恋爱咨询：“看走眼”的心理动机

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密名发件人：

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 lianaizhongdianyoushenme？“kancuo”shiyouyucuobahuanjuedangdongxin，chukainvrenbenshendenantidaozhidehuanjue，lirujianglingyifangdangzuolingyigerendeshenying，nanrenbenshendenantiyehuidaozhinvrendehuanjue。

 nanrenzaiqingganzhonghuodedekaolvbuzhishi“huodeai”，yeyou“touruai”。youyizhongfangqixingdenanren，yi“wusifengxianzishen、bangzhubieren”weihuodegerenjiazhidefangshi，duibierenyuanyuanbujueditouru，weicilairangzishenhuodeguishugan。neiyangdenanrenjiechuma?shijishang，tamenlizudianchedishiweilegenghaodizishen。xiangbibangzhutarenzaojiudeshiyongjiazhi，cong“shengfu”derenwujiaosezhongdedao kaolvhekuailejiqibeirenjuede“wusifengxian”dechonggaogan，caisuanshitamenzhenshikewangdejuede，hezheiyangderenchuduixiang，ninandaoshuoburongyiganjuezishen“kancuo”ma?

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 lianaizhongderen,nvrenzaitanlianaishimangmugenfeng，shejidaohunyinshenghuohuranguirulixing，zheishidezhaoduixiangdebiaozhunbianhuishifenqueli，aiyilimibujia，shaoyikuaiqianbujia。jiaruyaoxiangheyanxiadenanrentichufenshou，zheishiyuanyinbianshi“kancuo”le——tayagenmeiyouwojuededeneimachusema!jianzhilannibafubuqiangshang!zheigengshinvrendejianzhazhichu。shizhishang，nvrenjinjinzhitunanrendemeimao，yidanyishidaolingyifangchushibushangzishenxiangyaodeshenghuo，bianhuidanqie，zheigeshihou“kancuo”bianshihenbianjiedeyuanyin。