抓住挽回爱情的核心，复合才有可能

 wanhuiganqing：wenzhongjiangxuewanjiuzhongdeercixiyinheruhechuangjianyigequelidewanjiufangwei，wanjiubutaikenengyicuerjiu，fouzeyeburongyiyouneimaduoderenfenshouzhihouhexianghuzaiyebuhuijiuge。hunyinwentizenmejiejue? hunyinshifenmuma?

 wenzhongjiangxuewanjiuzhongdeercixiyinheruhechuangjianyigequelidewanjiufangwei，wanjiubutaikenengyicuerjiu，fouzeyeburongyiyouneimaduoderenfenshouzhihouhexianghuzaiyebuhuijiuge。

yincigaozijiaozhang，yeyufakuzao，danquanshifangfajiqiao，duixiangwanjiudeqinyoutingdaxiezhu，qingzhuweiwanyouxixinyueduwenzhang。

bawowanjiudeguanjian，fuhexingcaiyoujianghui-wanhuiganqingdefangshi

yi、“ercixiyinjichulilunguanjian”

 2012nianzhiqian，zaiqingganzixunshidequanzi，douhuishuowanjiushibutaikenengde。jirantichufenshou，yidingzongyouhuizhibuqudefenqi，butaikenengwanjiudeng。shenzhishiyeyourenshuo，tichufenshouyaoxiangwanjiu，5nianzuoyouhaileisi。

 hunyinshiaiqingdefenmuduima?zhiqiandewanjiudingyiyezhinengqiu，zaibitadiyigejiecengshanglaiqiuta。tashiyizhongdiweidewanjiufangfa，bingqieshijixiaoguohencha。

 jianjiandidelijingshijiandeshenxindexilihejinglidejilei，xintaizhiliaoshimenmingquetichuleyigedingyi“ercixiyin”。gangkaishiquelilediweidewanjiufangshi ，zhihoudelinchuangyixueyunyongyequeshiquelile“ercixiyin”zaiwanjiuzhongdeguanjiangongxiao。

 shijishangshuozhenhua，shuobailede“ercixiyin”jinjinyigetongyidemingzi，bingfeishuoruguonigenggaile，jiuyidingkeyixiyinzhudaobieren。

 yizhaorendebenxingdebennengfanyingpouxi，yigerenyishengzongshibeiyigerenxiyinzhuyici，jiaruzhishiyouyuniyuelaiyuegengqiangle，bierenjiuhuihuidaonishenbian，neimayeshijianghuidengniniheshiyouyuelaiyuebutaoxideneishihou，ta haihuiyunitichufenshou。

 hunyinshiaiqingdefenmuduima?zaipengyouguanxili，chukaiweirenhuoshizuoshishejifenggetaiguojiduan，erzaochengdetichufenshou。falexiaoxingzi，chaogejiahaiyaoshuotichufenshou，xingtongmolude。queshijiubujinshiwobutaoxideyuangule，zhishinixuduoneishihouwufakaolvguobierenzhenduilianqingdeyaoqiu，yincicaihuibeisuibiandequdaidiao。

 yinciercixiyindeshijiyiyijiushishuozaiyaoqiuheshiyongjiazhi2gecengmianqutigaoziji，xunzhaobierendeyaoqiuzaitishengzijideshiyongjiazhi。caihuiyouwanjiudeqidai。

er、“weiheninengyaoxiangwanjiu?”

 fenshouzhihoudajiaxiangwanjiu，shijishangyouyudajiabixuta，bukeyichengshoumeiyoutadeyishizhuxing，ganjueshiquta，xingmingzhenshishiqushijiyiyi。

zheileifenshouzhihouwusuobuzaidecansunganheyilaiganbijiaoyanzhongdaowuyifujia。guigendaodishi“wobixuta”

weiheninengbixutani?

