如何处理感情问题?恋爱中你那些不经意的愚蠢行为

 ruhekongzhizijideqingxu?yinweixingqingcunyoufeichangdadechabie，guzainanhaihenvhaidexiangchuzhong，changchanghuipulugeshigeyangdenanti，erxuduo nantibingbushizhenshishiganqingdezhengjiesuozai，tongchangjiuyuanyuyunanrenhenvrenchabiedaozhideweihai。danwojuedeyijingkanbenwendeni，yidingtingnansisuodaozishenyixienantichuzainaer，zheihenyiqiezhengchang：youyuzainidesiweidingshizhong，nisuozuodequanshiduide，zuishaoburongyibeiniganqing，dangengshizheileisiweidingshi，tongchanghuidaozhiaiqingzhongshang。neimeruhechuliganqingwentiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanruhekongzhizijideqingxudewenzhangba。

 lianaizhongyoushenmeyumeidegerenxingweini?shuogaoqingchuyidian，bianshiruguonizailianaizhongzuochudeshenmegerenxingweiziyiweishimeishenmewenti，danshishishanghenweihaiganqingni?jinriwomenjiuxuanzehaoduogedianxingxingdeshililaigongxiangyixia——

事例一：习惯斥责

 tongchangzaiganqingzhong，nvhaimenxiguanyouneiyangdeluojisiwei：tahenshuoaiwo，henchongzhewo，suoyiwozaijiaozong，ruhekongzhizijideqingxu?zaibutaizhaoliaotadexintai，doubuzaihu，wozhixiangyaoyouzhezishendepiqilaijiuxing。

 ruhetigaoqingshang?henyoukenengjiandaozheileixinlizhuangtaininengfouding，youyuniganjueneiyangdenvshengleixingbutaikenenghuichuxiannanshixihuan，danwojuederangnizijizaifanwendaozishen，zaiyixiezhuangkuangxia，shibushixinlihuichuxianneiyangdeniantouni，jiusuanshiyisisi?tangruonihuanshiganjuemeiyou，neizaidajiapingchangdexiangchuzhong，dangnanpengyoudeshenshangshenmeshierbuxunilingrenmanyi，huoshinizhufutazuodeshiermeigaohao，ninengyouruhedefanyingni?wojuedehaowuyiwenhuiqingzezeguai，zhongzechizeba，youyuzainidexinlingshenchuhuichuxianneiyangdeniantou：nijiwobanshiyingdangde，meigaohaobianshinideyiwu!

 dankeguanshishiqueshineiyangma?zhenzhengdeaiqinggongzhengde，tahezhenqingbuyiyang，zongrannijiangaiqingshuodezaijiechu，tayebuhuishibuqiuhuibaode，jinyoujiandaoyanxiadequanyi，yejiushishuojiandaozishenganqingdemaixiangshiguanghuide，youxiurencaixiangyaozaiganqingzhongtouru，suoyishuoruguoniqipanzhetazaiganqingzhongbaozhengjinishunxinruyishi，qingxianxiangyixiangzishensuozuodeshibushichongzu。

事例二：交谈中只重视本人

 zailianggerendexiangchuzhong，youqishixianghudeyanxingjuzhizhong，changchanghuichuxian“yimiandao”dezhuangkuangchansheng，niyidinghenxiangyaozhidaoshenmejiaoyimiandaoba?

 shijishangzheiyizhuangkuangfeichangjiandanyefeichangrongyilejie，youdenvhaifeichangrongyizaixiangchuzhong，zailianggerendejiaotanzhong，zhigulvzishendetihui，tongchanghuihulvediaolingyifang。liruzaijiaotanzhongkankanertan，yizhishuozishenhenganxingqudehuatitaolun，zhibalianggerendexianliaoyankongzaizheigefanchounei……neiyangbuzaiyilingyifangdetihui，dangranhuizaifeichangdashuipingshangdaozhixianliaodebuxinyoulingxi，yinciliangrendeqingganyehuiquxiangyujiaoxi……

 shijishangzaigoutongjiaoliuzhong，zainanhaihenvhaidexiangchuzhong，zaiyitadetihuishihenzhongyaode，nanshijinguankanqilaiwanqiang，danshishishangzairuhewanqiangdenanshi，yehuichuxianzishendeminganyimian，burongyisuibianbiaolouchudeta，shijishanghenxiangyaozaiyunichupengzhongchengxianchuqu，youyuzheiyiweizhezhejiaoda dexinrengan，yinci xuehaoduolingtingtaba，taqueshihenxiangyaoni!

事例三：揭疤痕

 zheijianshiqingduinanhaizieryanshijiweitongchudeshier，sheidoushiyouzishenbuyuanyitanjidewangri，nidetahaowuyiwenyeshiyouguishuyuzishendebahen。

 danxuduo nvhaizaihezishendelianrenchanshengzhengzhishi，youyutouhunnaozhangchangchanghuichuxianpianjidegerenxingwei，zaiqizhongyixiangbianshijielingyifangdebahen。danjierenquedianshiyijianshifenzuigangadeshi，yongzaishangkoushangsayanzheiyixingrongzaishihedanshi，nenggoubazheijianshiqingchengzhiweishiganqingshangdejinqu，youyudangbahenbeijiekaishi，nikenengganshoudaolingyifangdegezhonggeyangxintai，lirunankan，cankui，naonu……zheibidinghuidaozhilianggerengengguimoxingdezhengchao。

shilisi：dangtawunaishi……

zaitawunaishi，dangzheiyinanhaiziyoudianerbiequ，naizhiyoudianeryouzhishi，ninengshiruhedefanyingni?

 ruhechuliganqingwenti?kenengzainidexinlihuijuede，zheiyinanshengzenmehuineimemingan，yagenjiubuxianggexiaonanzihan。danzaizeguaitadeqingkuangxia，youxiangguozheiyinanhaizidezhenzhengxinlizhuangtaima?sheidoushiyouminganmian，dangtawunaishi，taxiangdebingbushijinibangzhuchuli，zhishiqidainikeyipeibanta，hetayiqiduguojianxindeshike，youyutahenaizheni。