柏拉图式的爱情,择偶五阶段理论

 yingguoqingganzixunshiluobote•kalanboshiyanjiushengmingquetichu，yiduanqudechenggongdetanlianaihuilijingxiabianwugehuanjie：xiyinzhu、tiaoxuan、paita、qinmiwujian、dingqin/wanhun。kanjianjiaoweikuzaofawei?biezheji，wonengnahaoduogeshililaijiniqieshentihuizheihaoduogehuanjiedebuyiyang。neimebolatushideaiqingshishenmeyisi?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanbolatushideaiqingdewenzhangba。

•diyijieduan：xiyinzhuhuanjie•

 shuangfangdouganshoudaoxianghudeyouhuoli，texiangzaizhangwolingyifang，kanshibushiyoufazhanqushidehenyoukeneng。youhuoliguanjianlaiyuanyubiaomian、yantanjuzhidengwaijiebiaozhun。yaoshiyouhuolibuduanchixu，jiuwubiyoufangfadiweilingyifangchengxianzishen。yiduanxindeguanlianqianqisuozaoyudetiaozhan，bianshibaochiyouhuoli，shiguanlianjianchixiaqu。

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 qishiwoyizhijiandingbuyidijuedeqinjianjieyueshichuantongmeide，yihandeshizheiyinanhaiernongcuolekeyishuozheiyihuadehuanjie。jiaruwanhunyihounigenfurenjiang：jinrijiuzuo2gecaiba，kaiduoleyechibushang，tingshuofurenhuixinhualufang。danshizaidiyigehuanjie，zheileihuazongshibeinvxinglejiewei：jinjinjijiao、meichengxin、qiongguangdandeng。

zaizheigehuanjiebeilingyifangxiyinzhudexianghudoushihuijiejinquanlizhanxianzishendepiqihao、haoxingqing、haobiaozhun。jugeshili：

 nanxingqidaizaimouyitianjianmiannvxing，danshinvxingchuziyu“jindububitaikuai、gangkaishishishiyizhoupengmianyici”dengnanyizhixindeyuanyinwanyanxiejue，nanxinghuidechu“neigairiwozaiyuenizenyang?”jibian youduoshaobuyue，neiyikouqiyebidingyaoduozhenxinshiyiyouduozhenxinshiyi!

•dierjieduan：tiaoxuanhuanjie•

 hao，jiadingdiyijieduanshuangfangzaicishoulingyifangxiyinzhuerjindulaidaozheiyihuanjie，bicihuilijingyigekeguandesikaoquanguocheng：“woqueshixiaitama?”、“taqueshiaiwoma?”、“woqueshiyaohetazaiyiqima?”tashiqinggandebidinghuanjie，bianshixianghuzhangwo、jiazhongqinggan、bianbieshibushishihedehuanjie。youderenjinguanhuxiangshangxi、huxiangxiai，danlijingzheiyihuanjiehouhuibiancheng“penyou”、“depengyou”、“lanyanzhiji”、“zhiji”deng。youderenhuxiangshangxi、huxiangxiaierqiejuedehenshihe，lijingzheiyihuanjiehouhuijindaodisangehuanjie——paitahuanjie，bianchengqinglv，xianghuzhujiu、yunyingyiduanqinggan。

•di4huanjie：paitahuanjie•

 zaijinruzheiyihuanjieyihou，bicisuanzuojianliqinglvdeguanlianle，gangkaishijindaotianmeideerrenshijiezhong，langqingqieyi，feinibuai，jibenshanglaidao“yiribujianxi，gesanqiu”dechengdu。zheigeshihoubianshi“congxiaoqumenkoudaodamenkoude50mideluliangrennenggouzousanshifenzhong，yitiannenggouzouqibahui;liangrenjiaotanjichuguishuyudishengxiyu，linglianggerenkaihuaidaxiaodeneirongjibenshangmeifarangsuiyiyigexiaoliaojididerenhahadaxiao;liangrenzaiyiqishimuguangguangliang，liangjiachihong;liangrenfenlishimuguangdaizhi，lvjiaohunmibuxing”dehuanjie。

 jiaruyizhaoganqingyingshizuopindebianji，zheigeshihouyingdangchuxiange“disanzhe”，kenengshiqianren/qianrennvyou，kenengshinanxingdetongshi/penyouhuozhenvxingdeyixingpengyou/penyou，naizhihenyoukenengyanshendaokeliandeyixingpengyouzhiluren，huanjuhuashuo，zaizheigehuanjiejiaruzaiqizhongyifangyuyixingpengyouweichijinmidelianluo，lingyifanghuizhuyaobiaoxianchumingxiandedujixinlizhuangtai。

 zaizheigehuanjie，biciyanlidelingyifangzaoyigangkaishiyuelaiyuejibenshangwurennengdi、fannengjieyouxiudechengdule，erlianggerendeguanlianyeshenggaolaidao“yiribujian，rugesanqiu”deshuizhun，jugeshili：

 nanxingqidaizaimouyitianjianmiannvxing，danshinvxingchuziyuzhongzhongyuanyinmeifayingyao，nanxinghuiyijianfankuiyixia：“jiabanjiadian?youyixingpengyouma?neiwozaizheilidengniwanbizainiqiyedamenkoujieni，feitongfanxiang!”

 jiarunanxingyuenvxingyiqiqukanzishendalanqiu，buguannanxingchongfenfahuiruhe，wanbihounvxingdoushihuidishangyinpinhechunmianmaojin，suihouchixinbugaidao：“jinrinidalanqiuzhenshuai，danshibianshangnagerangnijiyoudemmnilejiema?”

bolatushideaiqingshishenmeyisi？huizongchulai，zheiyihuanjiezuihenyoukenengchuxiandezhuangkuangbianshi——fapiqi!