什么叫爱一个人?这样“吊着”前任

 yigenanrenainidebiaoxianyounaxieni？wojinnian25sui，nanpengyouyuwotongling，tajiushiwodaxuetongxue，dajiakuaidaxuebiyedeqingkuangxiacaizaiyiqi，biyezhihoudajiajiuwaidile。neimeshenmejiaoaiyigerenni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmeshiaiyigerendewenzhangba。

meishijitiancaijianyicimian，pengmiandeqingkuangxiawomendeguanxiqueshifeichanghao，yinweiwonengjuedechu，tahenshuoaiwo，hentengwo。

danbujianmiandeqingkuangxia，dajiaquezongyouyusuoshizhengchao，wochengrenwopiqibaozao，youshitayijuhuajiukeyibawowanmei。

 fenshouneitian，yeshiyouyuwangshanggouwudeyijianxiaoshi，taganjuewozongmaiyixiebuqizuoyongdewupin，keworenweizheiquanshiwohenxihuande，yinciganjuetayidianbulijiewo，youdianerdananrenzhuyi，jiugentachaoleqilai。

 kecici，dajiameiyouxiangyiwangyiyanghehao，taganjuetaileile，pile，buyuanzaizhengzhixialaile，keworenweiyouyuyichangwangshanggouwutichufenshou，zheitaihaoxiaole。

yinciwojijichengrencuowuwanliuta，ketaquehaobuyouyudijujuelewo，jianchibuxietichufenshoudejuece。

 wowangbudiaota，diertianjiumeibiezhuquzuotoubanchezhaota，kekandaotahou，tabujinmeidadong，yiranbuyuanyifuhexing，haishuohenhouhuimojihewozaiyiqi，bahuashuodehenjue。

woqueshibuyuansangshita，wohenaita，yelejiezishenbudui，wonengzuoshenmecaikeyiwanliu?

答：

 jiandaonidexushu，nengjuededaonifeichangailingyifang，buyuanyouyuyiciwangshanggouwujiushizheiyangfenlile，yigenanrenainidebiaoxianyounaxieni？danlingyifangdeliqu，bingbushizhiyouyuzheiyiciwangshanggouwuzhengzhi。

 ninengxixinhuiyiyixia，guoqudenei2nianli，dajiashibushijingliyicicixiangjindezhengzhi?meiyouyicitichufenshoushihurande，ninanpengyoudeliqu，yebingbingbushilinshiqiyide。

tayidingzaihenzaoyiqianyiqianjiuhuiyouguotichufenshoudeniantoule，zhibuguoshinimeiyouzaihubale。

 yiguolianlianrenbenjiuhenmingan，jiaruzaizaijiashangjingchangdezhengzhi，neitichufenshouyebuguoshizaozhongwandenanti，yinci ，yaoxiangwanliulingyifang，jiuxuyaoxuehaogaibianxianzhuanghejiejuekunnan。

bubirangfenqibuduanjilei，maicaosuiqing，danzongjiqilairengjiushinenggouyasiluotuode。

xiabian，wonengrangniyixiewanliushangdetiyi，xiwangnenggouxiezhudaoni。

欲擒故纵

 fenshouzhihou，nibuduanjiuchanbuqinglingyifang，zongshiranglingyifanggengweiyanjuan，chenlingyifangdouhaimeizuojueyiqian，bubirangzhuangkuangzaiciebianxialaile，niyinggaiyingduitichufenshoudekeguanshishi。

 weiquqiuquan，zuohuiyibanpengyou，jiushinixianjieduanzuihaoshidetiaoxuan，zheibudannenggouquebaodajiazhongjiandelianluo，hainenggouranglingyifangxuehuifangxiaduinidefangbeihegongzuoyali。

 ninengneiyanghelingyifangshuo：“xiangbudao，wonengjinikunhuodaozheileichengdu，zhihouwobuxiangzaichanzhenini，jiushiwomeiyounongqingchuqingkuang，baoqian，wocengxiangdaijinixingfu…….danshimeishier，zhihoudajiabianshipenyoule，jiaruzhihoujinibixubangzhude，wonengjiejinquanlibangni，nei……jiushizheiyang，zaijianle。”

neiyangshuo，dajiabudanburongyifenshou，haihuijixuyuyiqiandebaopiqichanshengxingqingchaju，ranglingyifanghuixiangqinidehao。

改变现状

 lingyifangjinguanburongyijiangnilaheishanchu，danyebuhuixiangzhiqianneibanyunijingchanglianluole，naizhidajiazhongjianhuichuxianjiaozhangyiduanshijianbulianxi。

 danshimeishier，shijianchuliyiqienantideshenqi，meigerendoubixuyiduanshijian，quxiaohuaxishouzishendexintai，danniyebixushijianqugaibianxianzhuang。

 shenmeshiaiyigeren?kexueyanjiuzhengshi，qianqueduanlianderen，xintaideduobianxingyaoyuanbichangchangduanlianderenyaogao，yinweichangchangduanlian，luojisiweihelingminxingyehuixiangduixingtisheng ，feichangrongyiyishidaozishennacengmianyouquexian。

erqierenjinyouchuzaijianshenyundongzhizhong，caihuibakunaodewupindiuzaiyibian，zhuanyizhuyili，genggaixiaojiqingxu。

 yinci ，ninengchenzheiduanshijianbulianxi，lizhidifanshengziji，xuexiyujia，xiushenyangxing，jianchiduanlian，tigaozijidexintaikongzhinengli。

润物无声

 ciwai，dajiazhongjianyebingbingbushiwanquanbulianxi，ninenglizhiyiduanshijianhou，zhaojiekougenlingyifanglianluoshiyishi，jiechuanyixialingyifangduinidexintai。

 jiarulingyifangbutaidichu，neimaninengzairichangshenghuozhong，youshihoujitamenyixieguanzhu，danjinxian“youshihou”，taiguojingchangzongshijilingyifanggongzuoyali，yaorunwuwushengdishitafajuenidegenggai。

 jiaru，lingyifangduinixintaixianzhudichuhuolengmo，neimajiubuyaodajiaolingyifangle，biaominglingyifangbingmeiyouxiaohuaxishoudiaoduinidedichuxintai，jitamenyixieshijianba。

 zaizheiliquanguochengzhong，qiewufanzaobuan，huoshixinjiqiurao，bubiranglingyifangkandechunidemudi，gengbubijilingyifanggongzuoyali。

 yaoxiangfuhexing，jiuxuyaorunwuwushengdiranglingyifangjiandaonidegenggai，jianjiandizengjiaduitadeguanzhu，neiyangcaikeyizaidushitaaishangleni。

 shenmejiaoaiyigeren?wanliu，yeshiyigezaicisikaozishendequanguocheng，jinyouyaoganyingduizishen，caikeyizhenshidigaibianxianzhuang，zhonggouzishen，ganqingyeshiyiyang，nixuehaolemeiyou?