花镇情感咨询是诈骗吗？TA说的“我想静静”，究竟意味着什么？

 shijishang，zheixieyierzaizaiersanshuozhe“bixulizhiyixia”derenmen，huazhenqingganzixunshizhapianma？nenggoufenweiliangleilaiduidai。

zaiqizhongdediyidalei，bianshizuibianshuozhe“woxiangjingjing”，qishishichedi“haipayingdui”deren。jugeshilieryan：

 ahebzaiyiqibushangyinianshijian，congyikaishiderelian，daowugeyuehoureqingxiaoshidaijinzhujianjindaopingdanqizheiduanshijianli，liangrenganshoulegezhonggeyangbuyiyangshejifenggeheqingjingdezhengchaoqingkuang。erqie，zaidabannianyihou，zheileizhuangkuangyurijuzeng。zongsuan，zaizheiliduanqingganlikeyaojindao1zhounianjiniandeqingkuangxia，apanjueleliangrenfenlichulaidejuece。aganjuezishenqueshimeifazaineiyangdeguanlianzhongjiaowangxialaile，keshi，bqueganjueliangrenzairichangrichangshenghuozhengchaoshihenyiqiezhengchangde，meiyounaweichedibuzhengchaojiuzouwanyishengde。yinci，fenshouhou，bzhujianyingyonggezhonggeyangzhaoshuhefangfa，changshiwanliua。keshi，ajiangleyiju：“xianzaiwoburongyihuijiade，woxuyaolizhiyixia。”

zaineiyangdeshilizhong，azuizhongchangshuode“woyaolizhiyixia”，bianshidianxingxingdehaipayingdui。

neima，ahaipayingduishenme?

hunyinguanxi?ganjuezhengchaomeiyoushenmedeb?

都并不是。

zheixiechangshuobixujingjingdideren，yingduibushangdeshizhengliandemaodunhezhengchao。

 jianyieryan，huazhenqingganzixunshizhapianma？zheileirenquanshimeifalijijiejue“richangshenghuodejibenmaodun”dezhonglei。huanjuhuashuo，dangguanlianzhongchuxianlezhengchaohezhengzhideqingkuangxia，xiangbilijiyingdui，tamengengquxiangyu“duobi”。

 so，dangneiyangyigerenzaiguanlianzhongchengdanbushangneiyangdezhengchaochanshengdegongzuoyalizhishi，bianhuishunlichengzhangdechechuzheiyiduanguanlian。erqie，dabufenzhuangkuangxia，huiyong“woxiangjingjing”yeyangdetuoci，zuoweiduobideyuanyin。

keshi，dajiawubixianqueliyidian：renyurenzhijian，youzhedequanbumibukefendeguanlian，quanshichuangjianzaimaodunyishangde。

 wulunsheigenshei，zaixingfukuailedeguanlian，haowuyiwendoushihuiyouduoduoshaoshaodemaodunqingkuangchuxian，yiweiduobijinguannanyijiejuenanti，danzheizaoyibianchengletadeyizhongxiguanxing。

 jiarunizhengzaoyuzheileizhuangkuang，xianbiezhejizenyangshijicaozuowanliu。niliyingzuodediyijianshi，bianshixianweichiyidingdejianju，bubitaiguojijinpaidexiangyaoquwanliuta。

 ciwai，nizuihaokeyihetashizhetihuishangde“tongping”。huanjuhuashuo，ninengchangshiganshouyixiatazhenduizhengchaohemaodundehaipa，suihoucongzheiyidiankaolv，dadaotihuitongping。

 neiyangzuodeyichujiuqujueyu，nenggouzaishidudelengjingqiyihou，kuaisulajinliangrendejianju。wanliuzheileishier，congtihuishangxiashou，haowuyiwenyaofeichangrongyidaliang。

理智=试着学会放下

lingyizhongtabixujingjingdiqingkuang，jiaoweiduojianyushijianjiaowangjiaoduandeqinglvzhijian。

zaizheileiqingkuangxia，tashuoyaoxiangjingjingdiqingkuangxia，youfeichangdajilvshiyaoxiangxuehuifangxiaduinidejuede，erqiexunzhaoxinganqing。

举个事例看来：

 ahebzaiyiqi2geyue，aquehenzaodejiujinrulepingdanqi。azhujianganjuehebzaiyiqiderizibingmeiyouzishenyiqianxiangyixiangdeneimaxingfu。yinci，axiangbmingquetichuletichufenshou。bzaichijingxianxia，changshixiyinlingyifang。keshi，ajiushuozishenbixulizhiyixia，bixuyiduanshijiankaolvdao。chuziyuduizheiyiniantoudezhongshi，bjinguangesanchawudihaiheayoulianluo，danyemeizaitandaofuhexingdeshier。lejieyigeduoyueyihou，bcaicongcebianfangshihuozhi，azaoyizaichangshiquzhuilingyigerenle。

zheiyishilizhongdea，jiuguishuyu“shizhexuehuifangxia”dezheileizhuangkuangle。

 zheigeshihou，shuobailede“wojuedelizhiyixia”，zhibuguoyejiushiyizhongtuocihetuituo，chediweilegenghaodiweizijidiaojieqingkuang、fangxiaguoquzuozhunbeide。

 so，jiarunipengdaodeshizheiyizhongzhuangkuang，zuizhongyaodeshier，bianshizhudongjingong。rutongwoyiqiantijide，jinzaoyunyongtahaiduinicanliudehaoganduhexintai，zuoyixieshunxiangdeshijicaozuo。yunyongzheizhongxintaishizhequgouqilingyifanghaodetihuihejiyili，zuodaowanliudemudi。