranbianhuikanqilaibumiantian、buzizunziai。ruguoyigenvshijijiquzhuiqiuwanmeinansheng，genghuibeijuedeshijiangjiadezhuyaobiaoxian。

 yixienvshengshoujiusixiangdeweihai，fenshouzhihou，jishineixinqueshihenbushede，yebuhuijijimaichuneiyibu，zongshibazijidezishibaidegaogaodi，kudenglingyifanglaiwanliuzishen。

2、自尊心强，没法接纳宽容大度挽留

 aidebeihou,youderenzizunjiaoweiqiang，zaichuduixiangdeqingkuangxia，jiujiaoweiqianghan，zaizheiliduanqingganzhongzhanyoushiyongjiazhishangwei，yizhibeilingyifangchongnizhe。yinci fenshouzhihou，tamenyelisuoyingdangdejuedelingyifangyingdangjijiqiurao。

 zaizheilileirenyanli，wanliushiyizhongkuanrongdadudegerenxingwei，huibeibierenquxiao，tashitamendegaozizunxinsuowufarongrende，yinci jiusuanshishifenbushede，yebuhuijijiquwanliu，ningkecuoguole。

3、分手的时候闹得很不好看，中后期挽留抹不开情面

 youderenfenshoushi，juedelingyifangshiqueshiruguobuailehuoshizishenbeicuoguole，yishixintaishangbian，naodeyouqidebuhaokan，yikuernaosandiaosi，huoshigezhonggeyangzuo，zuodehenjue，zaocheng guanlianjiangchibuxia。

 dengguoyiduanshijianhuanguolaile，chajuezijiyagenwangbudiaolingyifang，keshixiangqizaoqizishendehaobuzaiyi，yagenmobukaiqingmianquwanliu。

4、回避型人格，回绝投入

 zaiqinmiguanxizhong，youyileirenguishuyuhuibixingrenge，tamenduiqinmiguanxizhanxianyizhongduobideqingkuang，pengdaonantizhihouxiayishisuozaizishendewaiqiaoli，duobibuyuanquchuli。

 aide10getiaojian,huibixingrengehuijuetouru，fenshouzhihoujiusuanshishifenyaoxiangwanliu，yebuhuijiji，youyutamenxiayishihuibabuchenggongdebuliangyingxiangbianda，erneiyangdejieguotongchangshitamenmeifajienade。liangzhezhijianneiyang，haibibushangsuanleba。