情商培养:沦落到相亲的地步

 bushishuonanpengyoubutaihao，zhishishuo，“xiangqinyuehui”zheiyigerenxingwei、zheiyidianli，shitenengzaotarenle!zaiyouyizaiquweizaiyongganderen，yidanbei“tuiguang”daoxiangqinyuehuixiaoshoushichangshang，jiulikejiangjia!neimeqingshangpeiyangyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanqingshangjiaoyudewenzhangba。

 “kanlenineipian《yueshiyoujiazhidexifu，quqilaiyuebianyi，chiyouchengbenyuedi》，qiafengxiangqinyuehuizhishi，bingqiedajiazheilifengsuxiguanyouqifanza，poyouganshou。wohenrenkeniyuanwenzhongdejianjie，shubuzhi，shijizeshiquyumenbudanghubuduide，xiangqinyuehuideqingkuangxia，tebieshizaizheiban。”yigepenyouneiyangduiwoshuo。

 wowanxiaoshuo：neimeniganjinbabenwendelianjieshuairangnidenanpengyoua。huoxu，kanleyihou，taweilegenghaodishulizishenshige“youshiyongjiazhidexifuer”，yebushounicailiqian，yehuijiandanhuayixiefanzadedianlile。

 taziranshihaipaneimegande。danshi，wojuede，jiaruliangrenshizailianaiziyou，tayexujiuganni。zheiqiahaobiaoming，xiangqinyuehuisuochuangjiandelianaiguanxishijiweimingande，liankaijiawanxiaohuadoudeshifenshenzhong。

 qingshangpeiyang,qianbujiu，yigetongxuegenwoshuo，xiangqinyuehuihuijiayihou，taduilingyifangjuedejiaoweiyiban，danneinvshengdaoduitajiqingdelebude，naizhiyousipilailianzhishi，tajuedeshifenchuxianyiwai，yebuzhidaogaizenyangshanbi。“doumeishenmeganqingjichu，tahaiyijianshijingongneimemeng，keneng，shizhuzhongwoerdian。yishi，woshizhongdiandaxuedeligongkelaoshi，jiaruyongyouxinxiangmu，shouyiburongyihendi;ershi，dajiayuanxiaodefushuzhongxuehenqiang，tahenyoukenenghuichongfenkaolvzhihouhaizishangxuedenanti。”

 neishihou，wogaosuta：“guqiewulunnidepouxishibushifuheshishi，danniyejinjinyoufazhanqianli，xianjieduanhuanshiyiwusuoyou。yigegennixiangqinyuehuidenvsheng，nengzhuzhongnidefazhanqianli，erbushiguidingnishixiajiujuyoushenmebiaozhun，zheizaoyibizheixiezhizhitunanshengrujinjiu‘biaozhunfeichanghao’denvxingheyuemugaoyujiqianbeile。niyoumeiyoushenmebumanyide?”

 wodouduitongxueshuo：rujin，niwangwangmoranzhizhi，henyoukenengbianshiyouyucaiyibierenzhuzhongdejinjinnide“biaozhun”，nipazheibushizhenzhengdeaiqing。dajiaxianpiekai“zhenzhengdeaiqingyebixukaoshijibiaozhunlaibaochi”buyongshuo，nantishi，nijiranzaoyilunweidaoxiangqinyuehuidechengdu，jiubiezaiduizhenaixincunxiangxiangle。

 wobingmeiyoubaxiangqinyuehuiyigunzidasidehanyi，xiangqinyuehuidequanguochengzhong，ziranshiyoukenengpengdaozhenzhengdeaiqing，danjilvjibenshangweiling。erqie，jiaruoshihuaizhe“zhaozhenzhengdeaiqing”dezhuguanyinsuquxiangqin，neizishenbianshitooyoung,toonaive。yaobushi“xinyicangsang”、“leijuebuai”，sheihuitiaoxuanxiangqinyuehuizheitiao“zixunfannaoquru”delumianni?yigebaochiqingxingderen，zitagangkaishitaruxiangqinyuehuizhitudeneiyikeqi，jiuyingdangjianshaoyugu。yaolejie，xiangqinyuehuijinjinzhaoyigejiehunduixiang，erbushiganqing。

 wocengjingjinglibeibieren“jieshaonanpengyou”delijing，danzaishizhezhechupengyiqian，woyejuedeguaiguaide。weishenmeni?ruguoshisuiyidixiaishangyigeren，zaixuanbuchupengqian，wofeichangdanyoudeshi:wanyitaqiaobuqiwo，gaigaizenmeban?keshi，zaitarenyaobangwo“jieshaonanpengyou”dezhuangkuangxia，wodediyifanyingqueshi:wanyiwokandaolingyifangyihouganjuebuhao，gaigaizenmeban?

 weishenmehuichuxianzheileiqubieni?dayueshiyouyu，zaisuiyidiaishangyigerendeqingkuangxia，ninengmingxiandiqidaihetazaiyiqi，danzheilei“xinrengan”taiqiangle，fandaohuizaocheng “guishuganbugou”;keshi，zaitarenyaorangni“jieshaonanpengyou”dezhuangkuangxia，nishiguishuganhenqiang(nageweicengmoumianderenyuanbenjiumeiyounide“chengbenyusuan”yinei，jibian shibai，yesuanbushangsunhai)，queqianquexinrengan(jiranweicengzhangwo，ziranburongyiyoushaxinyuanle)。

 wokendingmeiyouyaodihuitarenxiangxijieshaodemubiaohuonanpengyoudehanyi。shishishang，nixiangqinyuehuidemubiao，zaitamendeshenghuoqijuzhong，yekenengshitarendezhenzhengdeaiqing;ertarensuo“paichi”denanpengyou，yehenyoukenengjiushinidezhenzhengdeaiqing。bushishuonanpengyoubutaihao，zhishishuo，“xiangqinyuehui”zheiyigerenxingwei、zheiyidianli，shitenengzaotarenle!zaiyouyizaiquweizaiyongganderen，yidanbei“tuiguang”daoxiangqinyuehuixiaoshoushichangshang，jiulikejiangjia!(zheiyi“jiangjia”，shijingshenshizhishangdiaojia，danyidaibilaikaoliangde“jiaqian”，queshizengzhangde。zheiyi，dajiadenghuierzailiao。)

 qingshangjiaoyu,zaixiangqinyuehuizheiyidashichangshang，nisikaotaren，gentarensikaoniyiyang，dajiadouxianghuxinzhaobuxuan、xinlingshenhuieryi。nijiaruoshinazhenanpengyougennizairichangshenghuozhongqiaoyudezhenzhengdeaiqingzuobijiao，neiqueshibianshiqingshangzhishangdouhenzhuakuangle。nanpengyoude“qiadangdakai”shi：niwuxutaiguojinjinjijiaolingyifangdeyiwang，ninaizhidoumeiyoubixujinjinjijiao“woshibushitadezuixihuan”——nijiusuanshibuzhangtounao，yehuilejie，nihaowuyiwenjiuburongyishitadezuixihuanya，zheijiuhaositahaowuyiwenbushinidezhenzhengdeaiqingyiyang“lisuoyingdang”。