女朋友失望了如何挽回

　　nvpengyoushiwangleruhewanhui，gemen/zimei，nishifouzhengbaozheshoujixianshipingfaleng——lingyifangfasongde“liyi”xinxixianggencizhazaixinzhong;xiangzhangkouqiuhe，quepashuocuohuagengzaogao;xiangxingweiwanliu，quebuzhiconghezheshou……shijishang，wanjiuhunyinzuiyouxiao，conglaidoubushi“sipilailian”huo“diweiaiqiu”，fanershi“xianwendingzishen，zaijingzhunchuji”。

　　wojianguohenduoren，zaihunyinwentilihuangleshoujiao——yaobumeitiandouzaifaxiaoduanwenzhiqian，yaobuzhaoqinpenghaoyoulunzhequan，jieguoduifangyueduoyuelaiyueyuan;yekanguoyouxierenpingjingxialai，zhaoduifangfa，budanwanjiulehunyinshenghuo，haiyaoaiqingbiandegengqinmiwujian。wanjiuhunyindeguanjiansuozai，jiuyijuhua：“xianjiejue‘qingxujiaolv’，zaichuli‘guanliannanti’”——niyueshijiyu“yaojieguo”，jiuyuerongyigaozale;niyueshineng“kongzhujiezougan”，lingyifangyuehenyoukenengshenzhongkaolv。

　　jintianzanmenjiuchaitou“wanjiuhunyin”dedicengsiwei——3gewubibikaidejinqu+3gehexinmubiao+5geshijicaozuoliucheng，wuxuguitiannan，wuxuquyue，jiuhuirangduifangkanjiannidegenggai，shenzhizhudonghuiguotou。

　　一、挽救婚姻前，先绕开这3个“自杀性实际操作”，不然越努力越不成功

　　haoduorenwanjiuhunyinshi，diyifanyingshi“woxiangbiaoxianzijiaita”——jielunyongcuofangfa，shenzhibalingyifangtuigenggaogengyuan。zhei3gejinqu，caiyigejiuyoukenengwanquanyuanzougaofei。

　　jinqu1：sipilailian+yuyanbaoli(liru“woqufuchuneimeduo，nizenmekeyiliyi?”“xiaohaibunengbuyaofuqin/muqin!”)

　　ni“touru”，zaibiciyanzhongyoukenengshi“caozong”——birushuonitiantianfa10tiaoxinxiqiuhe，lingyifangbuhuinidalegedianhua;nizuoqinpenghaoyoulunzhequan，shenzhiqulingyifangqiyeduren……zheizhongxingweifanerhuirangtaganjue：“yagenjiumeitingmingbaiweishenmewohuixiangyaolihun，zhizaiyizijidexiangfa。”

　　真实故事：

　　xiaoadelaogongtilihun，tameitiandouzaifaxiaoduanwen：“woweizheigejiacidiaogongzuo，peihulaorenxiaohai，nizenmekeyiqingsongziyou?”jielunzhangfulaheishanchuta，shuo：“niyueshineiyang，woyuefajuedezheiduanganqingshishufu。”

　　fangleizhongyao：wanliubingbushi“bilingyifanghuiguotou”，fanershi“nengrangduifangxiangyaozaicichupengni”——xianjiduifangshineikongjian，buyaorangtaganjue“lihunshibaituo”。

　　禁区2：低微取悦+自我怀疑(例如“是我不好，我改!”“你在说什么我还听，只需不想离婚!”)

　　ni“diwei”，huirangrenjuedeni“yagenjiumeiyouyishidaonanti”——birushuoniweilewanhui，fangqisuoyoubiaozhun：tamani，niqiangren;tatiwuliqunao，nidaying;naizhitawaiyu，nidoujuede“woyuanliangni”……

　　真实故事：

　　nvpengyoushiwangleruhewanhui，xiaobdelaopotilihun，taguixialaiqiu：“wojianglaixinshuiquanshangjiao，shoujishanglandelinikan，zhixubuxianglihun!”jielunxifugengxinhan：“yagenjiumeiyouxiangguoweishenmewohuixinhan，zhidongdeyong‘rangbu’huibiwenti。”

　　fangleizhongyao：wanliubingbushi“guixialaiqiuliuyou”，fanershi“zhanzaineilirangtajiandaogenggai”——xianzhaodaofuqiganqingpoliedeguanjianwenti(liruyuyangoutongjiqiao、yulunyali、yaoqiuhulve)，zaimudexingchuli。

　　jinqu3：mangmugenfengbizhao+jingongdisanfang(liru“niqianren/qianrennvyouyemeiwoduinihao!”“nandaoshiyinweineigerennicaihuilihun?”)

　　ni“jingong”，huirangrenjuedeni“niyizhizaitaobizeren”——birushuonicaiyitawaiyu，jiutiantianchashoujishang、zhuizong;nidujitadeyixing，bianshuo“niyutakendingyouwenti”;naizhiniyongzijiyutade“qiannanyou”bizhao，shuo“wobitaqianghenduo”……

　　真实故事：

　　xiaocdelaogongtilihun，tadanxinshiyouyutongshi，meitianfanzhangfuweixinliaotianjilu，haiyaoquqiyenao。jielunzhangfuwanquanshiwang：“wobenlaixianglizhiliaoyiliao，rujinzhixiangyaogankuaili，shuyuannidecaiji。”

　　fangleizhongyao：wanliubingbushi“baguotuijianjitaren”，fanershi“xianshenshizijinanti”——jishitayouwu，neiniyexianjiejuezijideyibufen，zaizhengqueyindaotasikao。