爱的日记:男女对感情与婚姻认知差很大

 aideriji,zhenzhengdeaiqingnvxingdesuoyou，quejinjinnanshengdeyixiaobufen.neimeaiderenyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidesefangdewenzhangba。

 zainanrendeshijieli，yitiandaowanchenjinzaiweimeiaiqingliderenshimeibenshide，youyunanshengdezaojiushilaiziyugongzuodefazhanyudiweidetigao，erbushikaolingyibandeyikao!duiyuqingganjinjinqingchuzishengudude。

 dannvxingxingmingdeyuandonglizeshilaiyuanyutalingyibanquanxinquanyidetengxi，yincinvxinghuixiangyaoweitazuochuyiqiefangqi(duiyugongzuozhongbuguoshizhengqugongzibuzhiyuyushehuifazhancuoweidezhutihuodongeryi)。

 yinci nvxingchangxinhanyunanshengmeifajiangtabaifangzaidiyiwei﹙jinciyugongzuo，youshihouhaijinciyupenyou﹚，aideriji,ernanshengzechibuxiaonvxingyitiandaowanyaotazhengshizhenaitade。nanshengzaiyiguanlian、nvxingzaiyijuede

 nanshengzhuiqiuwanmeinvxingdemudiqujueyu“quedingguanxi”，eryibanzaizhuiqiuwanmeidequanguochengzhongnanrenshijiangnvxingfangdaodiyiwei，yehuizhuyaobiaoxianchuzishenshideyimian，erqiuhuanxin;danyaoshiguanlianpingwen，zhuiqiuwanmeidezhutihuodongbianhuihuanjie，naizhizhongzhi，mengranconggaofengqidiedaodigu。(nanrendelangmanqiyuanyuyijianzhongqing，zhihuhudingzhongsheng。)

 nvxingxiangyaojienananshengdezhuiqiuwanmei，shiyouyu“juede”feichanghao，erzhiyoubuduanhaodejuede，nvxingcaihenyoukenengjueceguanlian。yidanhaodejuedeyibu，guanlianyejiuyibule。(nvxingdezhongchengqiyuanyuhudingzhongsheng，zhihuxinrusihui。)

 nanshengdeyouhuanyishilaiziyu“guanlian”yaobaibuding，zheishiweishenmenanshengdezuibihuideshinvxingdepanbian“guanlian”，yidantajuedebeidaishanglvmaozi，dujidenuqihuishitasangshipingchangdelixing，wenpinggaoaizhejieran。

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nanshengshihunyinshenghuoweijienazeren、nvxingshihunyinshenghuoweirangyuzhipeiquan

 nanshengjuecewanhun，daibiaozhecongciyihoujiangzhaoliaotayibeizi。(danbuyidingyibeizizhizhaoliaota，youshihouyehenyoukenenghui“zhaoliao”taren，yinrenyousuobutongde)nvxingjuecewanhun，zedaibiaozhejiangkaiqixinmenzhiyaozhijiaodaoneigeren，zhijienatadeqinggan(danjiarunalesuochiquebukaiguanmen，suochibianhuiquhuilai)。nanrenyongzhongxinbuerlaiaidebiaoda，yonggongfenglaichixuguanlian。

 nvrenshirenweiaifangqilaiaidebiaoda，kaodeshidadonglaijiaoguanjuede。nanshengdeminganxingzaozaiwanhundangrijiucanjirenle，chufeishitajuedeyouweijicaihuizaiyicifusheng。ernvrenyaodejinjinbeipengzaishouxinshangtengxidejuede，bingbushizhenyaonanshengfangqiheshan，nanshenghekulinyuhuayanqiaoyuni?

nanshengdegoutongjiaoliukao“shuo”、nvxingdegoutongjiaoliukao“tihui”

 nanshengjuedeyoubumanyijiuxuyaoshuochulai，lingyifangcaikeyilejie，wuxucailaicaiqu;erruguobubabumanyishuochulai!duibianjienanyigaijin，yinci biaoshubumanyishiweilegenghaodidianxinglingyifang、jiejuekunnan，shiyizhongzhenchenggoutongjiaoliudegongluqiaoliang。

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 nanrenyaoxiangoutongjiaoliu，caihuichuxianhaodejuede。nvrenyaoxianyouhaodejuede，caixiangyaogoutongjiaoliu。fufugoutongjiaoliujiaoda dezuaiqujueyuyuyanbuyiyang，youbuyuanqujiulingyifangdeyuyan，jieguoshiliangoutongjiaoliudeyixiangyemeile。(zheiyeshizhengchaodelaili)

nanshengchangbanvxingdemaiyuandang“changjianguzhangbaozhang”laiqingchu，nvxingzechangbananshengdemaiyuandang“bianxin”laidaibiao。

 nanshengzongbanvxingdemaiyuanzuoweishiduizishenquexiandebumanyi，renweiyaoshijiangzheizhongquexiangaizheng，jiukeyijiejuekunnan，guanlianyejiubingbushouyingxiang。(danchangchangnvxingdemaiyuanchangjinjintishinanshenggaizuoweizuodeshi，erbushiguidinggenggai)nvxingchangbananshengdemaiyuanzuoweishi“yibushuoaiwo”dedaibiao，suihoubiangangkaishishibushizi“meiliyibu”，huocaiyilingyifangshibushiyongyouxinganqing。guaibudeyouhenduonvxingjianxin-yaoshibawozhunanshengdeweijiukebawozhunansheng?

 aidesefang,zhengrongshoushuhuozhehuashangshushiwanyuanqumeironghuisuo，yiwanhuilaogongdeliuyi。(danshijishangnanshengdemaiyuanchangjinjinyouliyouju，bingbingbushizaikanbushang)。nanshengdeyumeiqujueyurenweigerenxingweidejiuzhengnenggouwanhuinvrencuoliedejuede，shijishangpingfuchuangkouzuiyouxiaodefangshishizaojiuyigetianmeidedadong，erbushichengnuoxiabuweili。

 ernvrendetianzhenqujueyurenweibazijichuanzhedabandexianggeyecaojiukeyirangnanshengburongyiquzhaiyecao，shijishangyoushihounanshengdeaimuxurongbingbushizhendexianglingqiluzao，zhishixiangzhengshizishenyeyourenyao。zheishi，yuefayikuernao，fandaodebuchangshi。

 nvrenhenanrenyushengjulaizaiqingganshijiedexingweimoshibianshibuyiyangde，dangnanrenzaijiehunhoujiangjiqingzhileng、youlanmanbianweikeguanrichangshenghuodelingwai，nvxingquecaigangkaishikaiqixinfeitiqianzhunbeixiangyoulanman。jiaruyinererduihunyinshenghuoxinhanderenshiyijiben，yinererjuedehuanyigenansheng(nvxing)huigenghaozeshifeichangben。

 aideren,chufeishiyibeizinidouyibujianxinhunyinshenghuo，buranliangzhezhijianqudenghouzaowuzhuhuidailainijingxi，haibibushangxuehaolejienansheng(nvxing)yuzhenshidegoutongjiaoliufangshiba。