家暴挽回：家暴怎么挽回婚姻

　　jiabaozenmewanhuihunyin，yiqian，wojiurenweiganqingzoudaozuihou，hunyinjiuzhongjiuzoutouwulu。neiduanrizi，wogenlaogongjihumeitiandouzaizhengzhi，dazhihaizijiaoyuwenti，xiaozhisheilaishuawan，douchengweiledaohuoxian。lengbaoli、zhize、chenmowuyankuosanzaijialidemeiyigejiaoluo。wocengyidujianchibuxiaqu，kedangkandaoxiaohaiyanlineiyifenhaipahewuzhushi，woturanyishidao：yexuzheiduanganqingbingfeiwufawanjiu，ershiyinweidouxiangbuqilaishenmeshiai。

　　benwen，shiwojiuyongqinshenjinglizongjiechulaidejingyan。jiarunizhengjinglihunyinpolie，ruguohaixiangyaoweiduifangqinfenyici，woxiwangjiexialaigongxiangnengjiniyixieqifa。

　　一、认可问题的存在，而非躲避

　　xuduofuqiganqinglaidaoliekai，shiyinweixiguanbanantiyinzangqilai，jiazhuangmeishier，shenzhiyi“jiatinglengbaoli”laiyangaimaodun。cengjingdewojiuzheiyang。chaojiazhihouwobaochichenmo，xinlixiang“tabulaihongwo，neimeshuomingtabuzaiyiwola”，ranhouwolengdan、woshengshu、wobiaoxiandeyulaiyubuzaiyi，zhidaowomenjibenshangxianglianggemoshengrenjuzhuzaitongyigewuyanxia。

　　zhihou，woguqiyongqidiyicizhenzhenzhengzhengzuoxiayulaogongchuletanwomendewenti。wobingbushizhizeta，fanershiyongyizhong“wo”kaishidebiaodafangshi：“wojuededajiajinqiyuelaiyueyuanle，wopabicizhijianmeiyouaile。”neiyike，wokandaotayanlidemianruanyuneijiu。tashuozijiyeganjuedaole，danbuzhidaogairuhezhujian。

　　zheijianshirangwomingbaileyigedaoli：yaoxiufuguanxi，diyibubingbushichize，fanershitanrandimianduikunnan，bingjiandingdidakaihuihua。

　　怎样做?

　　zhaoyigepinghedeshizhang，chengkendibiaodazijidetihui;

　　bimianyong“nizong”、“niconglaibu”zheizhongchizexingdeyuyan;

　　yong“woganshoudao……”、“xiwangwomen……”zheizhongfangfa，chuandiyaoqiuhetihui。

　　二、学会交流，而非争对与错

　　wozhiqianyougexiguan，yichaojiajiuxuyaozhenggeshengfu，jiusuanzuihouhuoshengdadaoli，queshudiaoaiqing。haoduoci，wojiuyong“keguanshishi”quhuijita，jielundelaidebingbushilejie，zhishitagengjiafengbiziwo，naizhibuyuanyizaigoutongjiaoliu。

　　zhihouwoxuexileyitaofeibaoligoutongdejiqiao，wocaiyishidaogoutongdemudeconglaidoubushi“bianlunhui”，fanershi“chuangjianlejie”。zaiwoyuanyiqingtingtadeneixinzhenzhenzhengzhengdetiyan，erfeijiyuhuifuhuobianboshi，womenzijidehuihuajiuhuibiandegengyouyiyile。

　　wojideyouyici，tagongzuohenleihuijiale，wosuikoushuoleyiju：“nizenmeyouhenwanhuijia?”yiwangtayidinghuihuiyiju：“wobingbushiweizheigejiama?”ranhouliangrenzhujianzhengzhi。neiciwohuanleyizhongfangfashuo：“woqishishiyouxiedanxinni，woganjuenifangfofeichanglei，yeshijuedewomenzuijinhaoshaokaikoule。”tashayanle，ranhouqingqingbaolewoyixia，shuo：“zhendeduibuqi，wozheijitianyalifeichangda，ganxienihaizaihuwo。”

　　neiyike，wocaiyishidao，zhenzhenzhengzhengdejiaoliu，shizourubicizhijiandexinling，erfeiyanlidajibicizhijianzizunxin。

　　怎样做?

　　dongde“lingting”：ruguoduifangshuohuadeshihou，bubiqieduan，bubimashangdechujielun;

　　biaoshuyaoqiuerfeiqingxuxuanxie;

　　bazhongdianfangzai“chuliwenti”erfei“zhengduiyucuo”。

　　三、再次建立联系，不是靠“忍受”维系关系

　　jiabaozenmewanhuihunyin，xuduofuqilaidaozhihou，bingbushimeiganqing，fanershiaiqing“diaoxie”le。dajiarenweizhiyaobuchaobunao，jishi“baochi”hunyinshenghuo，shijishangneibuguoshibicizhijianzairenshou，erbushiqu“xianglian”。

　　wocengjingwenyixiaziji：“dajiazuihouyicishouqianshoushishenmeshijian?”“dajiazuihouyicihaohaodichigefanshishenmeshijian?”huidarangwoxinsui。

　　yinci，wodasuanjijidequxiufuwomenzijidechuanqizhifuchengxu。wojianjianweitaxiezitiaofangdaotabaonei，napazhiyouxieyiju“jinrixinkula”;wozhudongyaoqiuyiqiqukandajianianqingshihouaikandelaoyingpian;wozaicizhoumozuotazuixihuandeshiwutangculiji。zuichutajiuyouyixiemiantian，ganjuezijishibushijiaoqing，danhoulaitazhujianganenhuikuiwo，lirubangwotiqianzhunbeizaofan、qiaoqiaozaiwoshoujishangliutiaoxinxineirong。