单相思怎么挽回婚姻

　　danxiangsizenmewanhuihunyinhunyinli，zaiqinmideguanxiairenyenanmianhuiyincuxindayi、xintaihuorenzhichajufanxiacuowu。dangbuzhengquechuxianhou，xiangbiduobihuobianbo，yongchengkendetaidu、kexuefangfaxiufuguanxi，caishiweixihunyinshenghuochijiudezhongyao。benwenjiangcong“cuowuguannianzhongxingoujian”“zhiqiancelvesheji”“guanlianxiubuxingwei”“zhangqixingxinlaifujian”sigeweidu，weinintigongxitonghuajiejuefangfa。

　　yi、cuowuguannianzhongxingoujian：cong“ziwofangyu”dao“guanliantonglixin”

　　(yi)xiaochu“zhiqian=rouruo”renzhiwuqu

　　henduorenyinweidanxin“meimianzi”huo“beibiandi”erbuyuanzhiqian，danshehuixinlixuelide“buzhengquezhanlveguanli”qiangdiao：zhudongrencuokeyijiangdiduifangfangyuxinli，weiguanlianxiubuchuangzaohuanjing。hunyinbushiquanliboyichang，fanershihezuogongtongti，zhiqianshizhanxian“wogaoduzhongshizheiduanganqing”dechengyi，bingfeirenrang。

　　案例对比：

　　chennvshiyinwangdiaolaogongshengrihuijuezhiqian，juede“tadagaidongwogongzuotaimang”，jielunlaogonglengbaoliyizhou;

　　wangnvshijijirenkecuxindayi，bingbulingshengrihui，laogongsuibiaocengmaiyuan，dansidixiaduixiaohuobanshuo：“tazuishaozaihuwodeganjue。”

　　(er)qubie“shishicuowu”yu“qingxusunhai”

　　不正确可分为两类：

　　shishicuowu：ruwangdiaoguanjianrizi、huijicuxindayidengkeguanxinggerenxingwei;

　　qingxusunhai：rudihuilingyifangshuiping、hulvexintaixuqiudengzhuguanxingsunhai。

　　重要标准：

　　duishishicuowu，zhongdianzaiyu“wanjiuxingwei”(ruwanhuisunshi);

　　duiqinggansunhai，zhongdianzaiyu“tonglixinbiaoshu”(rurenke“wodexingweirangniganjuedaobeihulve”)。

　　自查清单：

　　wodecuowugengpianxiangyunayilei?

　　lingyifangyinwodecuowuxingchengleshenmeshijixintai(ruxinhan、naonu、biequ)?

　　zheiyangdeqingxushenhou，shitaduiyulianxideshenmexiwangweibeimanzu(rubeiguanzhu、beizhongshi)?

　　(san)zhongzhi“helixing”buzhengque

　　普遍合理性托词：

　　“doushiwobuhao”(hushijielunbingfeidongyin);

　　“tafanlexiangjinzijidecuo”(qianyijujiaodianbingfeichuliwenti);

　　“wotaileile/yalida”(jiangzerentuijianjiwaizaiyinsu)。

　　shehuixinlixuegenju：renzhishidiaolilunqiangdiao，danggerenxingweiheziworenzhishidiaoshi，renyaogenjuhelixinghuanjiebushigan，danzheishihouzulanzhenchengdaoqian。renke“wobenlaikeyizuodegenghao”，caisuanshixiufuguanxidekaiduan。

　　er、zhiqiancelvesheji：yong“sanbufa”chuansongzhenxinshiyi

　　(yi)diyibu：tiaoxuan“feibaohuxingjihui”

　　fangzhizaibicixintaigaofengshizhiqian(rugangfashengzhengzhihou、gongzuopibeishi)，keyixuanze：

　　biciqingxuwendingdeyewan(rufanhouyundongshi);

　　gongtongnuliqingqingsongsonghuodongjieshuhou(rukandianshiju、sansanbu);

　　genjuxinjian/xinxineirongtizaomaixiafubi(ru“jinyexianggenniliaoyiliaozuijindeshi，fangbianma?”)。

　　shili：wangnvshizailaogongjiabanjiadianhuijiayihoumashangzhiqian，jieguoduifangyinpijuanjujuejiaoliu;hougaiweilibaitianzaocanshidishengshuo：“jinqizheijianshiqingxianggenniliaoyiliao，dengzhenichilezaijiang”，laogongxintaixianzhuhuanjie。

