情感沙龙之缺乏安全感的女人

 qingganwanhuizenmezuoni？waishengnvchushideneiyitian，woyiyuanmenzhenkantale。ganggangkandaotadeqingkuangxia，tacongyunmalichuquhaibushangyigexiaoshi。neimeqingganshalongyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanqinggansanwenba。

 neishihou，tangzaiyingertuicheshangdetajiqi“jiaoqing”，haipatarenlengdanleta——wubiyouxierenmeishimeikepeizaitashenpang。tajinguanbizheyanjing“shui”，danyidanjuededaoshenpangmeiyourenle，huilikejiukuqilai。gangfajuezheiyidiandeqingkuangxia，wohaiyiweishiouran，zhihou，wokeyiganlegeshiyan，rangwomamayuanquyidian，yinweiwoyuanquyidian，taguozhenzaidutongkuqilai;dengzhewokaojinhoupailetayixia，talikehuanjielexiangsheng。zheiyishiyanfanfuganlesansihui，jieguodouyiyang。

 niyishipei，tabichouqi。laikan，wodexinong，rangta“henquefaanquangan”。laikan，“meiyouanquangan”，bingbuzhishi《feichengwurao》shangbianzheixienvshengde“quanli”，gangchushengdeyingerrengjiuzheiban。

wosuigantandao：“meiyouanquangan，duinvreneryan，bianshigeyonghengbubiandezhutifengge。”

erlaidaochengrenshijiezhong，“meiyouanquangan”，naizhihuanshiquanqiuzuishixingdeyizhong“fukejibing”。

信任感越强，便越没有安全感

 “guishugan”zheigecizailianaizhongdechuchanglvhengao，tanenggoushinvhaijienayigerendeyuanyin，haikeyishinvhaihuijueyigerendeyuanyin，tarangnanrenmenwangershengwei，buzhisuoyun。

daodi，nvrenzuizhongde“guishugan”jiujingshishenmehanyi?

 “guishugan，bianshinimingxiandiganjuetayuelaiyueaini;xinrengan，qingganwanhuizenmezuoni？bianshinimingxiandiganjuenilibuleta。”lejiadezheijuhua，jiushiwosuowenguodedui“guishugan”deshidejieding。

 qingganshalong,dangenjujiaoweizheilianggejieding，dajiahuifajue，guishuganhexinrengan，shijishangshiyoudianerfenqide，nanyijiangu。yibanlaishuo，niyueaiyigeren，jiuyuehuiganjuenilibuleta，yinci，xinrenganyejiuyueqiang;danlingwai，niyueaizheigeren，yuelibuleta，bianyuehuidanyoutabuaini，huoshi，danyoutaburongyiheniaitaneibanzijintourudiaizheni，yiner，nibianyuehaipapanduan“talibulewo”。suoyishuo，xinrenganyueqiang，guishuganbianyueruo。feichangshaoyounanrenkeyilingwaikaolvnvrendezheierzhongyaoqiu。

 youxuduonvren，yifangmianzhuiqiuwanmeipingwen，jixiwangyucongnanrendeshenshangdedao “guishugan”;lingyifangmian，queyouzhuiqiuwanmeicijixing，jixiwangyunanrennengjitashengchanzhizaochuyizhonglanmanjuede。danshi，keyijiyudajiaguishugandenanren，yibanquanshiyixieyouzerengande、benfendenaizhishi“hanhoulaoshi”deren;keyijidajiachanshengcijixingheshenmigandenanren，tongchangshiyixiehenxihuanxiazhetenghenaiwan、jinchaoyoujiujinchaozuideren，naizhishiqianquezerengan、shanyuzhanhuarecaode“huainanren”。

 hunqian，jiarunanrenmeifang，qinggansanwen,nvrenquefaanquangan;hunhou，jiarunvrenhuranfajuenanrenjuranshenbeitayouhenduotaofangwu，neitagengweiquefaanquangan。yiner，bulunshigediao，huanshizichan，doushiyoukenengshiduiguishugandejudaweixie。