爱一个人有错吗?如何拒绝男人?

 aiyigerenyouduoku?gaozhizhuiqiunidenanshengniduitameiyouxingquaihao，youshihouhuilingnibushufu，wulundajiashixianghuhaibutaishu，yihuodajiazaoyiyouhuiguosanci，quanshizheiban。sunhaitarendeqingganzhongjiubingbushiyijianhaoshi，keshiyidanbakeguanshishishuochulai，niyejiuhuiganjuehenqingqingsongsong，erlingyifangyekeyixunsudixunzhaoxiayigezongtimubiao。ruguonilejieyaoduitashuoxienaxiejiqizenyangzhangkou，niyejiunengjinliangwenrouwanzhuandihuijuetadeqinggan。neimeaiyigerenyoucuoma,?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiyigerenxuyaoliyoumadewenzhangba。

ruhejujuenanshengyibufen1:shuoxienaxie

1、决策你是不是要当众对他说。

 xingba，ruguonimenyijingyouhui，queshi，niyinggaidangzhonghetatitichufenshou，neibancaisuanshiyoulimaodezuofa。aiyigerenyouduoku?keshijiarutagenjushoujixinxihuodianziyoujianlaiyueni，huoshishigenjuxianshangyuehuiwangzhan，zaineiyangdexusiqingjingzhonghuiyingtajiujiaoweishihe。neiyangzuodajiashuangfangdougengnengfangzhinankan，erqieyekeyimianchunijiandaotabeishangbiaoqingdetongchu;lingwai，zheiyekeyijiaojitadaliangdezizun，bingfeijiniyinzhengtazaitingjianxinxihouyouduomededebenkui。danjiarulingyifangjiushinihenqinmiwujiandepenyou，huoshidajiazaoyiyouhuile2gebanyue，neimaniyejiubixujitamendagedianhua，kanyixiazenmezuoshiduitagengweizhongshide。

 •yaozhuyaobiaoxiandewanshanxie，wulundajiashifoudangtanhua，bixuqinzihetatan。rangnidepengyoulaidaihuahuishitajuedebushitaihaode。

2、要直言不讳自身讨厌和他相处。

 ruguonitaoyanzheiyinansheng，niyejiubixuchengxindishuochuniduitameishenmexingqudekeguanshishi。jiarutayueniquwan，ninengshuoyixiexiangjinxiabiandehua：“wohenbaoqian，keshiwoqueshibuganjuebicizhijiannengyounaxielangmandeshiqingchansheng。”huoshi“woduinimeiyouneibandejuede，keshiwoqueshiganjueduinihao。”rangneiyangdehuihuajinkenengjianjiemingle，keshiyaoshitalejienibuxianghetaxiangchu，neiyangtajiuburongyiganjueyihuo，yebuhuizaizainipangbianjiuchanbuqingzhenini。

 •tahenyoukenenghuibiwenniyuangu，dannibingbuyidingjiangnitaoyantadeyuanyinsuoyouduitashuo。zheihuishitajuedegengzaogaode，yinci ，jibian lingyifang“juede”bixuwengedaodi，yeqingbangtamianchuzheileicaogaodejuedeba。

3、得出一个有效的原因。

 aiyigerenyoucuoma,ruguoniduitameiyouganjue，jiuduitashuo。ruguonirujinlinshibuyuanyurenyouhui，jiushushibiaoming。ruguonizaoyiyouxihuanderenle，haiyaoshitalejie。ruguonijuedetayidianyebumeilidongren，naizhirerentaoyan，yinerqueshitaoyanta，neinijiunenggoubazheizhongguanjiandianmanbaoqilaile。jinguansahuanghuoxugoutuocilingrenhenbuyukuai，keshimeirenhuiyaoxiangtingjian“woshibuxihuanni”neiyangdehua。xiangyigeyouganranliyouburongyitaizhishangdeyuanyinba。

•tizaoxiangniyaoyaoduitashuonaxieyuanyin，neiyangruguonisahuang，yebuhuibeitafajuele。

•ruguonibingbushiqueshixiailingyigeren，jiububiduitaneiyangshuo。taxunsubianhuifajuede。

 •ciwai，ruguonizaoyixiailingyigeren，jiububishuohuangshuonihaimeiyouzhunbeihaojienayiduanganqing。ruguotazaidajiajiaotanhoumeiduojiujiukanjianniyulingyigenanshengquwannaizhiyouhui，tahuiganjuezishenxianggeerlengzi，youyunimengpianleta。

4、要坚定不移。

 henyoukenengnizheigerenhenshanjierenyi，keshiniwubishitaqingxidigaoqingchu，niduitabingmeibaoyoulanmandeqingyi。ruguonishuo“worenweizishenrujinbuchuyuyigeheshilianaidejieduan……”huoshi“zheigeyuewodexueyequeshiguozhongle……”，neimatahenyoukenenghuiwujiewei，niyizhizaiduitashuo，jiarutazaijianchibuxiedengyilianggeyuebianhuigenghaiyoujihui。jitamenxubaodexiwangshihenbutaihaode，aiyigerenxuyaoliyouma,jinguanneiyanghenyoukenenghuishitaduanshijiangengqiangshouyixie，keshiyaohuadaliangduoyudeshijianlaishitayishidaotayunizhongjianmeiyougailv，zheihuishitagengshangxinde。