中国人习惯的报喜不报忧对吗？

 baoxibubaoyouduima？womenzongxihuanbaoxibubaoyouhaoma？，yiweishiguanxin，yerangbierenbuduancaicehualidehanyi，leirenleiji。huoxuwomenyinggaijianliqiyizhongxiangxinduifangsuoshuojiweisuoxiangdexiguan，tongshiyejianjiandandanbiaodazijisuoxiang，biezaiyongweideaihedongshilaichuaiceduifangdexinyile。

一、真心说出来的不一定是真话

erxingqianlimudanyou。baoxibubaoyouduima？

 youyicigongsijubanlanqiusai，yougetongshibuxiaoxindiedao，kanqingkuangyinggaishiguzhe，yihuorenganmangsongtaquyiyuan。qiantaimeizimashangfankantadexinxi，zhunbeijitajialidadianhua。tongshijimangzhizhizhu，shuodao，qianwanbuyaojiwomamadadianhua。

 “womenlaojializheilizheimeyuan，womayouhenshaochumen，tayaozhidaowoshoushangle，kendinghuimashangyaoguolai。wobuxiangtadanxin，kuangqieyidianxiaoshang，wokeyizijijiejue。”

zaichangderendoubushuohuale，zhitingjianjinglishuoleyiju，“hailengzheganma，kaichesongyiyuanya。”

 niyidingyejingliguozheiyangdechangjing：womenweilezaichengshilinulizhanwenjiaogen，beilaobanmawanhousixiamomoyanleijixujiabanjiadaoshenye，weiletanchengyigexiangmugengezhongzijixihuandebuxihuanderendajiaodao，weilejieshengzhichuwanshangjizaihezufangli，zaochenxiangsanmingzhiyiyangjizaigongjiaoditieshang。

 ranerhefumudadianhuadeshihou，yongyuandoushiqingsongdeyuqi：“wotinghaode，gongzuohenshunli，yiqiedoubucuo，nimenjinguanfangxin。nimenzenyanga？”dianhuaneitoudefumusihuyebeizheizhongqingsongdeqingxuganran，lehehedeshuo：“meitianwohewodelaohuobanmendapai，tiaoguangchangwu，shentihaodehen，nibiedanxinwomen，zhaoguhaoziji，bieshebudehuaqian，bamayongyuanshinijianqiangdehoudun。”

 womenxiangrangfumuzhidaowomendechengshikaihuaxiayu，womendepengyouzhixinyoushan，womendetongshituanjieyixian，womenweidubunengrangfumuzhidaowomendeyouchou。

二、为什么都倾向于“报喜不报忧”？

baoxibubaoyoushidaduoshuqinzizhijianzuichangjiandejiaoliutedian。

 zheiyangzuodehaochushikanshangquyifuqilerongrongdechangjing。daduoshufumuyongyuanbuhuigaosuhaizi：zuotiantijianjianchachuxuetangyoudiangao；yinweishanglenianjizuijintuijiaoyouxiebulisuole；yinweidanxinhaiziduziyirenzaiwaidihaimeijiehunwanshangzongshifanlaifuquhenwancainengrushui……

zhidaoyouyitian，haizijiedaolejialidedianhua，fuqinhuozhemuqinshuoshentizuijinyoudianbuhao，ranghuilaikankan。

 haizihuidaojiahoufaxianfumuyijingzhuyuanhenjiu，gengyanzhongdeyijingshibeixialebingweitongzhishu。kanzhebingchuangshangyanyanyixidezhiqin，haizilengzaineilinanyizhixin：mingmingqianjitianhaizaidianhualiyoushuoyouxiaodegaosuziji，biedanxinjiali，nuliquzhuiqiuzijidemengxiang。xianzaiquezaihebingmojinxingjiannandekangzheng，yiqiesihulaideneimeturan，turanderangrencuoshoubuji。

