爱的光：盘点自己的爱情筹码

 aideganjueyounaxieni？xuduo nvrenqidaiyouneiyangdekechengneirongchuxian：ganqingshehuijingjixue，xiangmutouzihunyinshenghuobushiben，hunyinshenghuojisuanchengben，jianayigenanrenfazhanqiantuzuiguanghuideng，wuchaosuozhi、xinkouruyidibaqingganguoguocheng，kexueyanjiulizhidizuochufenbian，shihainengxingchengbaobiao，yimuleranyineiyangcaiburongyirangzishenbianchengaiqingyuhunyindexiaobing。neimeaidefangshiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaideguangdewenzhangba。

 ganqingyeshiyizhongxiangmutouzi，yebixujiezhuanjiaowei，weiheyouxierennengzhuandaoyishengdexingfukuaile，eryouxierentouruyishengqingqisuoyouquezuihouhuanshihuodeletongchu?shijishangzaiganqingli，yeshiyouchengbenfeiyuyinglidenanti。

 niyongdiaoshiduoshaochengbenfei，baohanqinggan、shijian、huaxuewuzhizhuduo，zuizhongnengyouduoshaoyinglibushigudingbudongde。ganqingdeyinglibaohangegefangmian，baohanbeilingyifanghaowuyiwenhejieshou、dedao huanlegan，huodewaibudezanyu，youzhepenyou、qinrendeshiyong，zheizhongdousuanganqingdeyingli。zaizheigemeigerenzunchongsuiyidandudeshidai，xuduo nvrenlinsetouru，papeilefurenyouzhebing，dalechengbenkonghaoleshiguang，queyouqipanwanmeideaiqingtianjiang。yinciganqingshehuijingjixue，jiubianchengnvrenmenderezhongyu，nvrenmendouqidaigenjutalaixunzhaotongwangxingfukuailededa•fenqidenglumima。

 zaiganqinglizuoxiaoxuesuanshutishijishangshinanyide，ganqingshehuijingjixueshizhongzaifazhanqushizaizhuanbian，aideganjueyounaxieni？ganqingdezhangyizhinanyisuanqing。yinci zaijiehunqian，dajiayidingyaohaohaodihuizongzishendeganqingzhulizijin，zuishaotanenggoushiwomenzaitongxianghunyinshenghuodedaoshang，zuoyigeyouxiuderen，jizijihuodelirunhuadexingfukuaile。

感情主力资金一：時间。

 zhenduinanreneryan，shijiangehaochanpin，nenggourangyougongzuonenglidenanrenxiangchenjiuyiyangyujiuyuxiang，kezhenduinvreneryan，shijianjiuxiangtusimianbaodebaocunqiyiyang，baoguidelebude，yinci ，shijiancongmouleishijiaoeryan，shinvrendekexing。ercongshijianshehuijingjixuedeshijiaojiang，rendeshijianxiaofeifanyingweizhuanzhulidekaizhi，rendezhuanzhulihaofeisuizheshijianerhaofei。nuobeierjiangjinhuojiangzhebeikeersuokaichuangdeshijianshehuijingjixue，bianshikexueyanjiuzenyangzuodaoshijianjingjifazhan、bimianhunrizideyimenkecheng。zhenduiganqingzhongdenvreneryan，shijianshehuijingjixueshiganqingshehuijingjixuezhongdeyouxuankechengneirong，youyunvrenmendezhuanzhulishizhongdanxinzai“ganqing”zheiliangzishang。

 neima，zenmerangshijianzaiganqingliwanchengxiaofeixiaoyinglirunhua?yejiushizenyangzuiyouxiaodiyunyongshijiandezhulizijinquhuodeganqingdehuosheng?zheijiuxuyaokaowomenzijilaizhangwole。

