如何挽回情感呢？爱情是一种轮回

 ruhediaoqing？xuzhimoneishihouaidebingbingbushizhenshidewo，zhishitayongzuojiadelanmanxintaixiangxiangchuqudelinhuiyin，kewoshijishangbingbushitaxinzhongzhongsuogandeneibanyigeren。neimeruhewanhuiqingganyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanruhexiaochujinzhangqingxudewenzhangba。

——林徽因

chimiyigerendaoliulianwangfanshi，xiaohuohuiduinvrenshuo，nishinvwang;nvrenzehuiduixiaohuoshuo，nishizhuzaizhe。

tangruonibeichimi，nishibushiyuanzuonvwang?yihuo，nishibushiyuanzuozhuzaizhe?

 yexu，henduorendehuidashihaowuyiwende，youyubeichimibingbeiyuweinvwanghuozhuzaizhe，kaolvledajiaziyiweishidebixu，feichangrongyishiwomenchangranruoshi。

 danshi，zhenshiyouconghuideren，buyuanyibeiyuweishen。wulunlingyifangzenyangchimizishen，ruhebazishenfangzhigaoyuyiqiedebuwei，tayiranlejie，zishenjinjinyigeren，yigepingfanerbupingyongyouyoushiyouquexiandeshijideren。

erqie，zheiyangderenhailejie，chimizhechimidebingbushizhenshideziji，zhishichimizhetouyingdaozishendeshenshangdeyigehuanxiang。

 meirenxiangyaozuolingyigerendehuanxiang。jinjin，henduorenbumingbaizheiyidian，ruhediaoqing？chajuezijibeichimishijiudeyiwangxing，jinershanyubeichimi，naizhishengchanzhizaohuanxiang，ranglingyifangchimi。

huijuezuolingyigerenchiaidehuanxiang，zheiyexushirexuechuanqiqinvzilinhuiyinhuijuexuzhimochiaideyuangu。

 hushicengshuo：“zhimoderenshengjiazhiguanshiyizhongdanchunxingxinnian，zheilibianyousangeci：yigezhenai，yigeshisuiyi，yigeshimei。”

 yexu，linhuiyinbianshixuzhimoxinzhongzhongai、suiyihemeilidexinggannvshen，tayincichenmi。shubuzhi，tachenmidezheiyishuobailede“nvwanghuashenwei”，helinhuiyinzheiyishijideren，shinaxiedeguanlian?

 zheiyidian，linhuiyindechulehuida。taduidaerziliangcongjieshuo：“xuzhimoneishihouaidebingbingbushizhenshidewo，zhishitayongzuojiadelanmanxintaixiangxiangchuqudelinhuiyin，kewoshijishangbingbushitaxinzhongzhongsuogandeneibanyigeren。”

 zheijuhuadehanyiyexushishuo，xuzhimokehuachuleyigejizhidenvshipinpaixingxiang，bingbatataozailelinhuiyindedeshenshang，suihouquai。xuzhimoaidejinjintataozailinhuiyindeshenshangdenagewanmeinvxingdehuanxiang，erbushilinhuiyinzishen。

 zaisouhuwangqueqiaoxianghuishequluntanshang，yigexiaohuofaguoyifengxin——tazhuiqiuwanmeiguodeyigenvhaizaishiqisuishixiegeitadefenshouxin。zheifengxinzhongdeyiduanwenzi，gengxinidiquanshilezheigeyisi。

 yeyoushihouxiang，woduiyunishishenmeni?yexuqueshibianruxuzhimoyanlidelinhuiyin，suiweimeiyijingdebuqieshiji，danjinjinzuojiahuanyingzhongyigewuxiadeshenying。zishenyingzaode，jinyouzishennengkandao。

 wojuede，nisuoyiyibushede，yejinjinliqingliandegeyin，jiangbaishideciyun，huoshixiaodu、liuqidewencaifengliuba;shixianzhuangdetangsongshici，juanbendegongbihuazhezhipenzaihuahui，yangzhoushichengzhongxindeyuxiaohaoyue，nanjingqinhuaiheshangdeyanbohuachuan，xiayeluozaisuxiaoxiaofenshangdebansihanfeng，nianniansuisuisuoruyanziloudeyilvxianghun……

zhibingbushiwo，yigehuozaierlinglingsanniande、zhenzhengerqiebukeaidenvsheng。

budanbeiyuweinvwang，bingqiehuoderuxuzhimorucidexiaohuodeqingxinhejiqiwenroudeai，nandaoshuobutaihaoma?

linhuiyindehuiyingshi，tabuyuanbeizuoweinvwang，buyuanbeikuadaqici，yebuyuanbeifouren，tazhixianggantazishen。

 tashuo：“anshishuo，yinweiwoburongyiyizuojiademeiyuweirong，yebuhuiyibeibierentanlianaiweiru。woyongjiushiwo，beizuojiafengchengleyebuhuizengmeizengneng，jingliyiduanbeijudekankedejiulishishijian，yemeishenmekexiukui。”

erneigenvrenzeduizhuiqiuwanmeitadexiaohuoshuo：

niyijianshidezhangwoyouduoshaoni?

woderongyan、wodexingge、wodeguannian、ruhexiaochujinzhangqingxu？cengjingdewoyuweilaiderichangshenghuo，yiqienidoukanbujian。

wohaizainixinlizhibuguoshiyijucaiqizhichengdequqiao，meiyoulinghun，meiyouxin。

zheiyinvhaier，helinhuiyindehuidashiyiyangde。

 zheigengshitamenhuijuechenmizishendexiaohuodeyuangu。youyu，chenmiyidanchansheng，chimizhejiandaode，jinjinzishentouyingdaobeichimizhedeshenshangdehuanxiang，erkanbujianbeichimizhezhenzhengdecunyou。

 ruhewanhuiqinggan？liru，xuzhimojiandaode，shi“ai、suiyiwenxin”denvwanghuashenwei，erqueqiaoxianghuishequluntanshangdezheiweixiaohuo，jiandaodeshi“lingxing、piaoliangheshanjierenyi”delixianghuanvshidehuashenwei，shineigenvrendeshenshangkanqilaiwuyilunbidecaiqi，ketaquekanbujiantaderongyan、tadexingge、tadeguannian、tayiqianyuweilaiderichangshenghuo……