婚姻的秘诀是什么？怎么挽回？

 ruhewanhuihunyin?lianqingshi，gaoqingchunanrennvrendejiajianfazhenduibaochiguanliandezhangqixingfazhanqushihenguanjian，yiyangde，zaihunyinjiaowangli，jiajianfarengrancunyou。jinguanlianggerenxianghuguanxizaoyilaidaofuqijiandeshuiping，keshi，ruozaihunhoushenghuolibumingbaizenqulejielingyifang，zhongshilingyifang，fuqijiandeqingganyehuijianjiandibianqian，zhidaohunyinshenxianweiji。yinci，yaoxiangweichihunyindepingwen，jiajianfajibenyuanlidelejieyiyangguanjian。qingganwanhuizenmeban?

一、掌握婚姻加减法的基本原理

 nanshengzaihunqianhehunhouweihequbiejiuneimada?wojuede，ruguonigaoqingchunanrennvrenjiajianfazaihunlianjiaoyoushidejibenyuanli，woyezhidao。

 nanshengzaizhuiqiuwanmeinishi，“shiqudezhongjiushishide”，nijifaletadetiaozhanyu。zaitalaikan，nizhuyaobiaoxianchuqudeyiqiexingfude，tahuizaiwuyishishihuiweilenigaokaojiafen。

 fenshouhouzenmewanhui?suizhixiangchumanmanshencengci，zaimingqueguanlianhou，nanshenghuiyuelaiyuehenkeke、momodideweilenikoufen，niderenheyuelaiyuebuxingfule，shenxingzouxing、qingxubuwending.....

 nijianghuihuichize，nanshengjiushishuofeichangrongyiyiqingbielian。wojuedebingfeineibande，ganghaoyouyuzheiyinanshengduizheixieqingganshiyongxinde，tacaihuigangkaishikeke。

 “zhangqixingjiaowangduimeiyinanshenglaijiang，quanshiyibeizizhongjiaodadedanxuanti，yibianquebaozishendejianglai，yincizaijiaowangquanguochengzhong，nanshenghuizaiwuyishizhongbuduantiaonvxingdenanti，”ganqingzhuanjiakangnajiaoshibiaoshudao，“nanshengneiyangzuo，shiyibianquedinglingyifangshibushijiushishuonagezishenxiangzhaodenvxing，shibushiheshigenzishenyikuaierzhangqiyishizhuxingjiaowang。”

 fenshouhouzenmewanhui?zheijiushishuonanshengzaihunqianhunhouqubieneimadadeyuangu。nanshengwangwangneimezuo，wojuedebingfeiyouyierwei，zhishiyichuanjiyinchulaidejuedezhishou，shiqianhanyizhengqueyindaotamenquzuode。

 ernvxingzebutong，zaidouhaimeihenanshengmingqueguanlianshi，yibianmingqueshibushinizuigaixiangchu，tahuitiaochulainidequexian，zheishihouniyeshikoufende。danzaimingqueguanlianhou，nvxinghuijiangnizuoweiyibeizideairenduidai，tahuikuanrongnidequexian，“jinguantayouneimaduoquexian，dantahenaiwo”，jianjiandideweinanshenggaokaojiafen，bingjiangzishendegerenxingweihelixing。

 qingganwanhuizenmeban?yincizaihunhou，nvxinghuiyulaiyuainanren，jiangzhongxindianmanmanfangdaonanshengshoushang，ernanshengzechedifanguolai。yincijiuchuxianzheiyangdeshiqing，nanshengyulaiyuchengshoubushanglingyifangdequexian，ernvxingquehunranbujue。

二、提升婚姻的优越感——减少分歧点

 hunyinzhongdexingfuganguodi，youyueganbuzudefufu，yincishizairichangshenghuozhongfenqizhengchaoguoduo，zaochengxianghujiandeqingganxiaoqiansulvjiasu，jinerzaochenggengdadezhengchaofenqiwenshi，zheiwojuedeshi1geliangjihua。

yinci，yaotishengzaihunyinzhongdeyouyuegan，jiuwubiyaoxuehaozenqujianshaoxianghujiandefenqidian。