 yijushijianjingjixuelilun，yaolinghuoyunyongshijianzaojiujingjijiazhi，jiuxuyaocongjingtaishujude“jingjiren”bianweidongtaixing“jingjiren”。zheizhenduiganqingshehuijingjixueyeyiyangheli，jiaruniyizhizaigudingbudongdeshijiandadianhuajita，hetayouhui，neimanidezhulizijinkanshangquhenzhong，shijishangqueqibushanghelidegongxiao，youyutazaoyizhidaonimeiyiciyazhudechicun，yineryejiudagaizhidaonishoushangyouduoshaopai，xiangruhechu，zheicishoujiyouxiduitaeryanjiuzaoyimeiyouhendaquweixinghexiyinlile，jiusuannidechoumafeichangda，tayezaisuonanmianjuedesuoranfawei。yinci ，yidingyaobianweidongtaixingde“ganqingjingjiren”，huanjuhuashuo，yaogenggaigudingbudongdechoumaxiguanxing，buanjiliangdapai，neiyangdehua，nicaiyoukenengxiyinzhutadezhuanzhulikaizhi，yecaihenyoukenengchuqibuyi，buhuijianghaoduoniandeshijianbianweishixiaozhulizijin，bazijibianweiganqinglinagekukudengdaihenduonianhaofeileqingchunshaohuaquezuihoushuledeqinxianglian。

 richangshenghuoshuleshijianzhulizijindenvrenxuduo 。yixienvrentanlianaihenduonianerbucengmoudaohunyinshenghuo，yizhizhidaonanrenguoqulesanshijisui，qiancai、yingxianglishadouyoule，yibubixuyigehenyougongzuonengliernianguosanshidenvrenlaidinglixiangzhule，zuihoubianlianzuijibendeaiyeshulele。neiyangdenvrenzaichijiudetouruzhong，kanqilaixialefeichangzhongdechouma，queyouyubumingbaishijianshehuijingjixueershuleleganqingzheicichouma。

感情主力资金二：化学物质。

 aideguang，ziguyilaidaojin，hengzongdongxifang，chengqianshangwandalaodouyiqianmimanzheyilianxingfukuaile，jiqichenzuidigaozhiguodajia，“zhenzhengdeaiqingtongzhenqiechunsuide，chanbukeyidianercanzha”，“zhenzhengdeaiqing，quandouwuxujinjinjijiao”，“gaoshangdeganqingli，meiyouhuaxuewuzhizheiliangzi”。yinci ，huaxuewuzhiyizhishiganqinglizuisudeneizhangpai，henduorendouyixiangyaoweiganqingfengxianhuoshisheqiwuzhiliyiweizhenzhengdeaiqing，neimazhenduiganqingzheicichoumaeryan，wuzhiliyishibushibixu，youzhanduoshaobilini?zaiwoguoguyuyun“jiehunzhishi，weilunmenhuwang”，xianqinshiqicongzhuzibaijiagangkaishi，“menbudanghubudui”jiuzaoyibianchengyuedingchengsudeshehuiguize，bulunshi《shijing》lideyuyanhuanshiqindaidekeshiyaoqiuhunyinshenghuoyao“gaodiguijianmingxi，nanhaihenvhailishun”;bulunshitangchao“minsuxiuhunyinshenghuobujiguanpin，ershangfayue”demendiyishi，huanshiyuanmingqingshi“zhuliangjianvyuanyurennuweihunzhe，jishiyahuan”detongzhi，wuyibubiaomingbuchuangzaozhe“menbudanghubudui”dejiehunshehuijingjixue。yinci ，huaxuewuzhizhenduiganqingshehuijingjixueeryan，shiyigebunenghushidezhongtedaketiyanjiu。

 ganqingdezuizhongmubiaobianshihunyinshenghuo，hunyinshenghuoshishehuifazhanzuishaodegouchengbufen，shigoujianzaijingjiyishangderendequanmianfazhan，yinci zhongjiuzhengbutuohuaxuewuzhizhulizijindeguanshu。zhijiagedaxuejingjishijiamocengmingquetichule“xinjiazhongshehuijingjixue”，tajuededajiawanhundemudiqujueyuxiangconghunyinshenghuozhonghuodelirunhuadeshouyi，jiaruhunyinshenghuoshouyichaochuledanshendeshouyi，aidefangshiyounaxieni？neimadajiabianhuitiaoxuanwanhun，buranjiuningkedanshen。yinci ，ganqingdeshengfushijishanghe“huaxuewuzhi”zhulizijindechicunmiqiexiangguan，meiyigerendoushiyouqulebikudetianxing，jiusuanshigaoshangdaoweileaisheqiwuzhiliyi，ersheqidewuzhiliyiyiyangyeshihuodeganqingdezhulizijin，touruzhulizijinderenyaohuanlaidebianshiganqingdexingfukuaile。shuobailehuannanfuqibaishiai，zaiganqingdechoumazhong，jiarubicidechoumachabiehenda，siliangboqianjindenengliangjiunanyibaochichijiudeganqingjunheng。