什么叫爱一个人?有一种爱叫“放手”

 yigenanrenainidebiaoxianyounaxie？tichufenshou，daodishisheidoubuyuanyijiandaodejieguo。danshijizhong，henduorendoujingliguo，nenggoushuochengwukenaihedejieguo。danshizheieryaotishideshi，tichufenshouyebixuzaoxingyishu，congmingquetichutichufenshoudeyishunjian，daoyingyongzourulingyiduanxinganqing，quanshirenshengdaoluzhongwuketidaidemolian，“hepingfenshou”shiyuanfen、“haosanhaoju”shidaxuewen!neimeshenmejiaoaiyigerenyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmeshiaiyigerendewenzhangba。

1.被甩的男人眼里无泪，撕心裂肺的痛，因此 ，分手，就不要损害他

 dangganqingjieshu，zenyangtilianchuhuiqitadanliang，xuehuifangxiatongkudewangri，yibuchenjinyuzaiqizhongwufaziba?xialieshi4gewubiliuyideshiyi。

(1)fenshoudeyuanyin，jinliangyaochengxingaozhi。

 lianrencengshidajiadejiezhu，shidajiazuigaoduzhongshidelingyiban，jiranyiqianxieshoubingjiantaguorenshengzhilu，lingyifangjiuyingdangfeichangzhidenichengxinkandai。yinerfenshoudeyuanyin，jinliangyaochengxingaozhi，caikeyijiangzainanjiangzhizuishao。liruyigenanrenxianggennvpengyoutichufenshou，yuangushitaaishangletaren，zheishijishangshiyizhibaoyuan、shushouwucedeshier;danjiarutameiyouchengxingaozhi，youxiachelelingyigeyuanyinqutantichufenshou，neimazheiyinanrenfanxiadecuo，chukaipanbianyiwai、yeyoumengpian!huanjuhuashuo，‘chengxinyexuzhishang，danqueyiweizhechengxin’，yizhongduilianrendechengxin，wusuobuzhinenggoushuochengyizhong‘chengdanzeren’dezhuyaobiaoxian!ziran，zhenshideyuanyinshuochurukou，duibeibeiqidereneryanhuoxushipiaopodayu，danzuishaonengrangbicikandegengqingxi，yedanxin，wanghoumianyeyaochengshouyitiaomengpiandezuixing。

(2)bubizhizhenglingyifangdezuixing。

 mingquetichutichufenshoudeyifang，yidingyaozaichengxindeqiantitiaojianxia，buzhizhenglingyifangdezuixing，yigenanrenainidebiaoxianyounaxie？suihoumingquetichutichufenshou，zongshishigexinghuabufuhezaocheng pili，haiyaoranglingyifanglejie：“duinihao，jinjindajiaxianghubuyi”。

(3)buyongshuolingyifangdeshuoxianhua。

 wulunnishimingquetichutichufenshouzhe，youhuozheshifenshouzhe，bixuqieji“buyongshuolingyifangdeshuoxianhua”!tashijiguanjiandejianchibuxie，huanglunganqingshangsheikuijiuleshei，shuolingyifangshuoxianhuaquanshizuishigedezhuyaobiaoxian。huirangbierenrangnifumianxinxidianping，gengrangdajiacengyoudeganqingyuelaiyuefeichangbuzhide。huiguotoulai，ruguonizhizenanyouzisizili、xiaojiaziqi、lansandengquexianshi，bierenhuiwen：neimenidangshiweishenmetiaoxuanleta?youyu，shuolingyifangshuoxianhuadelingwai，yeshizaijinshizishen!

 (4)tangruolingyifangbingbuqidaishixiafenshoudeshihou，bubihuoshengshengladuanxianghudexian，daozhineixindesiposhang，zheigeshihounenggoumingquetichu“rangbicilizhisisuoyiduanshijian”detiyi，rangxianghudoushiyousikaodekongjianheshijiancaihao。

2.不必把丧失的理性化

 xinlixuezhuanjiadeyanjiufaxian，yuefawufahuodedewupin，zaidajiaxinzhongzhongdeyingxiangliyuegao，shiyongjiazhiyueda，duidajiayueyouyouhuoli，suibianhuodedewupinhuoshizaoyihuodedewupin，qishiyongjiazhitongchanghuibeibierensuohulve。zaiwoguominsushixingneiyangyizhongjiaofa“qiburuqie，qiebibushangtou，toubibushangtoubudao”，huanjuhuashuodezheiyidadaoli。

 shenmeshiaiyigeren?meimeidahexiaoenzixiaoliangxiaowucai，zhihou，youyuxiaoendebianxin，liangrenzuihoumeiyounenglaidaoyiqi。jinguanhenduonianyiwang，meimeidachajuezijiyizhishenaizhexiaoen，leisijingyangdeneilei。suizhidaoyongbuhenyoukeneng，danxiaoenzaimeimeidaxinlideyingxianglizishizhizhongmeiyourenkequdai。duiyucishimeimeidazishenyechayi，qiewanbanwunai。

 zhihou，meimeidadaxuebiyebingbaomingcanjiagongzuozhong，bianchengyimingrangrenxianmujidudeguojiagongwuyuan。yiciyounanyouxiaoling、xiaobian，gecengmianjundapei，yecengjifuxiangqin，danyuduixiaoendechimiduibi，queshichahenyuan，suifenshouzuopengyou。

 youguoqule2nian，yigejiaojunweidejishugongchengshichuangjinmeimeidaderichangshenghuo。junweiyeguishuyuheshiwanhundezhonglei，kemeimeidarengranmeiyoulianaideganjue。rujin，meimeidazaoyi28sui，yifangmianganjueyingdangzaicizhaoxialai，zhaonenglingzishenpengranxindongderen，jiusuanzhishishixiaoendetidaipin;danlingyifangmianyouganjuechukaixiaoen，qitananrenshijishangdouleisi，gancuipingpingdandanchujiahaola。xianjunweibihun，meimeidaxiangyixiangyemeiyoushenmehuijueyuanyin，zhongjiuzaiyiqihenkaixin，xiangqinqijiarenyiyang。

 danzaimeimeidadexinlizhuangtaiyizhiyouyigeyihuo：“bierendoushuowanhunzhuyaoxunzhaozijixiaide，duijunweidejuedeshifousuanxiaini?neiyangjialezhihouhuibuhuihouhui?”

如今，她仍在迟疑。

 xianshishenghuozhongde，neiyangdeshilibuzaishaoshu。pengdaodeneiren，niquexinshishide!zhenzhengdezhuangkuangshi：buyidingxiangnixiangxiangdehenhao。xuduo nanrenyoubuliebennengfanying，yixiyinnvrendezongshulaihuodexinxin;shenmejiaoaiyigeren?ernvrenshianjubennengfanying，yujianaideren，jiuganjueyaohetajigoujiazhong。nianqingdenvrenfeichangrongyibaaidenanrendangzuozuizhong，fenshouhouhouwufaziba，zishensunhai，zibaoziqi。