情感挽回,为什么有些人只能苟且于将就的爱情？

 qingganwentiyoushenmeni？yigejiangyaotaruhunyinshenghuodexinniang，maiyuantajibuqiyidiandianhuaxuebianhuadebushanyancilaogong，jiqitanlianaijieduanjiuweirujiaoladewenkaishuishenghuo。neimeqingganwanhuiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanqingganxiaowenzhangba。

 huizongchulaizhibuguobianshi：faweiqieyaoyaowuqi。woxunwenta，renjiushinizishenxuande，buxihuandehuanenggoutiaoxuanwanbi。tatankouqishuo，wohaipahetaduanlelianxi，zaipengdaoderenhaibibushangta。

 lingyigeshizaihunyinshenghuozhongqingwaxiaoyingzaoyisanniandemeishaofu，huranpengdaofenlihenduoniandechulianqingren，reqingbangboyihoushenxianzuoyouweinandechujing。yifangmianbiaomingzaoyiyanfanpingdanwuweidehunhoushenghuo，yifangmianshenxianxiangyaoaibukeyiaidenveaidangzhongdanxinbuji。

 woxunwenta，jiranzaoyizheibanyanfanzishendehunyinshenghuo，ganshenmeyeyaocouhezhibubuqian，sunrenbuliji。tabaibaishoushuo，wohaipalihunhou，guodehaibibushangrujin。

yincizheiliangweinvxingzailihentianyishang、guanchouhaidangzhongbianhuawuchangdidanxinfanmen。

 daoshidajiaqunneiyouyigenianqingdenvhai，yinweixihuannishangyigeliyirenyuan，zaisuonanmianyaoyingduiqinrendeweicihepenyoudeyihuo。qingganwentiyoushenmeni？tadaoshikandehenkaihenqing，suihouaidebuguyiqie。tashuo，woqingxizishenyaodeshisha。jiusuanzuizhongqueshichiaiyichang，zheiyibuzhengquewofandeqi，bukepajizijidetiaoxuanfuqian。

 zheiyinvhaibeijingdaxuebiyezhihouliuxuedeguo，kankankekeyiludapinguolai，xiankaoyijizhilitoushenhuangdou。qingganwentiyoushenmeni？tayizhiyilaideqianxinheqinfenzhongjiutaburongyizaiyiqiewusuozuoweide”couhe“zhonggouqiexialai，erweifanzishenchuxin。gongzuozheiban，qingganguyan。

 qingganxiaowenzhang，wohuranyixiazidongleqianliangweidanxinrenyuandezhengjiesuozai：bukeyiaidewujuwushudeyuangu，buguoshigenbenjiumeiyoushiduoshaosuiyixuanzedeziben。xiangyaoaidechunsui，keshifukuanbulesuiyixuanzedechengbenfeihechengben，zishendezhengtishilimeifajizijidegerenxingweifuqian。yinci zhiyougouqieyu“xiangduixingqiadang、xiangduixingpingwen”dexiankuang，gouqieyubuwanmeideaiqing。

 zhongchengzishendenadeqifangdexia，shiyizhongzhengtishili，yeshiyizhonggongzuonengli。xiangyaoaiderenxing，wubiyouzibenzaojiuzishenderichangshenghuo，yougongzuonenglizhuiqiuwanmeibenrenxingfukuaile，yeshiyoudanliangdanfubuchenggonghuoshibuzhengque。jiechuxinwenmeitirenmayuechuancengshuo：“nixuyaoxiangxianghuiguiziran，kenengde2gebiaozhun：yiyaofuyou，nenggoubuyishenghuoyoulv;eryaoyongyudandang，nenggouyingfumeiyicibuxingdebubian。”jianyanzhibianshi，niyuelihai，nideqingganyuechunsui。

例如章子怡。

 youguan”wangfengyouduozha“zheiyiguandianzaoyibubiduotan，“chuguidahu“yutalaijiangbingfeiwugulailin。tingshuowangfengyudiyirenlaopoqidanliyi，bianshiyouyuaishangmingmogehuijie。neishihoujinyou16suigehuijiejiejiaolebitada16suidewangfeng。gehuijieweiwangfengshengxiayinvhou，wangfengyitaaiwanrenxingmingquetichutichufenshou，yuyiyangnianjichabiejidadekangzuorulianaiquqishengzi。

 keshibujiujiulaoxizhongdaofuzhe，kangzuorufabuweibozhangtu，konggaowangfengchugui，bingzaizishenburuqijianneijiudanfanggongbuliyi。zheimeiduojiu，wangfengzhangziyiganqingjiubeipuchu。