三、大多数父母和孩子都倾向于报喜不报忧对吗？

 yinweizaibiaodazhiqianjiuxingchengleyizhongyushe：wogaosuduifangwohenhao，duifangcainenggoufangxindiquzuohaozijideshiqing。zhiyouzheiyangzuole，caisuandeshang“dongshi”a。

zheizhongxianxiangtaipubianle，zheizhendeshiyizhongzhidegulidebiaodafangshima？weibijiande。

 zaizheidebeihou，womennengkandaorenmendejiaolvhedanxin：danxinduifangwufachengshouxianshidailaideyali，danxinshenghuoshangdezerenrangduifangfenshenfashu，niyiweishidongshidetiduifangchengdanzeren，quehushileyouxiezerenheyiwubixuzijichengdan。zaizheifenjiaolvhedanxinbeihou，qishishuangfangdouzaiyidingchengdushangbabicixiangxiangdeguoyucuiruole。

四、做到实话实说很困难

 “baoxiquebubaoyou”duiyuxinxijieshouzhe，haicunzailingyicengjiashe：zheixietianmizhenxinde“qinghua”qishibingfeizhenhua。ji，wotingdaodewokandaodebuyidingshizhenxiang，bierenshuode，kenengshizaihongwo。

panduanbierenshibushishuozhenhuadeyijushishenmeni？getizishendeganzhi。

 xuannayizhongqujueyulianggerenzhiqiandejingyan，yejiushixintaixuezhongsuoshuode“toushe”，zheigeguochengzhongjiazaleqiangliedezhuguansecai。

shihuashishuo，youhuazhishuoshiyijiankunnandeshiqing，xiangxinduifangsuoshuodejishishishishiyijiangengjiakunnandeshiqing。

 cengjingyigepengyoujiwobaoyuan：“suiranwoxianzainianjidale，danshiwojiushibuxiangzhaonanpengyou，wojuedeyigerenguowoderizitinghaode。keshiwofumuzonghuishuowoxinlimingmingzhejidehen，chuyumianzizuishangbuchengren。tamenwulunruheyebukenxiangxinwoshuodejiushixinlihua。”

 haiyouyici，chejigepengyouyiqiwan。chishuiguodeshihou，pengyouhenreqingdenachudangjizuixinxiandeshuiguojic，cwanyanjujueshuobuxiangchi，wunaipengyouzhiyijianchi：“biekeqima，shaochidian。”tuisanghenjiuzhihouchaishiyingshengshengsaixiajigeshuiguo。

 yishanglianggelizidoushichuyuzhenxinhehaoyi，keshiduiyujieshouzheeryan，zheizhongzhenxinhehaoyiqueweibeiletadezhuguanyiyuan，yushixuanzelejujue，ranerjujuezaitarenyanzhongkanlaibianchenglezuiyingheketao。

五、如何做到实话实说？

 shouxianyinggaixianjianliyizhongxiangxindexiguan：xuanzexiangxinduifangsuoshuojiweisuoxiang，xiangxinduifangyouchuyuziyouyizhidexuanzeershuochuzijizhenshixiangfadenengli。

chengran，zaiwomenzheiyangyigexiguanderenqingshehui，zheishiyijianhennandeshiqing。

 zuoweifumu，nixiangzinvlejiugaosuta，ruguotayuanyi，ziranhuizhaoshijianlaikanni；zuoweiernv，nibuxihuanfumulaotaojiugaosutayixiexinxianhaowandehuati；zuoweibanlv，nibukaixinjiugaosuduifangbukaixindeyuanyinnapashuonibuzhidaoyuanyinyehaoguoyijutangsaishuomeishenme。nimenguanxindeduifangshangqiemeiyoucuiruodaobixuwenshengxiyuxiaoxinhehudedibu，tayeyoujiejuewentidenenglihechengshoukunandexinxin。

 biedazheaidemingyibaoxibubaoyouhaoma？，rangduifangzhidaonizhenshisuoxiang，yonggengduodeshijianqujiaoliufenxiang，xunzhaopinghengdianhechangbushiyizhongaini？

biezaiyongnisuoweideaihedongshilaichuaiceduifangdexinyile，renshengkuduan，hebibuxuanzejianjiandandandexiangxintasuoshuojisuoxiang。