爱情分析：如何在感情中练就强大内心

 rqinjiejiemeiduiliyixiehaojiemeizongzaidanxinheexdebuleqing，benlaizaiyiqihuxiangzhemo，keshiyoushebudetichufenshou，yejiushishuofenshouzhihouyoufuhexing，jieguoshangdegengjiashenru。yeyoudebianshizongbeinanpengyoudeexsaorao，ganjuezishenyougongzuoyali。neimeaiqingguannianyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiqingfenxidewenzhangba。

 zaizheier，rjiexianggenquanbudejiemeituanshuoshuo：niyizhizaitanlianaiqian，jiuxuyaoxiangqingxinishiyaozhaoyigebaba，huanshiyigenanyou。shijishangcongmouleililunshangeryan，aiquanshiyoubiaozhunde，jinyoufuqindeaixiangduieryanshimeiyouliyoude。shijishangyankeshijiyiyishangeryanfuqindeaiyeshiyoubiaozhunde，liru，niershijiaoweiguaixueyechengjibijiaohao，ninengganshoudaonidebabahuigengweitengniyidian。ernanyoudeaijiuguidinggengweiduole，nidezhangxiang、shenxing、xingqing、jianshi、xiuyangzheixiedoushihuizuchengtaaizhenidebiaozhun。danniyewubikegumingxinshijidelejiedao，ruguoshiyiduanyansurenzhenderelationship，zheigerenshiweilaiheniyiqidajianjiazhong，yiqidanfushenghuodegongzuoyaliheyiqigongxiangshenghuodesuoyouxinuaile。erbushinijiezhutaqudajianyigejiazhong，shitaduziyirendanfushenghuodegongzuoyali，heqidaotadechuxianhuijiniguoshangxiaogongzhuyiyangdeshenghuo。

 yinweixiantiandeshenglixuejiegoudebuyiyang，dajianvshixiangduieryanhuanshijiaoweilixing，xinlibuzuqiangjing，xiaixiazhuomo，duishiqingderenzhinenglinanyijiandaoshizhi。yiduanrelationshipzhong，yizhitaiguoduzhuzhongai，meiyouzhuzhongrelationshipbenshen。zuobudaobuyinjieguoweidaoxiangxing(erzhongzaoyitijile“wentidaoxiang”debiyaoxing)youyutaizhuzhong“ai”defangshi，bianhuikongzhibuzhudeyibianbianzhengshi……yinci yizhihuichixudechuwentilaichallengezishendenanyou，suihouhuidabukeyirangzishenlingrenmanyi，jiugangkaishizhengshiciqianzishen“tabugouaiwo”dejiading，suihouzaicichallenge，zheibanyierzaizaiersandefanfu，zaocheng leliangjihua。suihoujiubazijizuosidelingwai，yebazheiyiduanqingganzuoqushile。

neimazenyangnenggoufangzhizuoni，zheiyeshidiaojieqingxudeyizhong。

 zuixian，zhenduiniexdesaorao，nijuedezishenyougongzuoyali。neijiushinizishenweizijide。yigenanrendeshenmeiguannianxiangduieryanshipingwende，burongyiyishijianyoufeichangdadezhuanbian。nixuyaojianxin，ninanyoudeexmendefengziyunijichushizaitongyishuipingwangshangde，meishenmeyouqizhenhandequbie。duiyuxingqinga，jianshiazheizhong，kenengyebuhuiyouhendazhuanbian。jiaruninanyouyizhigennitiexyouduochuseduomehao，bachengshiduizishenmeiyoushenmezixinxin，xianghuhuni，jinilaolaoshishide，nineixinlejiejiuxing，yemeibiyaoqueshiganjuezheixieexmenyouduomehao。

 yinci ，jiarunizhendehenaininanyou，queweitadeexerzhengchao，neishiyizhongquefazixindezhuyaobiaoxian。huoshishiyizhonghenhaiziqidejiaoweixinlizhuangtai(nanyouyidingyaogengshuoaiwo!)。zheijiubingbushiwentidaoxiangluojisiwei，youyuzhongjiusheidoubuyuantaizuo。

yinci ，nixuyaoguanlizijidexintai，zheiyeshisuzaoyouliangxingqingdeyigehaofangfa。

 changtingnanrenshuoyaozhaoxinggehaodeshiba，yaozhaowenrousishuideshiba?yinci nijuedeniyinggaishishishunta，wenroutitie，wenroudefayan，guanzhuta，zaiyitademeiyijianshi……?

gaozhidajiayijushehuike，wojuedejiaoxinggehao，zainanshengyanzhongzheijiao：meizhujian、chanren、zhanren、taoyan……

 genggaodeyijushuoshihualaila!xinggehaokendingshiyixiangqiangligongzuonengli——nengdiaojieqingxu，nengcaozongjushi，nengzhangkongbicizhijian，nengjiejuetanlianaiweiji。ciwai，shifoudouyanzheta，shifouguanzhuta，shijishangbuzhongyao。

 nengdiaojieqingxubingbudengyuqianghan。zheijiushiweishenmeyoudenvxing(yibanshihenjiaose)，biaocenghenwenroudandingcongrongtianjing，jianghuayerourouhuanhuande，danbingburenweiyanqing。dangnanrenfancuoshierdeqingkuangxia，tameiyigexingdongquanshiyouweishelide。

为何要调节情绪?

 aiqingfenxi，youyuxintaicaozongzhenidegerenxingwei，lingyifangzongshijiandaonidegerenxingwei，erbushichuziyuhuanweisikaokaolvdaonishigenjuruhedexintaizuochuzheizhongfengkuangxingwei。

zheijiushiweihesuhuashuo“xingshengyuyan”。

 jilao，dangqingxushikongdeqingkuangxia，bubijixiwangyunizailiaoyijunaxiededangdehua，huoshiwanjiudehua，huoshinaxiebiwendekonghua，nenggoubaituokunjing。

shuodeyueda，niyuewufakongzhi，qingxianbipozishenzhongzhi。

基础理论讲过许多 ，来一些case吧。

 dahuoerxuduo qingkuangxiadoushihuihenanshengliaoqqshoujiweixinduanxiaoxishiba，zheiyitextdewupin，meilejianghuarendeyudiao、xiaobiaoqingnaxiede，youqifeichangrongyidaozhiwuhui。

 youshilingyifangyijuhuahenyoukenenghuiredenvhaibukaixin，huoshihuiyingmeiyouxiangpipeidaonvhaiqidaidehaodianzishang，liru：ng/e/haihao/buqingchu/zheiyebuguanjian/rujinbingbushitanzheiyideqingkuangxia(shifouhenshuxi?)2gerendeqingxugangkaishidoubutaidui，fenweigangkaishiyoudianerjiaolvbuan。

 aiqingguannianyounaxieni？burongyidiaojieqingxu、bukeyibawojushideren，tongchanghuigenjuzheiyidiangangkaishihuaixintaidesanfa，tamenhuifeedbackyijugenglengdandehua，yidanfajuemeiyoujifalingyifangxingwuziwofansi，yeshiyaodecunjinchidegangkaishiyijujieyijudezhiyi、dachaodanao。