 woyaojuedaduoshurendaofenshouzhihouburongyiqusisuozheiyinanti。jibiansisuole，suanchudejieguotongchangjiushishuoyijuhua：woxihuanta。zheiyiyijutaiguodumohubuqing，zhenduiwanjiubingmeishenmexiezhu。

 juxiangguandiaochatongji，yigerendaofenshouzhihoubiyou“bixuta”dezheileiyaoqiu，dazhishineiyang：“tachuse、meilidongren、youfazhanqiantu、womenhao、guanzhuwo、zhaoliaowo、kuanrongwo、kaolvwo、nenggouyikao、jilewoaideganjue、yaowoganshoulaidaoai，yinciwoshifenshifenbixuta。bukeyimeiyouta”

 hunyinshifenmuma?yincizheiyejiubijiaorongyipouxidechuqu，ninengtongchu，youyuni“bixuta”。dangnixiaodezheiyidian，zaikanlaitichufenshoujiubuyiyangle。

 tichufenshoudezhuangkuangyouxuduo，yaozhuyipouxidehuataiguofanzaxini，yebushenrufenxinayizhong。dazhitichufenshounenggoufenchengxialieerzhong：

 1、zaiqizhongyifangyinweimouzhongyuanyin，ganjuebierenzaoyishiquzaizishenxinliaidebuwei，jijizhongduanyubierendeganqing，erbierendeqingganrengwufahuifu，caichuzai“fenshouhou”qingkuang。

 2、biciyinweimouleibunengkangdewailizuoyongdegongxiao，qiangpozhongduanxianghuzhijiandelianqingguanlian，bicideqinggandouwufahuifu，douchuzai“fenshouhou”qingkuang。

dierzhongwenzhongweizuoxushu，guanjianxinqingshuoshuodiyizhong。

 zheiyizhonghuirangbeizhongduanganqingdeyifangtongchubuji，doushijuedaduoshuxiangwanjiurendezhuangkuang。zaizheizhongxianxiangxia，shibeizhongduanganqingdeyifangbixu“jijizhongduanganqingdeneiyifang”，yeshinibixuta，ertabuyongni。

zaizheizhongxianxiangxia，yaoxiangwanjiubieren，jiuderangtaxiangyaoni。

niyaorangtaxiangyaoni，neimenijiudexianlejietabixunaxie，congzheiyidianxiashouquwanjiu。

san、“nanrennvrenduoyuanhuayaoqiu”

hunyinshifenmuma?zailianqingzhongxuduolianrentichufenshoudeyuanguquanshizhenduiairendeyaoqiumeiyouchongzudezhangwoerdaozhide。

 huoxu，meiyixuqiucengcililundoushiyouyixiebuyiyang，zheilizhijiandanhuadaonanshengduinvxingdeyaoqiuhenvxingduinanshengdeyaoqiushangqutantao。

yibanyijunanrenxintailaijiang，nanshengzhuzhongdeguanjianyouxialiehaoduogecengmian：

1、waixiantedian：rongmao、shenxing、haokan(nanshengzuizhuzhongdeyaosu)

2、xingqinggexingtezheng：taorenxihuan、wenrou、tiexin、tongqingdali、nvrenqizhi、rerenlianlian

 3、qingshangzhishanghezhili：zheihechunzhenchunzhenmeiyoufenqi，nanshengyehenzhuzhongnvshideconghuishuiping，shijideshuojiushishuotinghuashuiping(yigepingchangtianzhenwuxiezuoshiyoumingbaiweirenchushidekeainvhaiduinanshengxiyinzhushizhimingxingde)

 4、fazhanqianli：rujiatingqingkuang、shentisuzhi、gongzuozhongtexing、jingshencaifu、diweidengzuiweishijidewupin(zheiyidianzaiquanbushiyongjiazhifenbianzhongzhanyoudequanzhongzhihendi，qiahaoyunvshiduinanshengdefenbianfanguolai。)

zuoyoushijuedaduoshunanshideyaoqiu，mouxieduteyaoqiuyiwai。

 ruguonixiaodezheizhong，yuzhixiangpipeidekanyixiazishenshoushangjubeishenme。zainahaoduogecengmianzhanfenjiaogao，nayifangmianjiaodi，keyiduinanshizaochengduoshaodeyouhuoli。

yijunvrendexintailaijiang，nvxingzhuzhongdeguanjianyouxialiehaoduogecengmian：

1、fazhanqianliyushiyongjiazhi：jiazhongbiaozhun、gongzuozhong、benrencaifu、diwei、qianzaixingshiyongjiazhi