　　(er)dierbu：dajian“tonglixin-renke-wanjiu”dedaoqiangouzao

　　helizhiqiangongshijisuan：tonglixinlingyifangtihui + quelirencuo + tichujutiwanjiujihuafangan。

　　实例：

　　“womingbaijinqiyinweigongzuomang，hushilenishengri(tonglixin)，zheirangniganjuedaobeishoulengluo(renkelingyifangtihui)，jiushiwokaolvbuzhouquan(rencuo)。zheizhoumowodingledajiazuixihuandedifangfandian，youmailenitiguodeneibenshu(wanjiuxingwei)，yihouwohuibaguanjianrizishezhichengshoujitixing(fangfancuoshi)。”

　　关键细节：

　　yong“wo”kaishibingfei“ni”(ru“wohushile”bingfei“jiushitaixiaotidazuo”);

　　fangzhimohubuqingmiaoshu(ru“zhendeduibuqi，duibuqi”gaicheng“zhendeduibuqi，wowangjijienixiabanle，shinizaiyulidengdailesanshifenzhong”);

　　wanjiujihuafanganxushijikecaozuo(ru“meizhousanwanyouwofuzezhufan”bingfei“wojianglaiduoganhuo”)。

　　(san)disanbu：jiena“yanchishijiankuanrong”

　　duifangkenengburongyimashangkuanrong，shenzhihaihuifanfutijibuzhengque。zheishixu：

　　bubianbo(ru“wohaidaoqian，niweishenmehaiti”);

　　buducu(ru“nidaodishenmeshihounengqingyuanliangwo”);

　　yongshijixingdongbuduanzhengshigenggai(rujijifendanjiawu、guanxinlingyifangyaoqiu)。

　　shehuixinlixuegenju：xinlaixiubuxuyaoyiduanshijian，lingyifangfanfutijibuzhengqueshijishi“renzhenggenggaizhenshiyouxiao”deyigeguocheng。xixinshouhoubijigongjinligenggaoxiao。

　　san、guanlianxiubuxingwei：yong“xiaobianhua”jidiandaxinlai

　　(yi)xingwei1：chuangjian“buzhengquefupanzongjie”tizhi

　　和丈夫承诺：

　　meiyueyici“feichizexinggoutongjiaoliu”(ru“zheiyiyuewonameiyouzuohao，nixiangyaowogaijinshenme?”);

　　yong“guancha-tihui-yaoqiu”juxingbiaoshu(ru“woguanchanizheigexingqijiabanjiadianxuduo，wogandaodanxin，xiwangwomennengmeixingqiliuyitianyiqichifan”)。

　　shili：chennvshihezhangfumeiyuemokaizhan“guanlianchayan”，faxianhekefule“yifangzongwanshoujihushilingyifang”wenti，bannianzhihouguanlianmanyidutisheng40%。

　　(er)xingwei2：shengchanzhizao“zhengfangxiangjiyilizhegai”

　　danxiangsizenmewanhuihunyingenjuhuxiangpeihekaixindeshiqing，xishiyebuzhengquechanshengdefumianjiyili：

　　zhengtiguihuaduanqineilvyou(ruzhoubianlvyou);

　　suzaogongtonghuati(ruyundongjianshen、pengzhi);

　　zaojiuxinyi(rumeixingqigudingbudongyouhuiye)。

　　renzhikexuegenju：duobaandefenmihuijiaqiangjijizhudongjiyili，dangyitongkaixinqinshenjinglizengjiashi，lingyifangduibuzhengquedehuiyihuimanmanjianruo。

　　(san)xingwei3：jiji“pulumingan”

　　shiduxianglaogongzhanshinidezaodongbuanhuohouhuimoji(ru“neiyitianwoshuodehuataishangrenle，xianzaihuixiangqilaihaihenneijiu”)，keyizengqiangtadezhengfuyuhegongqingxin。