婚姻遭到背叛要怎么挽回

　　hunyinzaodaobeipanyaozenmewanhuihunyinlideliefeng，tongchanglaiyuanyuwuyindeduitan。bansuizhewuhui、lengdannaizhishuyuanmanmanfushihunyinguanxi，henduonvxingpengyoujinbuzhushenxianjiaolvyumangran，tansuozhewanhuizhangfuzuihaodefangshi——shikukuwanliu，huoshishiyonggezhongduice?danshi，zhenzhengnengxiubufuqiguanxidesuochi，qishiyejiuyanzangzaimeiyicishencengcide、zhenzhidegoutongjiaoliudangzhong。

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　　婚姻生活沟通的意义

　　tongguoshenruhezhenchengdejiaoliulaixiufuhunyin，shichaoyuechizeyuchenmozhongyao。zaiganqingzaoshoukunjingshi，henduonvxingpengyoutongchanghuizouxiangliangjihua。tamenyexuhuixuanzeyongchizeheweiqulaichangshihuanqilaogongdezerenxin，yekeyixuanzewanquanfengbiziwo，yichenmolaihuiyinglengbaoli。danshi，zheiliangzhongfangshitongchangzhihuijiazhonghunyinlideliefeng。xinliyanjiubiaoming，yaowanhuizhangfudexin，zuihaodefangfashigoujiangengshencengcideqingganlianjie。danzheizhonglianjiedejianshe，libuleyouxiaodegoutongzheiyigongluqiaoliang。

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　　有效沟通方法

　　▍了解并非劝服

　　gaoduzhongshilejiebingfeiquanfu，zhanxianminganyituidonglingyifanglianminzhixinhechuanqizhifuchengxu。henduowanjiuhunyindetansuozuihoubuchenggong，daduoshiyinweijiaoliufangshibuheli。shituyong“jiangli”lainengrangduifangtuoxie，huoshiyongqingxuhuayanyulaihuodelianmin，tongchangzhinengjifaduifangbumanqingxu。zhenzhenzhengzhengdejiaoliuzhongdianzaiyulejieduifang，erbushidanchundedeshuofu。yiner，qudechenggongdejiaoliubixuzuodaoyixiajidian：

　　zuixian，yaoxuehuifangxiahaoshengxin。goutongjiaoliubingbushibianlundasai，bubiguofenzaihushifeiduicuo。dajiagengyinggaiguanzhushizhizenmejiejuewenti，bingfeijiujie“sheizuocuoshi”。

　　cizhi，yingshidangchengxianmingan。shehuixinlixuelide“yisunxingjichulilun”gaojiewomen，shidudizhanxianzijideneixinqinggan，liruchengrenzijizaodongbuan、houhuimojihuowunai，keyigengyouxiaodejiqiduifanglianminzhixinhezhengfuyu。zheileichengxianruanruodefangfa，youliyulajinbicidejuligan，congerjianligengnonghoudeqingganlianjie。

　　▍聆听、表达与行为

　　hunyinzaodaobeipanyaozenmewanhuigenjulingtinglingyifangyaoqiu、yongtihuiqudaichize、yongshijixingdongzhengshigenggai。lingting：chongfenwajuelingyifangweishuomingdexuyao。zaihunyinwentizhong，henduolaogongbaochichenmo，zaitamenkanlai“buguanshuoxieshenmeyeyushiwubu”。danshi，jijilingtingtamendeganshouyouweizhongyao。genjutichuwenti，ru“jinqinilaoshuogongzuotaimang，shifoujialideshirangniganjuedaogongzuoyali?”huo“dajiajuededajiazhijiandewenti，gengduodeshisanguanbuhe，huoshixiangchumoshiwenti?”lailejiezijidezhenshitiyan。zailingtingshi，fangzhiqieduanhuobianbo，zhixutongguodiandiantouhuozhongfuduifangdeyisilaichuandanilejie。

　　biaoshu：yong“tihui”qudai“chize”。zaigoutongdeshihou，changshiyong“woganshoudao……”dejuxing，erfei“nizong……”。biru，jiang“nicongbuguanjiaohaizi，zhiguzheziji!”gaishanwei“jinqifudaohaizixuexikechengyaowoshenxinpibei，ruguokeyiheniyiqifentan，wonengqingsonghenduo。”neiyangdebiaodafangshigengrongyiyindaoduifangsisuozenmejiejuewenti，bingfeikaiqiduifangfangyuxinli。

　　xingwei：ranggenggaibuyaneryu。kongdongdefuwuchengnuomeifazhongjianxinren，weiyouxingweicaikeyishuomingnidexinxin。biru，ruguoguoquyinhulvejiazhongcongeryinfafenqi，rujinkeyizhudongzhengtiguihuazhoumojiatinghuodong;huoshizhiyaoduifangmaiyuangoutongjiaoliushixiao，keyidingqishezhi“fufushizhang”，zhiliyugoutongjiaoliubicizhijiandeyaoqiuhetihui。