 dangwangfengweizhangziyigaoshengrihuidayanqinpenghaoyou，fangbaozhuqineihuranpaichuwuxianyaokongji，songshangjiukachaodazuanshijiezhixiangnvpengyoulangmanqiuhunshi，zhangziyixianchangleiruyuxia。duizheileilaotaodelangmanqiuhunjuqing，nvxingbianshishiyong，lianyuejinqianfandeguojizhangyeshizheiban。

 wangfengwucaibanlandelianaishidaibiaozhenaxie，zhangziyiburongyibuqingchu。genghekuangzheiyijiaguolailikebianshiliangxiaohaidehoumuzheishiqing，yeshimingbaizhede。zheiyiyushengjulaiyigupinjingyiguchuangjingdenvhaiyaobushishengzheyikejingmingnenggandeqiangjingxinxueguan，shirenkandejingqueshenru，shijueranjinbuquzheixiekekenannongdezhimingdaoyandefayan，bawobuzhucanrenyulequanzhongzhuanyanjishidejiyu，zoubushangzhongguorennvyirendezhuzhendi“guojizhang”zheiyichengdude。

 zheimeduonianminglichanglidepijingzhanjizhujiudehuiyanduirendebenxingdedongxi，zhangziyideyanjiehebujubingfeiyiban。renqingdanbohefengliuyunshiboqingguayi，tayuanbinidongde。keshitashizhangziyi，tadezibenrangtayouzizhiquzhaoguhaozijideshixiaxintai，zhuisuizhezishendeshixiaganqing，jinertiaoxuanzhenzhengdiquzuohaoziji。

 taleijihenduoniandeqinfenkendingrangtayouxiaohuaxishoudeqichiaidezhengtishili，bingbuhuiyouyuyicirenxingdeganqingerrangzishencihouyijuebuzhen。

例如王菲。

 shenaizhedouweideqingkuangxia，guiweitianzhihoubiniyiqiezhongshengdewangfeicengweiganqingfangqi，ningkepaoxiazhongguoxianggangdewuzhitiaojian，beipaixiazaibeijingsiheyuanshanggonggongcesuodejingdianjiemian。shenaizhexietingfengdeqingkuangxia，tahushinianjichabiehebaguagongzuoyali，zheiyiduan“jiedilianqing”youandaoming，liuanhuaming，tianmanxijuhua，zuizhongyitichufenshoushouweiyeyiwufangu。shenaizhetadeqingkuangxia，taweitadalingchannv，xieshoubingjiangongdunanguan，kaichuangyanranjijin，shenghuowennuanpingpingdandankeshibuquerexuechuanqi。

 zhidao“zheiyishi，fufuyuanfenyijindaoci”yihou，wangfeiyiranbubianchuzhong，dulaiduwang，youyiyige“rexuechuanqi”dezishirenxingfanhuixietingfengshenpang。

 chaochaonaonaodejihuixunhuan，wangfeijihuquanshibiyidajia，aidelinlijinzhiquebuweichuxin。sishiwusui“daling”zaiyicishizhijinkou“qianren”xietingfeng，feichangyibufenrenduiyucishifeichangdichu，yong“yidabanianlingyeyaojilianggenverzhaohouba”neiyangdefumianxinxiguandianquduiwangfeishehuidaodejingong。keshiwangfeibianshiwangfei，tazaiyishixiadetihui，nadeqifangdexiadeaizengfenmingshitayibeizidexinggebiaoqian。

 wanshuijiejiezailanmulitidao：“youderenyizhihuodefenwairenxing，zhiyouyutamentizaoweizheirenxingzhubeileziben。tayounaxiejuecebukeyizuode?fuyouzhiming，buyongyifuyusuoyourencunhuo，jingshenduli，qingshifansu，congbuhuizaiyiyiqiefengyanfengyu。taxiangyimeipaodan，yijisujitouyiqiechuxianzaizishenluchengshangdezulan。”

 yuzhangziyihewangfeimenlaijiang，congbuhuiyouyu“zaipengdaoderenhaibibushangta”、“guodehaibibushangrujin”zheileiyuanyinqujiuyouziqu，burongyizaiyiqiewusuozuoweide”couhe“zhonggouqiexialai。zaitamenneibian，duibitiedadezishen，ganqingbuguoshiyijianhualongdianjingdeshier。youchongzudeziben，tamendeganqing，zhiqujueyuzishenxiangyaobuyuanyi，zishenxihuanbuxihuan。

weiheyouderenquezhiyougouqieyucouhedeganqing?

qingganwanhui,youyutamenyuanbenjiumeiyoujizijitiaoxuanchengdandedanliangheqipo，falijizijidetiaoxuandanfubuliangyingxiang。