爱的理论:这样吊着他反而让他更爱你！

 yaoxiangwanhuiqianren，yaoxianxuehaolengdanta!neimeaidelingyizhongcunzaiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidelilundewenzhangba。

 nijuede，buduandijitamenfaxinxi，tongdianhuajiunengshitayunifuhexingma?nijuede，zhuazhetabufangshou，tajiukeyiweiniliuyoubudongma?nijuede，nikuganleishui，chuoqidiqiuta，tabianhuizaiciaishanglenima?

 burongyide，buguanniruhezhemoziji，tadouburongyihaiyouyiqiegandongle，aiderenneiyangdijianjiuchanbuqing，zongshishitagengweiyanjuan。

 yaoxiangwanliunanren，jiuxuxianzhangwonanren，congmingdenvrenmingbaizenyangdiaozhunanren，lengdantadeqiuzhiyuheduzhanyu，caikeyicijixingtajijiwanliuni!

shanshan(biming)shidajiadeyimingxuesheng，yiqiantabianshizailaoshidejutizhidaoxia，kao“lengdan”rangnanrenjijiwanliutade。

 yiqian，shanshanshigejiaoweichuantongshidenvhai，yizhidouhentinghua，tinghuadaochulaiyongcanbixuhenanpengyouaa，yaoshinanpengyoujitataoqian，tadoushihuiyonglingyizhongfangfa“hai”jilingyifang。

naizhinanpengyouquyedianyinjiu，tajinguanneixinyixienanshou，zuibianyebuhuishuoxieshenme。

 danjiusuanshineiyang，nanxingzuizhonghuanshihetamingquetichuletichufenshou，yuanyinshi：“duinihao，kenijibushangwoyaodejuede，womenbuheshi。”

 jiuliantichufenshou，shanshandouburongyijizijiduojiangnaxie，zhiganqiaoqiaopazhebudongku，zhihouqueshibiebuzhulezheigujingtou，jiuzhaodaodajia，tawenlaoshi：“tashuodaowozhen，weiheyeyaogenwotichufenshoua?”

xuduo nvshengdoushihuiyouneiyangdeyihuo，weishaneimetinghua，haibushitadecai?nanrenbingbushixiaitinghuadenvhaierma?

 zhihoulaoshigaozhishanshan，nanrenxiaitinghuadenvhaierzheimeiyoucuo，danqiantitiaojianshi，tinghuayaoyouhongtuo，youshihoutinghuacaijiaobaogui，yizhitinghuaneijiaowuqiwei。

 yinci ，yaoxiangwanliunanrendexin，xianyaoxuehaolejienanrenxin，youshihou“lengdan”yixiatamen，gengnengjiqitamenduinidezhuiqiuwanmeiyu。

 yinci，laoshibangshanshanshezhileyigezongtimubiao，rangtaduizishenkaizhanyicishengjigengxingaizao，wulunshiyirongmao，huanshibenzhi，gerenaihao，tongtonggenghuan。

 changshiqushizheyixiezishenyiqianmeiyoushizheguo，haipashizhedezhutihuodong，aiderenlijingsangeyuedegengxingaizaohou，shanshanhaoxiangdakailequanxinshengjidequanqiu，budanquanburendeshejifenggefashengbianhua，renyeleguanlexuduo ，yibuzaishiguoqudexiaomengxinle。

zhihou，laoshiyoubangshanshanshejifanganyiciheqiannanyoude“qiaoyu”。

 nanxingkandaoshanshanhou，xiangbudaotazhuanbianjuranzheimeduo，jiuliaoleyiliangju，fajueshanshanbudanrongmaofashengbianhua，renyeyouqulexuduo ，zheicairangtamenzaicijiahuilailelianxidianhua。

fuchouzhelianmeng4hou，laoshijiuyaoshanshanweichixintai，hulianwangkeyiduolengdanjiuduolengdan。

 keshipengmianhou，shanshanyouyuelaiyuehenwenroujiqing，zheizhongbianhuajianjiandirangnanpengyouyulaiyuyitouwushui，jianjiandigangkaishiyulaiyuguanxinshanshan，caifajuetazhendeshigezangbaonvsheng，shizishenyiqianzouyanle。

yincigangkaishizaicizhuiqiuwanmeishanshan，gezhonggeyangbiaobaiqiufuhexing。

 nikankan，yaoshimingbaizenyang“lengdan”ta，wanliujiuzheiyangjianyi，xiabiandajiajiulaijiangxia，shilizhong，lengdanwanliudesangeguanjian。

冷淡他的求知欲

 aidelingyizhongcunzai,jiaruniyiqianyizhishishuncongzhelingyifang，neimafenshouzhihou，jiuxuyaobaozhengchajuda，yaobaozhengbitayeyaojuerandexiaotui，fenshou。

neiyangfandaohuiranglingyifangxiangdaoyiqian，naizhiyixiehuailiannidezheixiehao。

bingyehuizaiyeshenrenjingdeqingkuangxiahaoqixinnidedongtaixing。

适度给他们紧迫感

 dengtahuanshiguanxinnidedongtaixinghou，jiubiaomingnizaoyijiqitadeqiuzhiyule，cikenenggoushidudijitamendiancijixing，ninengduitayixieguanzhu，hetiexin。

danxintaiyeyidingyaolengmo，neiyangcaizuinengbawozhutadexin。

youshihoubiaoluyixiebiedeyixingpengyouzhuiqiunidexinxi，cijixingtadejinpogan，shitazaochengzhanjunidebulizhi。

使他积极挽留你

 zhongjiubixutourudewupin，youxiurencaihuiaixi，yinci zaiwanliushang，yidingyaoshitajijicaixing，denglingyifangduinizaochengduzhanyuhou，ninengbiyuanlaijiqingyidian，neiyanggengnengjifalingyifangdeqingxu。

 suihououranjianbiaoluchunihenxihuandelipin，shitajini，tourudeyueda，tayuefahuibushedefangkuanni，neiyangcaihuishitalaijijiwanliuni。

 zaiqingganshang，aidelilun,nvxingdangrankeyitinghua，danjuebunengtaitinghua，youshiyaoyouzishendeshineikongjian，youshihou“lengdan”yixiata，tahuigengweizhenxi，xuehaolemeiyou?