2、xingqinggexingtezheng：fengqu、youmo、fengfan、wenwenerya、wenrou、keguan

3、rongmaotedian：yizhe、shenxing、qichang

4、qingshangzhishanghezhili：wanshan、jiejueshierdegongzuonengli、renjijiaowangnengli

 hunyinwentizenmejiejue?nanshiyebixuqusikaobenshen，juyouzuoyoushenmeshiyongjiazhi，neihaoduogecengmianyoushiduoshaozhanfen。shibushijuyouzheizhongjibendeyouhuoli。

 xiangwanjiuhaiyaogenggai，yaotisheng，yaoqinfen，yaoqinfenshizishenyuelaiyuegengjubeiyouhuoli。zhongjiu，wulunshinanshenghuanshinvxingdouquyushiyongjiazhigenggaoderen。

si、“zenyangqueliwanjiufangwei?”

 xuduowanyoudoushuo，womingbaiercixiyinshiganshenmede，keshihuanshibuqingchushijigaizenyangquzuo，gaicongnayifangmianqutigaoziji。

 jiaruniyongyuanbuzhidaonizishennayounanti，shijishangnizongyounanti。jinjinnizishenmeifajue，youyurenjiaonanzhangwodejiushishuozishen，huoxu，doushizuirenshizijide。zhibuguoshizhezhongdianbuyiyang。

renyouyangzhangbiduandebennengfanying，bujinduidajiashenghuozhongderenhuobiedeshiqing，lingwaiyeduizishenyouzheiyibenneng。

 ji，xinzijidezhuguanxingfenbian，shanyujiandaozishenhaodeyimian，zaiqianyishizhonghuiraokaizishenbuxingdeyimian。erqieshanyubanantilijiguijiuyudaobierenshoushang，jinerhushiyejiushishuojijihushidiaobenshendenanti。

zheiyejiushishuoweiheyiduanqinggandeliekaitongchangshiliangrendenanti，erbingbushidandude。

 yinci，zuilijidexuanzeercixiyindeguanjianhuanjiejiushiyitichufenshouexingshijianlaikan，pouxizaochengdajiatichufenshoudeyaosu，zaironghedajiabicizailianqingzhongdezhuyaobiaoxianjibierenchanshengnaxiedezhuanbian。

 hunyinwentizenmejiejue?shihaikeyiyijuyixingpengyoudeduoyuanhuayaoqiuhexintaizhuangtaiqupouxironghe，zuihouxunzhaonantiguanjianhuanjiehetazhenduilianqingdeyaoqiu。

wu、“zenyangxunzhaobierendeyaoqiu?”

xialiejuerzhongtichufenshouzhuangkuanglaibiaoming：

a、zhangjiuguanlianbupingwen、zhengzhizaochengdetichufenshou：

 zheiyidiantichufenshoujuedaduoshushiyaoqiuweidedaokaolv，fen2gecengmian，yigeshibenshenyaoqiuweikaolv，lingyigejiushishuoairendeyaoqiuweidedaokaolv。

rutongyoudenanshiyaoshuonvxingbutinghuayiyang，tabixudeshiyigewanshanwenroudenvren。

 neima，dajiajiubixulejie，zhenduitaeryan，naxiedegerenxingweicaisuanzuowanshantinghua，nibenshendegerenxingweishibushiyoubudangzhichu?jiushinimeiyoubaozhengzuijichudelianqingguiding，huanshibierenguidingguoduonimeifabaozheng?

 yeyoudenvshiyaoshuozheiyinanshengbumingbaifengqu、daiban。neima，congzheiernenggoukandechubierenzhenduilianqingdeyaoqiushilianqingshiyaoyoureqingde，keyirangtajuedejidong、cijixing、xintiaohenkuai、dadongdeneileijuede。nishibushiyoubaozhengni?

