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yichengpingshihua，qingshangzhishangshizenmeyihuishierni?

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 ziranzhihouyouguanqingshangzhishangdekexueyanjiujiuxuduo le，youdezhuanjiaxuezhejuedeqingshangzhishangzhuyaoshiyigerendikangcuobaidegongzuonengli;youxierenjuedeshikongzhibierenxintaidegongzuonengli;youxierenjuedeshidongxibierenzhuguanyinsudegongzuonengli，buyierzu。dajiajinributanguoduo，zhitanzheiyigengweiyuanchudelejie，jilejiezijixintaierqieguanlizijixintaidegongzuonengli。

 weilegenghaodibuhegaoshehuixinlixuedeneixingrenmendazuizhang，wozhichuduixianglibiandexintaizidonghuakongzhidebiyaoxinghexunlianfangfa。

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