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 liangdazhenyingdejichulilunwojuedeyidianyebufenqi，zhenzhengdizhuyaobiaoxianchudalingshengnvneidianfenqidexiaoxinsi。congaiqingkaishi,shengnvdeyisishi，jirannvrenyaodanduhanlezheixienian，woqiannenggoubuyongle，xianzaiwoyaogekexindeguniangle;biewangji“nvhanzhi”yeshinvxing，nvrenweishenmebukeyibeinanrenyiwoxiangdefangfachongnini，woqueshiyaoxiangyifenshifenmingque、anquanxing、qiaruqifendetengai。

 shuoshihuashuo，wogongzuobianshimeirikanjiandalingshengnvmentanduixiang，zaikanguozheimeduoshengnv(dalingshengnv)xiaogushiyihou，yinweiwotinglejietamendui“nanshen”neileizhongxindeyy。jiaruwanqianghedanduyiwai，meiyouyifenzhongyudeganqingguichu，neimawanqianghedandudeshijiyiyiduinvshieryandaizhubuxingyanse，youyutadeqiangjinghenkenengbiancheng“hunlianjiaoyouyuanzui”，yidabufennanshihunlianjiaoyouxinlizhuangtaieryan，keyiyuzhidapeidenanshijiangyuelaiyuedi。zheidaobushishuonanshibuzuchuse，zhishishuoerzhecunyouyaoqiudeyiwei。daozuizhongtazhiyoupiaobozaijiqideganqingkewangzhong，yizhiyu“nanshen”bianchengyijianweineixindefangzi。dangdalingshengnvgennishuo“nanshen”deyiqie，nilejietashijishangzaiduinishuo，wodesinianqueshiwuchuzhifang，wohuoxuyaozhaodebingbushijieshouwoyunshideren，danwodesinianqueshibixuyouxieren“jieshou”。

nantishi“jieshou”younalijianyi?youduoshaodui“nanshen”dexiwang，jiuyouduoshaodui“bunuan”detongku。

 youyigenvhai，biaozhunfeichanghaodan30lehaidanshen，jinqizongsuanyouyigegudingbudongjianguojidaodenanpengyou，woxunwentaduilingyifangyinxiangzenyang。tashuo，yibanba，woxunwenruhegeyibanfa，tashuo，lingyifangyouyitaofang，kaijiajingjishiyongche，zaiguoyingqiyezuocaiwuhuiji，shengaobugaobuai，waishengren，jiazhongmeiyoushenmecaizhengfudan，jinguanputonghuashuipingyoudianerguxianghuayin，meishenmeyoumofengqu，keshitinglaoshibajiao，manheshiwanhunde。

wojiang，dajialiaodelaima?

他说，就那般吧。

wojiang，dajiayouhuiyibanzuoshenme?

tashuo，yongcan，sanbu，songwohuijiale。

wojiangdajiajiubukeyizhaodianqitashiquzuogema，tafanwendaowo，yibanyouhuiyeyaoganshenme?

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 henkeling，zaiwomenyagenbukeyiyiqiadangdefangfalaiai，bianhuifandaoliganqingyuezouyueyuan。zheitixianchuwomendeaihanyangshibijiaoyanzhongbuzude。zheilibianziranyouwenhuajiaoyu、wenhuayishudegezhonggeyangnanti，danbunenghushizaiqizhongzuizhongyaodemiulunshi，xianyoujihuanshixianyoudan。dangnvhaieryizhizhuzhongshenai，shishishangyeshitahaipaqutouruai——shitihuishenaidechengxinhoucaiquai，huanshiyingdangquaitarenyidedao shenaidezizhi，tashigenanti。duizheigewentideyihuozishen，gengshidajiaqianqueganqingwendudemingxianzhengshi。

 buwanmeideaiqing,fuluomuzai《aideyishu》lishifenhaowuyiwendishuo，ganqingbingbushixianlaiwushi，queshishiyizhonggongzuonengli。