降低双方矛盾，给彼此减压花镇情感是真是假？

 huoxutamingquetichutichufenshou，duinieryanzhishishiyishunjian，huazhenqingganshizhenshijia？danxuduohuashijishangzaoyiyazaitaxinlihenzhangqi，jinjinyizhimeiyoushuo，zhibuguoshizanshimeiyouzuodaobaofadianbale。

yingduitamingquetichutichufenshoudezheiyixiankuang，wojuede，nizuixiangwendeyidingshi：taduizishenyeyouqingyima?

 henxianzhu，zhiqianaizheni，rujinyeaizheni，danaimeineimaxianzhu，meineimamingxian，bingqieyuelaiyuedi，quxiang“wulian”，zaoyimeifazhichengdiantazaicizouxialaile。

 yinci ，duinieryan，rujinzuizhongyaodebianshishitazaiciaishangleni，zuishaoyaofanhuiyuanxiandeqingkuang，erzhaodaoganqingdefangfani?

 huiyiyixiadajiacongtanlianaidaomaixiangganqingwajiedequanguochengba，shizhishangzheijiushiyigeyouxianghuqinmiwujian，fenqizhujiantisheng，guanliangengjiaxiaochen，zhidaochaoyuezaiqizhongyifangdedaodedixianhekerongren，zuihoumingquetichutichufenshou。

 bunankanchu，huazhenqingganshizhenshijia？dajiazhongjiantichufenshoudezhijieyuanyin，bianshirijiantigaodefenqi，fenqiyueda，gongzuoyaliyueda，dangyiduanganqingchanshengdegongzuoyalichaoguoxingfukuaile，rensheidoubuyuanyizaicizouxialai，rujinduinieryanzuizhongyaodewanhuiganqingliuchengbianshi——

01给另一方缓解压力

 jiranrujinzaoyihenquelile，jidajiaqingganchanshengnantidezhijieyuanyin，bianshixianjieduanzaizheiliduanganqingzhong，tatihuideyalidale，neimejiushizhejilingyifanghuanjieyaliba!

 erhuanjieyalidefangfayouerzhong，yishishixia，dangjinjinimianduitichufenshoudekeguanshishi，queshiyoudianeryishiwufajiena，kezheiyebukeyibianchengnichixusaoraotadeyuangu。

 ku、nao、jiuchanbuqing，doubingbushiwanliudefangfa，yezongshishitagongzuoyaligenggao，yulaiyubuyuanyiyingduini，gengbieshuowanliule。

 bubihuihuaitazainixinlidejinshengdehaoyinxiang，niyoujihui，keshijicaozuofangfayidanbudui，yiqiewanliudeqinfendoujiangfuzhudongliu。

 erdierzhonghuanjieyaliduice，jihetaderichangxiangchuzhong，jiangdishiya，ziran，chulidefangweiyeweiyounizishenqingxi，shixianghuyishimaodunshibuyuanyirenrangyibu，shitadangzhongchuchou，huanshizaihexinlinianshangmaodunshibukuanronglingyifangni?duizhengzhiliao，caisuanshizhenglu。

02冷藏，给相互缓存

 yiqiegenggaidouburongyishiyicuerjiude，wanliuyiyangzheiban。ruguonijuedefuhexingbuyongguoduoshijian，yemeineimanan，zhibixulingyifangdiankuaitoutongyijiuxing，neizhiyoushuozheileiniantoushizaixiangdetaiduole。

 huiguotoulai，congdajiaganqingchuxianfenqi，daodajiazhenshifenli，hualeshiduoshaoshijian?tichufenshoubingbushiyishunjiandeshi，fuhexingyebutaikenengyicuerjiu。

 neizaizheiduanshijianli，jiranbukeyifuhexing，haibibushanglijizhixinglengzang，lengzangdaibiaozhenixuyaolinshibaguanlianlengzang，yibujijicoushangqianwang，wuxureliantielengtunbu，danwojuededaibiaozhedajiaguanlianjiudaocigaoyiduanluo，zailengzangguanliandejieduan，dajiadeqingganshihaihuijixubiande。

 tarujinduizheiyiduanqingganchedichuzaifumianqingxubaopenghuanjie，dannidexinlizhuangtaiyebingbuyiqingganxiufu，yinci bibushangrangshijianlaichuliyiqie，yikaoshijiandeliliang，rangxianghudeguanlianhuanjiexialai，duguozheiyicaogaodehuanjie，dengzhenihetapingjingxialai，youshihedexinlizhuangtaisisuozheiyiduanganqingdeyushi，shibushiyeyouyaojiahaijiashi，caijiushinizuihaodefuhexingtupokou。

03换位思考一下，考虑本质要求

 zailengzangdezheiduanshijian，shizhegenggaizishen。ziran，genggaidefangweibujinshiwaizaipinpaixingxiang，gengzhongyaodehuanshigenggaikandaiganqingdexintai，lingwaihaibixudeshigenggaidajiadexiangchumoshi。

 dajiazhongjianchanshengfenqi，tamingquetichutichufenshou，zuiyagendefenqibianshi“niwufazhenshikaolvtaqianzaixingdeyaoqiu”，huoxuninengganjuehenbiequ，zishenbenlaitourulexuduo。lianaizhonghenzhongyaoyidianbianshihuanweisikaoyixia，danzheiyidiantongchangfeichangrongyibeibierenhulve。

 yidanjiaowangshijianzhangle，bianhuihenlisuoyingdangdeganjuelingyifangdeniantou，jiuyidinghezishenfuhe。kezenmekenenghuicunyouwanquanderuchuyizheni?tayijuhuameishuo，nidoudong?lianjiaowanghenduoniandelaofuqidounanyizuodaozheileirenshengjingjie。