柏拉图式的爱情,婚恋中的误区

 dajiajiaoda decuowuguannianshi：yigerenjielehunjiuyiweizheta(ta)chengshule。suihou，bahunyinhehuanlehuashangdengyuhao，haoxiangnijinrulehunyin，jiuyiweizheganshouxingfu。duihunyin，guoduodeqiwangdaijidajiadeshikesuxing，taiguodeqidaidaijidajiadeshixinhan。neimebolatushideaiqingshishenmeyisi?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanbolatushideaiqingdewenzhangba。

 nanshengfensandexinhuibuhuijia，buzaiyutaziji，erzaiyunidezuofa。jiaruniyaozhengjiuhunyin，yiwangfancuode，niyejiuxiangfanzuo。niyeyaoyounaixin，jitamenyigeshijianjianjiandihehaoruchu。nihaohaozhuiyidajiaqinziguanxihemushi，dajiadouxiaixienaxie，xiangxiangzherujinshenmeshiqingyemeiyouchansheng，bajiazhongfenweijinkuaidihuifuqilai，manmanjitamenyizhongjuede：zheierhuanshitadejia，shenghuohuanshikeyiguoxialaide，erbushixianghujilingyifangchoulian。wulunsheidecuo，neibandeshenghuosheiyechengbuxiaqu。

fanglishenzai《dujiashiai》shuo：“nihenhao，biebuyaowo”，danshiyizhuanyanqueshenbeixifudadianhuajiqitanvxing。

 hunyindedaodedixianshizhongshi，shubuzhinanaxiejianxinxianghudezhongshi?fuqizhongjian，ganqingdouhuiningjing，yiwuzhujianchending，duizhongshide“zerenzhuijiu”，liangzhezhijianwenlingyifangbibushangwenyixiaziji，zishenshibushiyeyouai?zishenshibushijindaozeren?liangzhezhijianwensheibisheiaidegengchijiu，bibushangxiangyixiang：sheibisheitourudegengchijiu?

 dajiajiaoda decuowuguannianshi：yigerenjielehunjiuyiweizheta(ta)chengshule。suihou，bahunyinhehuanlehuashangdengyuhao，haoxiangnijinrulehunyin，jiuyiweizheganshouxingfu。duihunyin，guoduodeqiwangdaijidajiadeshikesuxing，taiguodeqidaidaijidajiadeshixinhan。renshengdaoludesheng、li、si、bie，womendouyaoyiyiaiguo，zheizhongtongchubutaikenengkaohunyinlaixiaorong。dajiaxinhanyici，yejiuhuifazhanyici。

 fuqiniantoubuyiyang，chanshengmaodun，meiyigerendouxiangzishenshiduide，ranglingyifangrenkezishen，fuqineiyanggoutongjiaoliushihuibuchenggongde，xuduo fuqideguanjianshishishangbianshi“sheitingsheide”nanti，jizaihunyinzhongyoumudeqianyishidijiaozhuyigefenpeiquan，erbuqujueyuzheiyishierzishenduima。fuqidemaodunyingdangtiaochulai“sheiduidaodishisheidecuo”deyishi，buranjiuhuiyulaiyudingzhu。fenqichuxianle，dajiayingdangjinzaoleduan，erbushifenlichulaisheiduidaodishisheidecuo。

 “ganqingjianjiandidejiuhuibianqinggan，qingganyoubianweirenqingshigu，bujiyouguoyibuqu，jiduoleyouganjuebuzhide。”《hunqianshiai》

 juanqimeidejiazhongbuyidingquanshihaode。dahuoeryoubuyiyangdejiazhiguannian，shenmewentinizuozhu，shenmewentizuozhu，zhidingyige“rangbu”dexieyishu。zishenyayiganjiule，xuanxiechuqu，kanshangqubutaihao，keshifuqishiyingdangzhengchaode，youyugenjuzhengchaozheileijizhonghuamingxiandemaodunfangshijiangchuzishendeniantou，yeranglingyifanglejienidegexinghua、aihaodeng。yinci，lingyifanghuifashenggaibian，tashi“jijizhudongdemaodun”。xiangfan，xuduo lengmodehunyinbuzaizhengchaodezhuangkuangxianengjianjiandiwajiede。

 nvxingpengdaohunwailiangandeyinyou，rutongguangjiepengdaoyijiantaofu，jinguanhenmeikeshiyaoshiwanyuan，jinguanxiaidanchengshoubuqi。yaoxiangshiyiqiezhengchangde，keshikeguanquehuixiangyaonisheqi。tabushiniwanhundemubiao，yebushilixianghuadelaogong，nineiyangxialaiduizishenmeiyouyichu。zishenbuyuanyizaoshousunhai，yebubisunhaizishendelaogong。yaolianluo，nenggoufaxinxi，keshibubichangchangpengmian，wuxutiaodouxingdeyuyan，fangzhinuanweidepengmianchangdi。duobaomingcanjiajianshenyundonghekewaihuodong。yaosuishisuidiguliziji，jinizerenrangzishenwanshanqilai。

bolatushideaiqingshishenmeyisi？zhangqixingguanlianchukaibicidejiyuwai，daliangshi2gedandugerendefazhanyukuanrong。