 ruhewanhuihunyin?julilaishuoba：dangfuqijianzhengchaodeneishihou，liangrenzhongjiandefenqidianshishifengaode，bingqieyiqieyidianerdesuoshi，doushizaochengxianghudereqinggaozhang，yinqigengdadezhengzhi。yinci，zaizheiyineishihou，yaojianshaoxianghujiandefenqidian，chuimielingyifangdenaonuhuomiao，haiyaogangkaishimeiyouliyoudequyuanyilingyifangdejianjie，youyumaodunzongshirangdajiazhongjiandejianjuyuezouyueyuan。zaixianghudexintaihuifuleyihou，haohaodijiaoliuyugoutong，nenggoujiejuezheicidenanti。

 zheiwojuedeshilaizisuoyourenxinlidehelixingtizhi，youyuzaizijimingquetichu1gejianjiedeneishihou，jiaruzaoshoubianbo，huiyiwaixinlizaochengtadebuxi，fangan，naizhihuizaochengmengliedexintaifantiao，yincizaizheiyineishihou，nirentongta，yuanyitadejianjie，neimatajiuhuiganjue，yuanxiandajiazhongjiandeniantoushixiangtongde，neimadajiaxianghuguanxi，jiunenghuode1gehenshidudehuancun，erbingbushijiezhongerlaibuduandezhengzhi。

 yinci，zaiyingduifahuodetadeneishihou，yaoxuehaoruhedongxiangtazhiqian，zhongzhizhenglun，yongnidekuanrongqurangtatihuidaoniduitadeai，lairangtalejienideniantou，jianjiandipingjingxialai。dangtapingjingxialaiyihou，nizaihetajiangli，neiyangdeshijixiaoguo，bihubuxiangrangdezhengzhinaopiqi，shijixiaoguohaoxieyiwanbei。

三、维持婚姻幸福快乐的重要

 hunyinnenggou shuomeiduanganqingdewanbihemeiduandeqinggandegangkaishi，weizhiqianxiangyu，lianaidezhuiyihuadaole1gejuhao，weidanfuqiyiwu，qumingweifufuderenwujiaosekaiqixinpianzhang，renhederenhekanshangquhaoxiangdoushirengjiudikaizhan，richangshenghuoyebingmeishenmebodonggaodibupingdebolangwen，dan，jiushishuoyouyuzheizhongfawei，zheizhongdanerwuweideyishizhuxingjihunyinzaijialeyibingshufu，cushihunyinkanshangqupingfanliluo。youxierenxiangyouzheileifaweideshiri，youyuzaitadegongzuoshang，richangshenghuo，tazaojiuxiguanxingzheileifangshi，rujinzhibuguoduoshuangcanjueryi。danrutongwochangshuode，zaidangdaishehuifazhanzhong，sheihuiqujiuyupingpingchangchangdeyishizhuxing，tamenpianzhongyuquweide，keyidailaitamenkaixincijixingtihuideshiqing，yiner，yaoweichimeiduanzhenzhengdeaiqingyishizhuxing，bukeyijinjinkoutoushangjiangjiangbale，gengguanjiandeshimingbaizuomouxiezhongyaodeshier。

 zhenduinanshenglaijiang，xifubudanshi1getaaidenvxing，yeshi1geshouweijujiadenvxing，rutongganqingzhuanjialaoxianshengchangshuo，laopobudanyaozuowei1gehaoqizi，gengyaobiancheng1gebaisuodisanzhe，neiyangnenggousisidisuoding1genanrenxin。zhideyitideshi，rutonglaoyibeichangshuo：yaomingbaisuodingnanrendewei，shaochulaiqinzihaocantingchufangyeshimolian1gelaoposhibushijigedeguifanzhishou。

 zhenduinvshilaijiang，nanshengbudanjinjinweituorenshangzuoweiyijiazhizhu，gengyaozairichangshenghuozhonghexin1gejiazhong，zaiqingganzhonglingzheyigenvhai，dangnijinjinbarenhedechicunshierdoutuijianjinvxing，yexuzhichushijiazhonghuaxiaohuafei，neimenihequkuanjiyouyoushenmechabieni，yinci，zuoweinanren，nijianbangdezhongdanbingbushiqianzheimejiandan，niyeshijiazhongdezhongjianliliang，nikeyimingbairangainiderenbangzhuni，erbingbushibangbaniquanbushierdoujichulile。

 ruhewanhuihunyin?yinci，hunyinshibushixingfukuaile，yiwubuqujueyutaren，daliangdejiushinizishendeyiwu。jiaruowobumingbaizaihunyinjiaowangzhonglejielingyifang，zhongshilingyifang，gaohao1gelaopohuoshilaogongdeyiwu，jishilingyifangzhixiangyuniyikuaierhaohaoguorizi，zuihouyehuihuoxudequexianer