爱的光：哪种男人最靠谱？

 aideganjueyounaxieni？meiyouyiduifuqibuzhengchaode，tashiquanbu“youjingyanren”degongzuojingyan，huiyoudefufudaraodaotongguiyujin，zuihouzhinengzhaoshoushuo“zaijian”;youdefufuquenengyuechaoyueenai，zaizhengzhizhongmoheqilejie，qingganzhishushangsheng。neimeaidefangshiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaideguangdewenzhangba。

 meiguoquanxindeyixiangdiaoyanshuoming，jiarulinghuoyunyongzhengchao“miji”，jiachaodehao，huoxunenggoubianchenglianggerenqinggandejinshucuihuaji，shidajiadeqingganzailijing“maodun”yihou，bizhiqiangengweilaoguhelaokao。

秘籍一　有理有据，不伤到可怜

 zaifashengkoujiaoshi，niderendedanaoshibushihaoxiangyouyigeshujukuchaxun，yaoshihelingyifangxiangguanderen，aideganjueyounaxieni？bulunshibabamamapenyou，huanshipengyougebilinju，yilv“shawushe”?yigejianyidezhengchao，queyouyunideluan“kaihuo”，congtadeshenshangtuozhankaihui：tababamamashangnianzhongqiujiemeiyouniyaoyongcan;taneichuan“kaidangku”dejiyouhenbushiqu，changchangdaojialipianchipianhe……daraodaozuizhong，niliaoxiayijushangxindehua：“woruguodanshenkehaole!”

 meiguoxinlixuezhuanjiaqiangdiao，kendingbuyaozaizhengchaoshiqiantuochuyidaduichennianwangshi，bubiyanlidajilingyifangdeqinren、penyoujiqipengyou、laozong，buranjingjichangjiangwujinkuozhang，dannibenlaisuoganchulidenantiquelianshenyingdoumeijiandao。

 xinlixuezhuanjiatiyi，zaixuanzhanqiansanshimiao，xianwenyixiazijisangenanti：yi、daodishishazaijinifahuo?er、zheiyijianshiershibushihencaogao，bixugenjuzhengchaolaichuli?san、zhengchaonengjiejuekunnanma?zaihuiyingwanzheisangenantihou，ninengfajue，yixieshieryagenbuzhizhengzhi。

秘籍二　欲擒故纵，从控告到沟通交流

 “yinmouguiji”youshihoubizhenqiangshidanlaidegengyoushashangli，youyunanrenyibanshidaozizuidoufuxinde。zhengchaozaoxingyishude“zhendi”qujueyu，jibuzhixiangtadebizizuohedongshihouzhuang，doubuehenhendigentayuefasanzhang，zhishi“yirouzhigang”。

 sandyzhunbeizaibaomingcanjialaotongxuejuhuishi，jianglaogongxiangxijieshaoweizijidelaotongxue，danlaogongchidaoleyixiaoshi，bingqiejinjinxiangsandydetongxuemenjianyidagezhaohu，jiucongcongmangmanglikaizhuhuichang。zhidaojuhuihuodongliqu，sandyrenzhezhudenuqicongcimeifayizhi，tagangkaishichizelaogong：“niyizhineiyangkuangwangzida!zheixiequanshiwo5nianmeipengmiandejiyou，nizennengduibierenneimalengdanni?”kelaogongquebingmeiganjuezijizuobuduinaxie：“weihewoyaotingnizhigaoqiyang?”yichangneibuzhanzhengjiushizheiyangbaofale。

 xinlixuezhuanjiatiyi，zaipengdaozheileizhuangkuangshi，liangzhezhijianborandanudichizetaduinidepengyoutaimeilimao，haibibushangxinpingqihediduitayilifuren。liru，“tangruoshizhaohudoubudayishengjiuxiaotuikanbudao，woqueshihenbuhaoban，youyuyuanbenshiyouhenduoguanyunidehuatitaolunyaogenpengyoumentande。”———neiyang，niyejiubianchengleyigeshouhairen，eryibushishengsilijiedekonggaozhele，zheiyehuijidajiazhongjianjinyibudegoutongjiaoliudiandingyouliangdejiben。

秘籍三　集中化火力点，切忌空对空地争执

 chennvshijinqibujiucongyichanghunyinpoliezhonglikailechuqu，tahelaogongfenshoudeyuanyinfeichangjiandan：chixushengjidekoushezhizheng。liangrenchangchangweiyixiewuguanjinyaodesuoshizhengchao，weiwancandaonagecanyindianchierzhengzhi，weishenmeshihouhuaihaizierzhengzhi，naizhihuiweileyijuhuazhongbushidangdexiushicierzhengchao。hunyinshenghuojiuzaineiyangdeqianjiazhengzhizhongzhujiansangshiyuanxiandewennuan。zongsuan，zaiwanhunyinianhoudemouyitian，shenxinpibeidelaogongdijiaolelihunshenqingshu。chennvshijianghunyinshenghuodeliekaiguiyinyu“xingqingbuhe”，kezailihunzhihoudeyigexingqi，laogonghetadeyicitanxinrangtashenganchuxianyiwai：laogong“jihen”deshichennvshizaimeiyicizhengchaozhongchangshuode“henhua”。

 aideguang，xinlixuezhuanjiajuede，henduofuqizhengchaodaozuizhong，doufazhanqushichengyichang“kongsuhui”，nihenbunengbataofeichuqu，taquejujuchuoxindouhuiwujie，neiyang，jibenshangquanbudezhengchaodouyilengbaolimeiyouxiawen。neima，zaizhengzhishi，zenmecainengkaizhanyouxiaodegoutongni?quanweizhuanjiamingquetichulesan“bu”tiyi。

 ●shuo“wo”buyongshuo“ni”。“nijingranyongzheileixintaiyijianshi?”“niyoufanlaomaobingle。”neiyangdejuxingshifouhenlejie?zaiwomengangkaishiyong“ni”juxingchizelingyifangshi，jiuzaoyibalingyifangbidaoyigezhengdangfangweidejiaoluo。lingyifangjuedeniyizhizailuanxiafenbian，diyigedangranfanyingbianshibaoweizishen，suihoufanji。dangfangyuliguanlitixichuangjianqilaishi，goutongjiaoliujiumashangzhongzhile。

 ●bukaizhanlengyanlengyu。“nimeidaiwoquwan，woyaoduoxienijilewosuiyini!”fengcishifuqizhengchaoshichangjiandedamahuyanzhaoshu，zhuyaoyongtujinjinrenaolingyifang。danzheileizhaoshudebuliangyingxiangquefeichangda，huijibicichanshengjidasunhai，henkenenghuiyixiazijiqingganjiandiaoxuduo fen。

 ●buqieduantajianghua。aidefangshiyounaxieni？qiangbaitahuoqieduanta，nirenweinichedilejietaxiangshuodeshisha，zheizhibuguoshi“tuoci”bale。jiarunihuijuelingting，neimalingyifangweishenmehuiliuyilingtingnideniantouni?gaozhilingyifangnidelejie，weicilaimingquezheishibushitayaoxiangbiaoshude。zaizhengzhishi，jingchangyong“nishishuo……ma?”，“nideyisishi……”dejushifanfulingyifangshuoguodehua，ruoyouchuxianpianchadeyuanyinzeshitagaizhengnidebuzhengquelejie，neiyangcaikeyizuodaoqingtingdemudi。