huoxutamingquetichutichufenshou,duinieryanzhishishiyishunjian,huazhenqingganshizhenshijia?danxuduohuashijishangzaoyiyazaitaxinlihenzhangqi,jinjinyizhimeiyoushuo,zhibuguoshizanshimeiyouzuodaobaofadianbale。
yingduitamingquetichutichufenshoudezheiyixiankuang,wojuede,nizuixiangwendeyidingshi:taduizishenyeyouqingyima?
henxianzhu,zhiqianaizheni,rujinyeaizheni,danaimeineimaxianzhu,meineimamingxian,bingqieyuelaiyuedi,quxiang“wulian”,zaoyimeifazhichengdiantazaicizouxialaile。
yinci ,duinieryan,rujinzuizhongyaodebianshishitazaiciaishangleni,zuishaoyaofanhuiyuanxiandeqingkuang,erzhaodaoganqingdefangfani?
huiyiyixiadajiacongtanlianaidaomaixiangganqingwajiedequanguochengba,shizhishangzheijiushiyigeyouxianghuqinmiwujian,fenqizhujiantisheng,guanliangengjiaxiaochen,zhidaochaoyuezaiqizhongyifangdedaodedixianhekerongren,zuihoumingquetichutichufenshou。
bunankanchu,huazhenqingganshizhenshijia?dajiazhongjiantichufenshoudezhijieyuanyin,bianshirijiantigaodefenqi,fenqiyueda,gongzuoyaliyueda,dangyiduanganqingchanshengdegongzuoyalichaoguoxingfukuaile,rensheidoubuyuanyizaicizouxialai,rujinduinieryanzuizhongyaodewanhuiganqingliuchengbianshi——
01给另一方缓解压力
jiranrujinzaoyihenquelile,jidajiaqingganchanshengnantidezhijieyuanyin,bianshixianjieduanzaizheiliduanganqingzhong,tatihuideyalidale,neimejiushizhejilingyifanghuanjieyaliba!
erhuanjieyalidefangfayouerzhong,yishishixia,dangjinjinimianduitichufenshoudekeguanshishi,queshiyoudianeryishiwufajiena,kezheiyebukeyibianchengnichixusaoraotadeyuangu。
ku、nao、jiuchanbuqing,doubingbushiwanliudefangfa,yezongshishitagongzuoyaligenggao,yulaiyubuyuanyiyingduini,gengbieshuowanliule。
bubihuihuaitazainixinlidejinshengdehaoyinxiang,niyoujihui,keshijicaozuofangfayidanbudui,yiqiewanliudeqinfendoujiangfuzhudongliu。
erdierzhonghuanjieyaliduice,jihetaderichangxiangchuzhong,jiangdishiya,ziran,chulidefangweiyeweiyounizishenqingxi,shixianghuyishimaodunshibuyuanyirenrangyibu,shitadangzhongchuchou,huanshizaihexinlinianshangmaodunshibukuanronglingyifangni?duizhengzhiliao,caisuanshizhenglu。
02冷藏,给相互缓存
yiqiegenggaidouburongyishiyicuerjiude,wanliuyiyangzheiban。ruguonijuedefuhexingbuyongguoduoshijian,yemeineimanan,zhibixulingyifangdiankuaitoutongyijiuxing,neizhiyoushuozheileiniantoushizaixiangdetaiduole。
huiguotoulai,congdajiaganqingchuxianfenqi,daodajiazhenshifenli,hualeshiduoshaoshijian?tichufenshoubingbushiyishunjiandeshi,fuhexingyebutaikenengyicuerjiu。
neizaizheiduanshijianli,jiranbukeyifuhexing,haibibushanglijizhixinglengzang,lengzangdaibiaozhenixuyaolinshibaguanlianlengzang,yibujijicoushangqianwang,wuxureliantielengtunbu,danwojuededaibiaozhedajiaguanlianjiudaocigaoyiduanluo,zailengzangguanliandejieduan,dajiadeqingganshihaihuijixubiande。
tarujinduizheiyiduanqingganchedichuzaifumianqingxubaopenghuanjie,dannidexinlizhuangtaiyebingbuyiqingganxiufu,yinci bibushangrangshijianlaichuliyiqie,yikaoshijiandeliliang,rangxianghudeguanlianhuanjiexialai,duguozheiyicaogaodehuanjie,dengzhenihetapingjingxialai,youshihedexinlizhuangtaisisuozheiyiduanganqingdeyushi,shibushiyeyouyaojiahaijiashi,caijiushinizuihaodefuhexingtupokou。
03换位思考一下,考虑本质要求
zailengzangdezheiduanshijian,shizhegenggaizishen。ziran,genggaidefangweibujinshiwaizaipinpaixingxiang,gengzhongyaodehuanshigenggaikandaiganqingdexintai,lingwaihaibixudeshigenggaidajiadexiangchumoshi。
dajiazhongjianchanshengfenqi,tamingquetichutichufenshou,zuiyagendefenqibianshi“niwufazhenshikaolvtaqianzaixingdeyaoqiu”,huoxuninengganjuehenbiequ,zishenbenlaitourulexuduo。lianaizhonghenzhongyaoyidianbianshihuanweisikaoyixia,danzheiyidiantongchangfeichangrongyibeibierenhulve。
yidanjiaowangshijianzhangle,bianhuihenlisuoyingdangdeganjuelingyifangdeniantou,jiuyidinghezishenfuhe。kezenmekenenghuicunyouwanquanderuchuyizheni?tayijuhuameishuo,nidoudong?lianjiaowanghenduoniandelaofuqidounanyizuodaozheileirenshengjingjie。
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