爱的光，学会这招冷落前任

 aideguang,nijuede，niyikubizitabianhuixintong，zaicipeizainishenbianma?nijuedeyaoshibuduanditongdianhua，tabianhuibeiniyingxianghuishouma?nijuedeyaoshidijianzhiqian，tabianhuiganshoudaonidechengxinkuanrongnibu?neimeaideganjueyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidehanyidewenzhangba。

 bieshale，nvhai，liangzhezhijianrangzishenxianruyutongchu，shouzuwucuodimangmugenfengjiuchanbuqing，bibushangxiangyixiangdajiashizenmequdaozheiyibude，yaoxiangwanhuiganqing，bibushang“sheqi”wanhui，fandaohuijinidewanhuichuqibuyi。

 sheqiwanhui?huoxuninengyouhenduoyiwen，danzheierdesheqi，bingbingbushirangnimeiwanhui，zhishiyuqinguzong，denghouwanhuihuangjinshijian，zaiyijiqusheng。

 yiqian，dajiaxueshenglvewei(biming)，jiuzheiyangzai3geyuenei，chedimeiyouyouxinchongchong、shibuxiayan，meirigaogaoxingxingdexiuxianyuleqingkuangxia，rangnanpengyoujijiwanhuideta。

 tadouganleshenme?shijishang，yikaishideqingkuangxia，lveweiyeshangxinyujue，shangxin，wangbudiao，yinci genjudouyinduanshipinzhaodajia，yaoxianglikewanhui，keshilaoshiqueranglveweixianpingjingxialai。

 youyunvrenhenanrenfenshouzhihoudeqingkuangshigeyoubutongde，nanshengzaigangfenshouzhihou，huichuxianyiduanduanzanxingdedichuqi，rutongyuqunzhongzhongguihaiyangyiyang，tamenzheiduanshijianhuihenxiangyoudanshendejuede。

danzheiduanshijian，burongyijiaozhang，dayueyigeyuehou，bianhuigangkaishihuailianyiqian。

 yinci laoshiranglveweigaichidiangaiwanxia，zhidaoyigeyuehou，youshihouzaipenyouquanzhongfayixiezishenjingzhao，aideguang,bianshibulianxita，guozhenweiguoduojiu，nanshengjiugangkaishijilveweidedongtaixingguanzhule。

 yinci，laoshijutizhidaolvewei，zhaolegetuociqulianluolingyifang，qutamenjianahuizishendewupin，pengmianhou，lveweizhuyaobiaoxiandehenshuyuan，fandaolingyifangquehenjiqing，zoudeqingkuangxialveweishuo，qidainenggouzaicizuopengyou。

 dangriyeli，nanshengjiugangkaishijijiyuelveweichuquyouhuile，erqiexianglveweiyaoqiufuhexing。zheiyiquanguochengzhong，lveweikanqilaishadoumeiyouzuo，doumeiyouyiqiewanhuixingwei，nanshengzenmehuijijiqiuraoni?

 qishibushihennan，laoshijinjinjutizhidaolveweibawozhunanrenxinli，congnanshishijiaoshangkaizhanwanhui，bawozhutade“quedian”yijizhiming，wanhuiganqing。

neima，shijigaizenyangshijicaozuoni?

适度分手

 yinweinanshihenvshidechabie，yinci tamenzaiyingduifenshoudeshihou，huichuxianbuyiyangdexinlitedian，nvhaizaiyingduifenshoudeshihou，shitongchude，ernanshizaifenshouzhihou，diyifanyingshisuiyi。

 aidehanyiyounaxieni？yinci zheiyiduanjieduanshitamendeqinggandichuqi，liangzhezhijianqianxinwankujiuchanbuqing，bibushangtiaoxuanlijifenshou。

维持心态

zaifenshouzhihou，nitiaoxuanlizhifenshou，fandaohuizaochenglingyifangdezhuanzhuli，ranglingyifangjuedejingya。

wulunlingyifangzhuyaobiaoxianzenyang，bixuzaizheishiweichixintai，congxinlizhuangtaifangmianshangeryan，wanhuijiuzaoyiqudechenggongyibanle。

二次吸引

danglingyifangzhujianjindaohuailianguohou，bianshiwanhuidezuijiashijile。

cike，ninengzailingyifangkandeqingdeyixiewangshangpingtaishangzhanxianyixiezishendegenggai，tuidonglingyifangyaoxiangwanhuidexinlizhuangtai。

正确引导挽回

 huoxudajiazhongjianzaoyichuangjianlelianluo，dandajiaxianduyidingyaozhangwohao，bubilingyifanglveweijiqingyidian，niyejiulikexianyinqin。

 jinkenengweichinidexintai，shengchanzhizaochumoshengganranglingyifangzaochengyaoxiangzhanjunidechongdong，shitazaochengbulizhiyaoxiangyunifuhexing。

 aideganjueyoushenme？wanhui，zhilejiemangmugenfengjiuchanbuqing、dijianqiuraoshimeifabaozhengzhenshifuhexingde，jinyouxuehaomiaoyongqiaomen，zhibizhijicaikeyichuqibuyi，nixuehaolemeiyou?