 yeyoudeairengengweizhuzhongyigerendeqianzaixingshiyongjiazhihuoshiyuanyoushiyongjiazhi，jiulirujichudeyishizhuxingquebao、jiatingqingkuang、diwei、jinquxin、zaijianglai5~10nianjianghuichanshengdezhuanbiandeng。

zheizhongwaizaihuoshibenzhidebiaozhunjirenchanshengyizhongqidaishenghuodebianjiedeng，shangwentijiguo，renchangyouquyushiyongjiazhigenggaoderen。

b、pinxing、xingqingzaochengdetichufenshou：

 yibaneryanzheiyileitichufenshouduoheshenghuofangshi、xingqingxintai、weirenxiangguan。qianerzhekeyigenggai，erhoumianyizhonggenggaidejilvyebubianda。

dangniyouyurenpinwentibeifenshou，neimewoquannihuanshibubiwanjiule，biequhuoshilaohaoren。

 jiarushishenghuofangshidenanti，jiubixuquzhuiyidajiazaiyiqideneishihoudeqingkuang，bierenshibushihuichangchangtijiniyouguanshenghuofangshibuxingdeyixienanti。

 xiaodaoluandiulaji、jiangcuhua，dadaoxiyan、shijiudeng。zaixiangzheshenghuozhongderenshibushiyoushuoguozishenyouzheixienanti，danzishenquebuxieyigude。

 zailianqingzhong，dangxianghuguanlianquerenhou，doushishifangyalijingxing，bazuizhenzhengdeyimianpuluchuqu。hulianwangjitangwenzhongchangchangkandaoyijuhua：dangnibukeyijienazuilandewo，neimajiubupeijienadewo。

 hunyinwentizenmejiejue?zatingqilaifangfohenrenshengdadaoli，dancongxintaiguochenglaikan，renshiyoukesuxingde，bingqiedouquyuhaodeyimian，sheidouqidaizhaogehaokan(kushuai)de，haopiqide、pingehaode、huizhengqiande、shuoaiwode、wenroude、yougongzuonenglide。danjiushishuomeirenshuowoxiangzhaogezuilande。

yinci，yelveweitishiyixia，laomujitangbiekanguoduo，yaoburanbuxingdehuanshizishen。

 jiarushixingqingxintaidenanti，neimajiuqingkuangyanzhongle。xingqingxintaidenantitongchangbansuizheizhongciju：qingxubuwending、xingqingkuangzao、lengbaoli、xiangdetaiduo、husiluanxiang。xiaojieqilaijiushishuomeifajiairenchushijichudeqingxujiazhi。

zheiyileinantizaochengdetichufenshouyibanshibenrenduofangmiandeyuangudaozhi，guanjiangenbenrenrenshengzhiludeqinshenjinglixiangguan。

liruzixiaoqianqueguanhuai，neimazhangdayihoujiufeichangrongyichuxianhusiluanxiang、xingqingkuangzao、lengbaolidengzhuangkuang。

 youjuhuashineimeshuode：yiqiedezhuangbhenuhou，quanshiyuanziqueai，huoshijixuyongqian。huacaolibucao，pouxiyixiashiniqingxubuwending、husiluanxiang、xiangdetaiduo、lengbaolishuomingniquefaguanhuai。

 zheiyileiyaoxianggenggai，zuixianjiubixurangzishendeneixinqiangdaderen、fengfuduocaiqilai。hunyinshiaiqingdefenmuduima?duochupengrichangshenghuoxingfudeyimian，jinkenengraokaifumianxinxideshiqing。duoshizhequzuonijiaonanbaozhengdeshihebuxiangyaozuodeshi。jianjiandideguanlizijidexintai。

 liruyigerenjiaoweileguan，neimanenggoushizherangzishenzaizaozadeziranhuanjingzhongxinjing;yigequkanshukanbushang10fenzhongderenjiubipozishenjingxialaiqukanshu，meiyiciduokanyuedushiduofenzhonghuoshijifenzhong。

 juzheizhongshili，jiushishuoyaoxianggaozhidahuoeryigedadaoli，yaoxiangwanjiuqudechenggong，jiubixuxunzhaobierenzhenduilianqingdeguiding，zhaodaonantidezhongyao。

 hunyinshiaiqingdefenmuduima?zaizaizheigefangmianshanglaigenggaitigao，zuizhongzaiduyiquanxinshengjidewaimaochuxianzaibierendequanqiuli;babierenyaoxiangdejidaobieren，wanjiucaiyoujianghuiqudechenggong。