wanhuilaopodezhengquefangfa,“wodelaopoyaohewolihun,gaizenmewanhuita?”danghunyinshenghuoliangqihongdeng,xifuxinxinxianglikai,dabufennanrenzaishouzuwucuozhiwai,doushihuiyoubingluantouyi,quebuzhidao,bingmeiyoucaiquzhengquedewanliufangfa,zhihuijiakuaihunyinshenghuodeliekai。neiyang,yingduilaopoyaolihundexianxiang,jiujinggaizenmewanhuini?jinri,jiuyaolaijiaojidajia5gechaoshiyongdewanliuduice,rangtamenzhongyuan!
一、认可对方的感受,防止矛盾激化

laopozaitilihunshi,xintaiyibandoushibijiaoxingfenhexiaojide,jiarunizheishihetazhenglun、bianbo、dikang,wuyishizaihuoshangjiayou,rangfenqijinyibushengji,yincizuihaodebanfashirenkeduifangdeganshou,rangduifangdeqingxukeyihuodefaxie。lirunikeyizheiyangshuo:“xifu,wolijienicishidexinqing,yemingbaizheiyiduanshijiannishoulehenduobiequ,jiushiwozuodebugouhao,bingmeiyourangniganjuedaochongzudeaiyuguanzhu,wonengzunzhongnidejueding。”
dangninengrenkeduifangdeganshoushi,tabianzhihuijuedeshilijieta,nimendeguanximaodunguanxiyenengdedaohuanjie,erzheiyangjiuhuiweixiayibuwanliudiandingjianshidejichu。ciwai,zairenkelingyifangqingxuyucitongshi,niyekeyishidangbiaodaduizheiduanganqingdegaoduzhongshiyubushe,rangduifangzhidaonidexintai。
danshixuyaozhuyideshi,biaoshushebudeshibuyaoguofenjiuchanbuqinghuoshikenqiu,fanershiyiyizhongpingjing、chengkendetaidulaibiaoda,liru:“xifu,wohenzhenxidajiajiandeganqing,yetingxiwangwomennenggouyiqizouxiaqu,chulixianzaidewenti。”neiyangdebiaodafangshijibuhuijiduifangzaochengfudan,yenenggouranglingyifangkanjiannidechengxinheyongqi。
二、思考自己的问题,寻找婚姻生活问题
xifuweishenmehuitilihun,yidingshiyinweiduiyuhunyinfeichangshiwang,danzheizhongshiwangshiyouyigeyouyigeweijiejuewentileijiercheng,yincifenshouwanhuishi,womenxuyaosikaozishencunzaidewenti,xunzhaohunyinshenghuodewentisuozai。
nikeyishizhehuiguyixianimenzhijiandeganqingrichangshenghuo,sikaoyixiazaixiangchudeguochengzhongninyoumeiyoujindaozhangfudezeren?shifouyouguanzhu、lijieyuzhichixifu?shifouyoucunzaiyixiebuliangshenghuoxiguanhuoshigerenxingwei?ruguoninengzhaodaogezhongwenti,bingyuanyirenqinghejiuzhengtamenshi,jiuhuishixifukanjiannidegenggaiheyongqi,jianlixindeduiyunidezixinxin。
ziran,sikaozijidewentibingbushiyijianrongyideshiqing,yinweihenduoshihouwomendouyaoxiayishideduobihuoshifoudingzishenwenti,yincinikeyishizhehuanweisikaoyixia,lizaiqizidejiaodusikao,huoshizhaoyixiebijiaokeguandepengyouhuojiaren,tingyitingtadeyijianhekanfa,neiyangkeyibangzhunigengjiaquanmian、keguandelejieziji。
三、创建有效的沟通,解决矛盾矛盾
wanhuilaopodezhengquefangfa,danglaopoqingxuhuodexuanxie,erqienizhaodaolehunyinshenghuodewentiyihou,xiamianjiuxuyaotongguochuangjianyouxiaogoutonglaihuajiexianghuzhijiandewentimaodunle。youxiaogoutongkeyijiejuewentidehexin,doushiwanjiuhunyindezhongyaobuzhou。

zaigoutongdeshihou,nixuyaozhuyiyixiajidian:
baochilizhihelixing:bieyinqingxuguojiershuochuyixiepianjihuoshishanghaitarendehua,baochilizhihelixing,caikeyigenghaodegoutongjiaoliu。
lingtingbierendexiangfa:buyaoyiweidibiaodazijideguandianhekanfa,fanershixuduolingtingqizidexiangfaheganshou,dongtadeneixinshijie。
biaodaguandian:zailingtingduifangyucitongshi,yeyaoshidangdibiaodaguandianheyijian,rangduifangzhidaonidexintaihekanfa。
xunzhaoyitongjiejuefangfa:duiyucunzaidewentihefenqi,nenggouyiqitantaojiejuefangfa,xunzhaobicizhijiandounengjieshoudexiangtongdian,dachengyizhi。
liru,lianggerenzhijianruguochuxianxinrenwenti,nikeyizheiyangshuo:“xifu,womingbaiyiqianwozijizuodeyixieshiqingrangniganjuedaomeiyouxinren,wojiurenshidaozijidewenti,yihouwohuizhuzhongzijideyantanjuzhi,duohenijiaoliuyugoutong,xiwangkeyifujiandajiazhijiandexinren。”
tongguozheiyangyouxiaogoutongfangfa,dajiajiandemaodunhemaodunhuizhujianhuodejiejue,ernimenzhijiandeguanxijiuhuimanmandedaoxiufu。
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